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Old 04-29-2014, 07:24 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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This is just about as offensive a post as I've seen recently. And "Their [sic] like puppies" ?????
Here I was feeling all warm and fuzzy from another thread I posted, just beginning to believe that with age men really DO grow up and become partner material...

If your wife is 28 years your junior, and you expect the above from her, and think of her as a trainable dog, then I'm thinking you must have some big bucks.
I can't escape the impression that poster Alpineprince was just trying to yank your chain. I don't mean "your" in the singular, but anybody's chain who would react. Some posters amuse themselves with such posts, and are quite aware of how other people view them.

That is conjecture on my part, of course, as I can't look into his mind and know what he's really thinking, just as none of us can know what his actual relationship with his much younger wife is like.
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Old 04-29-2014, 07:25 PM
 
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Do you teach them to speak English yourself, or does the agency take care of that?

Thanks Jakabedy, you took the words right out of my mouth!!!! LOL.
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Old 04-29-2014, 08:30 PM
 
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I can't escape the impression that poster Alpineprince was just trying to yank your chain. I don't mean "your" in the singular, but anybody's chain who would react. Some posters amuse themselves with such posts, and are quite aware of how other people view them.

That is conjecture on my part, of course, as I can't look into his mind and know what he's really thinking, just as none of us can know what his actual relationship with his much younger wife is like.
Agreed, no one knows exactly the thought process, but reading his other posts, this was not a facetious post. I understand him to truly believe what he posts.
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Old 04-29-2014, 09:21 PM
 
Location: Miraflores
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I am in the same position (wife is 28 years younger) and this is what I recommend!
1. Don't turn on the lights in the bedroom when getting ready for work.
2. Squeeze fresh orange juice or make a fruit salad every morning except weekends.
3. FRESH COFFEE PLEASE!
4. Don't call 10 times a day to see how I am doing.
5. Never come home in the afternoon without warning.
6. Tell him every day "seeing him happy, makes you happy".
7. When you get home and are making dinner, do not bore him with "work problems".
8. When packing his bags for Florida, be sure to pack extra sunblock.
Good luck, I've had two wives so far in retirement and have learned their like puppies, you must train them early!
I was just making a recommendation based on what works for me.
#4 would make me happy but I understand "Latina Jealousy" and put up with it.
#5 just being facetious.
#6 wishful thinking
#7 I generally cook dinner but have to hear about Hospital problems regardless.
#8 I would never want to travel without my wife and children.
As far as the marriage goes, we have been happily married for over 10 years, have a 9 y/o son who brings us tremendous joy and are planning to have our 2nd child (my third) in 2015.
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Old 04-29-2014, 10:27 PM
 
Location: Native Floridian, USA
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This is just about as offensive a post as I've seen recently. And "Their [sic] like puppies" ?????
Here I was feeling all warm and fuzzy from another thread I posted, just beginning to believe that with age men really DO grow up and become partner material...

If your wife is 28 years your junior, and you expect the above from her, and think of her as a trainable dog, then I'm thinking you must have some big bucks.
I guess I was offended, too, (LOL) but I did laugh......
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Old 04-30-2014, 12:29 AM
 
Location: New Mexico
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I'm curious how it's worked out for those married people who have had one person retire and the other one continue working full time. My husband is retiring in a few months and I'm keeping my job, partly because I like what I do and also because I'm younger than he is and not eligible for S.S. yet. He's talking about spending time somewhere warm for a month this winter and I'm like Hello? I'm still working! Any feedback or pitfalls to avoid?

You never know how long your spouse will live or be healthy enough to do things with you. My parents had big plans for retirement but were unable to do any of it thanks to Alzheimer's. Their retirement was sharing a room in a nursing home. I decided I would not go that route and was fortunate enough to retire early and spend time with my wife who was several years older. She died seven years after I retired but we had seven good years in retirement. I would have still been working when she died if I had held on until the usual retirement age.
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Old 04-30-2014, 02:26 AM
 
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I'm curious how it's worked out for those married people who have had one person retire and the other one continue working full time. My husband is retiring in a few months and I'm keeping my job, partly because I like what I do and also because I'm younger than he is and not eligible for S.S. yet. He's talking about spending time somewhere warm for a month this winter and I'm like Hello? I'm still working! Any feedback or pitfalls to avoid?
I retired 7 years ago, the wife being 10yrs younger has no plans to retire, all those things i thought we were going to do i have to do myself or squeeze in a vacation when she has time off.
Of course since she works and i dont i now have to do her share of household chores because "some of us have to work" is a frequent phrase. Retiring while your spouse continues to work leaves the retiring person with a lot of alone time..
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Old 04-30-2014, 11:06 AM
 
Location: SoCal
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DH has been 'de facto' retired since the recession. He manages to keep hiimself busy, and takes wonderful care of me. He has, a few times, taken trips by himself over two or three weeks on his motorcycle. I would have no problem if he decided he wanted to take short trips.

But after our financial guy said I didn't need to keep working for money, DH said, "I'm tired of waiting - I want to travel, and to do it with you." So I'll be retiring a couple of years early.
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Old 04-30-2014, 11:10 AM
 
Location: SW Florida
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Originally Posted by MagnoliaThunder View Post
This is just about as offensive a post as I've seen recently. And "Their [sic] like puppies" ?????
Here I was feeling all warm and fuzzy from another thread I posted, just beginning to believe that with age men really DO grow up and become partner material...

If your wife is 28 years your junior, and you expect the above from her, and think of her as a trainable dog, then I'm thinking you must have some big bucks.
I'm thinking the post you're responding to is either mostly, or entirely "tongue-in-cheek"....
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Old 05-01-2014, 03:54 PM
 
Location: SW MO
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For medical reasons my wife retired six years earlier than I did, and I'm a couple of years older than she is. I was always the high earner so I kept working but did retire two years earlier than originally planned. Good thing because three years later I was hit with a neurological condition I'm still recovering from. At least I had those three years rather than just one in retirement. Truly life can be what happens when you've made other plans.
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