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Old 05-09-2014, 01:11 PM
 
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i went to a reunion a long time ago (maybe my 15th?) and found a way to have some fun. Each person that I talked to would eventually ask me what I was doing (I lived about 1500 miles away). I decided to tell each person that asked a different story. I was living in Washington, D.C. so I told some that I had various jobs involving the federal government (usually some sort of consulting work). Other "jobs" that I held included teaching at a small college, a vendor at gun and knife shows, book store owner, hair dresser, and private detective. It made for a fun evening.
Wow....that sounds like a good way for someone to get some good lyin' practice in without any consequences....
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Old 05-09-2014, 02:48 PM
 
Location: Ponte Vedra Beach FL
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Here's a question: When you went to your reunions, especially the later ones (10+) did you find that the girls who were considered the most attractive ones in highschool did or did not "age well"? ;-)

Because one thing I noticed when I went to mine was that the gals who at 17 or 18 looked like flashy 21's (to the envy of little mice such as myself, LOL) and were often rather, er, voluptuous ;-) .... really did NOT age very well a few decades down the road, LOL. Whereas many of the girls who were never given a second look in highschool often looked absolutely great in their 30s and beyond.
If you're not beautiful to start with - you can't lose your beauty . I'm in this category. Far from a beauty when I was younger. So not a lot of looks to lose . Robyn
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Old 05-09-2014, 03:01 PM
 
Location: Ponte Vedra Beach FL
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One thing to consider, for those of you who are wavering re attending big-number reunions: If you don't go, you may find yourself with lots of unanswered questions and regrets later. Whereas if you do attend, it may be wonderful, or it may be a dud of an experience, leaving you either happy that you went, or chalking up the less-than-great experience as just one of those things from which to move on and leave behind.

But you'll never know - unless you go. Remember, your presence may be part of what makes the reunion special for others - you're not there just to be entertained or to absorb whatever's happening - you're there to be part of it yourself and to provide your own input.

Yes, some folks typically don't want to share much more than career and grandchild info. That's fine, and that's on the safe side, usually. Such social niceties are socially acceptable and have their place at such events. But I'd recommend involving yourself in somewhat deeper conversations with those classmates that seem open to such and appear to be interesting people, who may have followed unexpected paths in the last fifty years.

Typically they're not the ones who drew acclaim fifty years ago, and they're much more interesting for it. Get to know these people - the creative, off-beat ones who didn't fit into the neat little high school student mold way back when, and who found themselves years later. Find out what makes them tick, who they are now and how they got there.

In my own high school, a rather shy boy from a year behind me became a CIA agent. Another, a good-looking jock sort, went into the military and rose to the highest ranks. A reasonably popular, bright but not very well-heeled girl now teaches college, has a farm, and raises a rather distinct sort of farm animals, having successfully reared her only child with her physician husband. Another girl overcame serious physical special needs to achieve great recognition and respect in her field. A former straight-arrow band member went the flower child route, then wound up being a highly successful craftsman and creative artist.

These are the people you'll be glad you got to know better. Nothing wrong with talking with the former high school stars who are still doing well - that's great - but the ones who've overcome and/or achieved outside the foreseeable fields are far more interesting.
The "Peggy Sue Got Married" version of things (if any of you have missed the movie - watch it "yesterday" ).

FWIW - this person was perhaps the strangest most famous/infamous person in my high school class:

Andrea Dworkin - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

I was a typical nerd - but she was really weird. In terms of my college and law school classes - the number of famous/infamous people increased (and most weren't weird). Robyn
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Old 05-09-2014, 03:12 PM
 
Location: Ponte Vedra Beach FL
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I don't know whether we men "get better looking after a certain age" or not, but your examples don't do much to make the negative case. I don't know of anything which is more age variable among either sex that hair loss in men. By age 35 some men have very, very pronounced hair loss - that is, a chrome dome with hair around the sides. Others retain very good heads of hair into their seventies. I am 70 and have a slightly receding hair line but a pretty good head of hair still left.

Yes, with age we men need to keep our nose hairs trimmed. That is just part of personal hygiene and grooming, and I would no more forego that than I would forego applying underarm deodorant after showering. So that is not an argument that men look bad with age except among men who do not keep their nose hairs trimmed, and those who don't are slobs. Ditto for the eyebrows - one can easily keep them trimmed as necessary.
I'll never fault a guy for losing his hair - there's no help for it. I can fault a guy for not doing the basic hygiene stuff you mentioned or becoming a fat slob. Or doing ridiculous things to pretend you have hair (like comb overs) when you don't. In case there's any doubt about genes and hair - here's a picture of my late FIL when he was 83 - about a year before he died. He had 2 kinds of cancer - had suffered a stroke - but had great hair genes:

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Old 05-09-2014, 07:05 PM
 
Location: Dover, DE
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No way. Didn't like most of the people when I was in school, don't expect to like them any better now. There is no one that I would care to see. They had a 25th and I didn't attend that either. Won't be until 2020 anyhow.
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Old 05-09-2014, 07:18 PM
 
Location: Ouachita Mtns of Arkansas
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I did not attend my 50th. Too many people. Over 800 in my graduating class, although over 130 have died. I'm going to wait for the next 50th. Then I'll go. It should not be too crowded.
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Old 05-13-2014, 01:56 PM
 
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I did not attend my 50th. Too many people. Over 800 in my graduating class, although over 130 have died. I'm going to wait for the next 50th. Then I'll go. It should not be too crowded.

"Nobody goes to Toots Shor's anymore. It's too crowded."

- Yogi Berra
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Old 07-06-2014, 08:34 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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There is a current thread in the Non-Romantic Relationships Forum which is almost the same as this one except it doesn't focus on the 50th reunion. It has to do with whether people are interested in going to their high school reunions in general.

I was a bit surprised by the amount and intensity of the bitterness in that other forum. So many people had a very bad time in high school and so they have no desire to go back among the people who had been their tormenters. I don't blame them for refusing to go to the reunions; I just think it's sad that so many people have so many negative memories of their high school years.

Here's a link to the other thread: High School Reunions-Do you Even Bother?
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Old 07-06-2014, 09:40 AM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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It's very obvious that high school was a very painful period for many many people. Most would just as soon forget it and the people there. Then there are some who have fond memories and keep up with old friends on Facebook and have no desire for more than that. I know a few are so excited for this 50th they simply cannot wait. But I think more would just as soon skip it all together.
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Old 07-06-2014, 12:52 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I didn't enjoy my 10th so 50th is out. There were 850 in my graduating class.
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