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Old 05-09-2014, 10:27 PM
 
Location: Whereever we have our RV parked
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Last time I saw one of my HS buddies was back in Dallas about 15 years ago. He made it big in investment banking. Bragged to me about his million dollar attorneys fees from his divorce and the 3 women he claimed he had sex with, each multiple times in the last week. What an ass. I cut off all contact with him.
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Old 05-09-2014, 11:32 PM
 
Location: Haiku
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I moved out of my home town when I went to college and never looked back. One friend from HS contacted me a couple years ago and sends me updates every now and then. It is a bit sad, from my perspective. Apparently a lot of my HS chums basically have lived their whole lives in the same city. Never have experienced other places and other people. Kind of interesting what we each choose to do with our lives.
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Old 05-10-2014, 05:13 AM
 
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I have kept in touch with two of my friends from home over the internet for about 20 years.
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Old 05-10-2014, 06:35 AM
 
Location: in the miseries
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I'm in my 60's and have no friends from school left, half have died, 1/4 have moved out of the area, and the other 1/4 I've lost contact with them.
Would you want to reconnect?

As we get older so few are left.
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Old 05-10-2014, 06:37 AM
 
Location: in the miseries
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My parents always had life long friends. So, naturally, as a kid, I expected to have my childhood friends become life long friends. Despite my best efforts, it didn't happen. My family moved away when I was 16 but that didn't concern me. After all, despite moving a few times, my parents still retained their long-time friends. Yet, for me, I did all I could to keep the communication going but eventually, one by one, they stopped communicating. That saddened me.

Right now, I am still in touch with one of my college roommates. We are at the point where we communicate once a year. Yet, she knows that if she's ever in town and needed a place to say, she can stay with us. The reverse is true as we have visited her.
That's the way it should be IMO.
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Old 05-10-2014, 06:39 AM
 
Location: in the miseries
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My high school friends and I keep in touch, even though we have been apart for 40 years. Surprising but it shouldn't be that they are still the same people they were back then. Just older as I am. I like that. We remember each other's parents and encourage each other through the loss of our parents and siblings.
So few people are left that remember the good old days. Especially you as a child, siblings, parents.
These relationships should be nurtured.
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Old 05-10-2014, 09:02 AM
 
Location: Columbia SC
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The older we get it seems we lose our friends.
Some to death, dementia. Or just plain moving away.
Do you have friends from early days or all new ones?
My wife and I moved about the country a few times so we did not age with those we knew when younger. We did move back to her hometown area but as she had not lived there for 45 years, she did not associated with any one there except family.

Bottom line is our friends over the years have always been new friends.
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Old 05-10-2014, 10:12 AM
 
Location: Up North in God's Country
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Yes, I guess I'm lucky. I moved around the country a lot due to my career. After I retired, I moved back to the city where I grew up as my parents could not live alone anymore...and I was the single daughter.

My closest childhood friend and two other close friends still live here, so we see each other often. Also, I bump into other people who I went to school with. It's always so surprising, as usually I do not recognize them...and I'm sure they do not recognize me either.

I miss the friends I made in other parts of the country, but we keep in touch on the phone.
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Old 05-10-2014, 11:49 AM
 
Location: Glenbogle
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If by youth you mean from highschool, or even from before age 21 (I didn't go to college until I was in my 30s), nope.... not a one.

I had a very small group of friends (less than a dozen) in childhood and highschool and we all went our different ways after graduation day.

The "oldest" (meaning the one I have known the longest) is a gal who was a neighbor during the early 1970s when we were in our first house and I was in my early 30s. She's ten years older than I am and got divorced during the 80s but is still living here on LI. There's another gal, also divorced, that I've known since the late 1980s; we met while in line for Santa Claus with our respective kids when they were about four years old, lol.
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Old 05-10-2014, 01:30 PM
 
Location: San Diego
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An old saying that makes sense to me: There's no friends like old friends.

My family moved around quite a bit and I ended up in three different high schools in the midwest and New England. My only remaining contact from those days is the best man at my wedding (from high school & college days). It's too bad but not surprising.
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