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Old 04-23-2014, 08:55 PM
 
Location: At the Lake (in Texas)
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My gosh! Thank you all so much for your responses! With the exception of a couple, all of you men seem to represent the best possible and it encourages me to hear that men, too, can age well and wise!

I have so many interesting and fun things on my TO DO list in the coming years -- I'm thinking I may have to add one more to this list now.

Your responses and insight are very much appreciated and have given me much to think about and much to look forward to!
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Old 04-23-2014, 08:59 PM
 
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is anyone else disturbed by the fact that an 85 year old man who is cheating on his wife can apparently have his pick of women in his retirement community? WTF goes on there?
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Old 04-23-2014, 09:22 PM
 
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is anyone else disturbed by the fact that an 85 year old man who is cheating on his wife can apparently have his pick of women in his retirement community? WTF goes on there?
If by disturbed, you mean surprised - no, not at all.
Elderly men outnumber elderly women to an extent that the stereotype is true. That's not to say it includes all or even most seniors - far from it. There are just enough desperate women and preening men to keep it going. More than a few of these folks are also suffering from one-or-another form of dementia that knocks down normal inhibitions.
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Old 04-23-2014, 10:55 PM
 
Location: At the Lake (in Texas)
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As I said, with the exception of a couple of comments, most of you "get" it. And yes, the 85-year-old man turned out to be quite despicable...that's why my friend was so upset with him because he had known him as his beloved father-in-law for years and to see this old guy as he apparently "really" was deeply disturbed my friend. Plus the fact that the women he was making fun of were really very sweet grandmotherly types who had no idea the old man was so mean-spirited. They were sweet, they were in the last years of their lives and they were lonely...my friend met several of them and it pained him so to see how sweet they were - no one even knew his wife was still living. Anyway, thank you all (most of you! ) for understanding what I was asking and for your answers which were so thoughtful and enlightening. As I said before, I am very pleasantly surprised.
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Old 04-23-2014, 11:28 PM
 
Location: University City, Philadelphia
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I think the bottom line is if you're going to have intimate relations, by all means only go with someone who respects you and treats you with dignity. It has to be reciprocal in most ways ... I think the attraction should be mutual. Single people who appear, or give off the vibes, as "needy" are often taken advantage of.

On more than one occasion, creepy guys have tried to pick up Officer Clark while he was on duty and in uniform ... and yet wouldn't give him the time of day while he was in plain clothes. I want someone who is attracted to me - not my uniform; they can go home and look at cop porn.
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Old 04-24-2014, 02:10 AM
 
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My gosh! Thank you all so much for your responses! With the exception of a couple, all of you men seem to represent the best possible and it encourages me to hear that men, too, can age well and wise!

I have so many interesting and fun things on my TO DO list in the coming years -- I'm thinking I may have to add one more to this list now.

Your responses and insight are very much appreciated and have given me much to think about and much to look forward to!
beauty..... is only a lightswitch away
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Old 04-24-2014, 05:51 AM
 
Location: Central Massachusetts
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As I said, with the exception of a couple of comments, most of you "get" it. And yes, the 85-year-old man turned out to be quite despicable...that's why my friend was so upset with him because he had known him as his beloved father-in-law for years and to see this old guy as he apparently "really" was deeply disturbed my friend. Plus the fact that the women he was making fun of were really very sweet grandmotherly types who had no idea the old man was so mean-spirited. They were sweet, they were in the last years of their lives and they were lonely...my friend met several of them and it pained him so to see how sweet they were - no one even knew his wife was still living. Anyway, thank you all (most of you! ) for understanding what I was asking and for your answers which were so thoughtful and enlightening. As I said before, I am very pleasantly surprised.

We have to believe in the best in human nature for the majority of the people we encounter. Some are obviously better then others. Me and my does she have a boat comment didnt mean that I am looking to sponge off anyone. It was just the punch line of an old joke that went around years ago (send picture of boat).

Anyway I am sure you will find someone. Be aware though you might need to speak with a doctor prior to any sexual relations. A friend of mine (nurse) in her mid to upper 60's having lived in a sexless marriage for years finally decided to have herself a boyfriend (after divorce). She found that she needed extra moisture since her body had forgotten how to respond. It didnt last long (body response) but it was a bit uncomfortable.

Okay please forgive me the intimate details of the message but it is kind of important.
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Old 04-24-2014, 06:49 AM
 
Location: brooklyn, new york, USA
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i have dated a wide variety of body types and races and have always admired and loved a woman's body. the worst girl i dated was the time when we had sex and i could not have an orgasm with/outside/inside of her. that was unbelievable to even myself, a guy who loves sex as a hobby. she just turned me off too much (her body was too narrow in the hips area and she was flat-chested, thereby "masculine-shaped") but even then i did appreciate her body because it was a woman. i still loved feeling like i was with a woman. that just feels so good speaking as a man.

that guy making fun is a moron. a 20 year old girl looks like 20 and a 60 year old looks 60. that's just how it is. what else would someone expect?
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Old 04-24-2014, 08:50 AM
 
Location: middle tennessee
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The main problem with the block feature is that you can still see them when someone quotes them
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Old 04-24-2014, 09:05 AM
 
Location: Fort Lauderdale, Florida
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Magnolia, get to the gym and lift some weights! Not to change you physically but to help you mentally, give you a little extra confidence.

Plus, it will help your stamina
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