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Old 04-28-2014, 12:19 PM
 
Location: SoCal desert
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I guess some just never outgrow the frat house mentality. Pity!
Ain't it the truth.

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I think this thread is interesting and important and I do enjoy the humorous remarks. Dating and sex is an important issue for single people regardless of their age and it would be nice to get some advice and perspective on this issue. What I have found disheartening at this age is that most men assume that because I am a single, older woman, I am desperate and immediately start making inappropriate remarks about my "needs" and how they can "help me out". It's not only insulting, it's creepy. Any other single women here have that experience?
I have. The nicest thing I say to them is asking if their Mother never taught them any manners. But I'm usually not very nice about it.
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Old 04-28-2014, 08:35 PM
 
Location: Sarasota Florida
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I imagine a LTR for an 85 y/o is up to 72 hrs. or when ever the Cialis wears off.
LOL but not untrue
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Old 04-29-2014, 03:48 AM
 
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is cialis the 4 hour one? thats the one i would want.

i would love nothing more than walking into a crowded doctors office and going ,coming through , make a path.

ooooops sorry about the lamp doc. ha ha ha
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Old 04-30-2014, 06:05 PM
 
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I spent some time in Az in the Green Valley area last year, met some really nice people that seemed to forget themselves in that retirement state of mind. My wife and I were in the habit of going to happy hour at a local watering hole where we were considered the youthful ones lol, she 71 and me 69. The single women there seemed to have found a paradise of available men to chat with, go out with and just be friends with. My wife and me were booth single when we met, our spouses were deceased and we'd "been out there" as George Costanza of Seinfeld fame once called it, the dating scene was difficult for us as oldsters and many of the men my wife had met were all too often still in their sophomoric state of mind with men woman relations.

Go to where the men are, I mean those men who aren't thinking of themselves as some great catch, just regular guys of age who realize the short time we all have left now. Many men whom I've talked with admit their reluctance to dating, for the same reasons you've mentioned that often characterize the woman's point of view, fear of criticism and rejection. Don't ever give up looking for that which makes you happy, some have spent an entire lifetime often doing otherwise.
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Old 05-01-2014, 06:23 PM
 
Location: At the Lake (in Texas)
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I spent some time in Az in the Green Valley area last year, met some really nice people that seemed to forget themselves in that retirement state of mind. My wife and I were in the habit of going to happy hour at a local watering hole where we were considered the youthful ones lol, she 71 and me 69. The single women there seemed to have found a paradise of available men to chat with, go out with and just be friends with. My wife and me were booth single when we met, our spouses were deceased and we'd "been out there" as George Costanza of Seinfeld fame once called it, the dating scene was difficult for us as oldsters and many of the men my wife had met were all too often still in their sophomoric state of mind with men woman relations.

Go to where the men are, I mean those men who aren't thinking of themselves as some great catch, just regular guys of age who realize the short time we all have left now. Many men whom I've talked with admit their reluctance to dating, for the same reasons you've mentioned that often characterize the woman's point of view, fear of criticism and rejection. Don't ever give up looking for that which makes you happy, some have spent an entire lifetime often doing otherwise.

Couldn't rep you again, so I wanted to say here: Thank you for this post. Well said and much to consider.
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Old 05-02-2014, 12:19 AM
 
Location: NYC
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I have not dated in years...family issues, family illness, and then after a few years I really didn't feel I wanted to be in a relationship. I have a full life and, in past years, I dated a lot of nice guys but I never felt I wanted to get serious and certainly didn't want to remarry.
Now that I am approaching retirement in a few years, I have begun to think that perhaps I would enjoy having a man in my life again...the time seems to be right and I would enjoy a partner, I think, to do things with and to have an intimate relationship again.
Okay, now here's the situation: I look nice for my age (62), but my body has aged like most people's bodies certainly do -- I have not been intimate with a man since the mid-90s and I have changed a lot.
Wow, I read this & I could've written this exactly word for word (although I am a guy & the genders would be reversed.) It is tough to jump back into the pool with these new insecurities, it's also difficult to meet appropriate potential partners. Good subject.

I also enjoyed the humor, or attempts at some fun. Some people obviously are humor-challenged, relax & loosen up.
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Old 05-02-2014, 10:20 AM
 
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Old dude knocking boots saying Bess, Bess, Bess...Grandma gets mad and ask who is Bess? Old dude thinks for a moment and says I meant YES, YES, YES.. Old dude back to knocking boots grandma ask what's my name, what's my name? He says Bess. That's when grandma remembered how to cuss someone out.
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Old 05-04-2014, 03:30 PM
 
Location: Hot Springs
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"Life isn't about hiding from the storms, it's about dancing in the rain."

This is an interesting thread and I have nothing to add, but I thought the above quote from an earlier post was well worth repeating.

uh
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Old 05-05-2014, 07:30 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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Magnolia,

After you retire and can take stock of your situation, maybe just hang out informally in mixed groups for a while, getting your bearings and discovering your authentic style, both physical and social. Most of us have a lot of insecurities about both when it comes to dating. We're not young but we're not done, either. Every small step you make with interactions will eventually lead to something worthwhile, then intimacy naturally follows.
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Old 05-05-2014, 07:49 PM
 
Location: At the Lake (in Texas)
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Magnolia,

After you retire and can take stock of your situation, maybe just hang out informally in mixed groups for a while, getting your bearings and discovering your authentic style, both physical and social. Most of us have a lot of insecurities about both when it comes to dating. We're not young but we're not done, either. Every small step you make with interactions will eventually lead to something worthwhile, then intimacy naturally follows.
Thanks for this post...yes, I agree...if it happens, it will happen "organically"...
I have really been encouraged by all the posts (or most of them anyway) here...I very much appreciate the thoughtful and earnest responses, especially I have to say from the men who responded.

That being said, however . . . I will not be above having any potentials investigated. I watch too many of those forensic dramas and "Who the Bleep Did I Marry" programs! Yikes!
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