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Old 05-08-2014, 09:31 AM
Location: Upstate NY
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Originally Posted by Teddy52 View Post


I don't mean to sound cruel, ....

You failed.

Your generalization about the "wealthy" elderly lady and the "poor" woman in the city has holes, too. Also, how do you know the income of either? I'm sure the poor woman has plenty of programs that add to her household income. If not in her state, then she should move to NY.

What an odd comparison.
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Old 05-08-2014, 09:34 AM
Location: NC
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The only effect age would have in my opinion is that the older person is more likely to become temporarily incapacitated by minor accidents, etc. That is the time he/she might appreciate a helping hand, but this should be rare.
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Old 05-08-2014, 09:41 AM
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Originally Posted by Happy in Wyoming View Post
Who would rather live next door to the "single" mother (parthenogenesis?) instead of the nice old lady who's conservative in her expenditures? Whom would most people help? A lady who has lived a long and honorable life deserves our consideration; the other deserves nothing. The latter is reaping what she wished to have sown.
The affluent elderly have lived a LONG life, granted. HONOR has nothing to do with age or financial status. Nor does being nice or conservative.
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Old 05-08-2014, 09:52 AM
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When one can easily afford for a service, why should one expect volunteers to do it for free ?

( key words being afford and expect )
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Old 05-08-2014, 10:11 AM
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both should be able to afford it if they are in homes and not apts. the younger one knew what she was getting into by renting a sfh and the older one needs to move to an apt if cant afford to pay someone to mow. there are many in both situations who pay, as my son can attest--because he is doing the work.

nothing wrong with an occasional helping hand for either one, but not all the time.
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Old 05-08-2014, 10:25 AM
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Originally Posted by TheShadow View Post
I agree, it is upon the homeowner to maintain their property or pay to have it done. I don't think relying on the kindness of strangers is the way to go simply because one is old. Many people will help an elderly person for free, but that is their choice to do so. On the other hand, the young single mom could always borrow the next door neighbor's mower too. Being female or poor is no excuse.
Yep; it not practical to own when you can't afford the basics. That is one of reason we got in trouble in this recession ;trying to spread wealth and ended up spreading poverty .
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Old 05-08-2014, 11:26 AM
Location: California
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My experience is specific to the Bay Area which leaves me puzzled about some of the responses. We are recently retired and have noticed with the passing years that some see us targets. When we called a company to have our leaky water heater looked at, the punk who arrived just said we spilled water and walked off. The second company replaced the water heater but what we didn't know until a year later, when it also leaked, was that it was refurbished. Repair people that have come to our home have stolen our tools and taken a deposit only to disappear. It also seems the medical community likes to make seniors wait by using Medicare rationing and then trying to sell us expensive tests which we very clearly do not need.

To anyone who honestly helps a senior, thank you. Living on fixed income and not knowing who to trust is a problem for many. It isn't always about just paying a fair price. If you don't want to give a senior a hand then please don't as there is no reason to complain it after the fact.
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Old 05-08-2014, 11:36 AM
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not many wealthy seniors getting ripped off by a $35 lawn mowing .
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Old 05-08-2014, 11:41 AM
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Originally Posted by Teddy52 View Post
I don't know if this belongs in the Real Estate forum or the Rants and Raves thread, but it concerns retired people.

I serve as a volunteer on a committee that deals with enforcement of ordinances in a community that the majority are retired. What I have noticed is many on the committee ( who are retirees also ) seem to be of the opinion that if you are old, therefore you are poor and should be given special consideration.

When the elderly lady driving the Cadillac has her grass grow too tall, everyone states there should be volunteers or a church should be contacted and volunteers sent to help.

However, when the struggling single mother in the other part of town has her 10 year old push mower break down no one feels sorry for her.

She is waiting for the next used $25 push mower to show up in the want ads.

Our community has MANY reasonably priced lawn care people in business. That single mother sure doesn't have the $35 it takes to pay for a service yet gets no sympathy ( or free pass on violating the lawn ordinance )

The wealthy retired lady does despite having a house worth 4 times the single mother and a retirement pension that makes that single mother's paycheck look measly.

I am of the opinion when you age and are a homeowner, taking care of lawn, snow removal etc..." goes with the territory" and is the reason many people move to a condo or town home.

I don't mean to sound cruel, but when one is wealthy why is it necessary for people to find volunteers for them when they easily have the means to hire a service to keep them compliant.

(imho) I have more sympathy for the young ,able bodied person with the broken down lawn mower in a rental house.
I agree totally. Some people seem to think just because they are old they are entitled to something. It's as bad as some of the handicapped thinking only because they are handicapped, they should not have to pay for parking, license plates etc. Everyone should attempt, the best they can, to look out for themselves but conversely, all of us should help out those who need it and are grateful.
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Old 05-08-2014, 11:57 AM
Location: Sierra Nevada Land, CA
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And then on the other hand, the old lady in question might be getting demented and is letter her property go.
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