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Old 05-11-2014, 09:28 AM
 
Location: in the miseries
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Lots have died, unfortunately. I suppose that I should start making younger friends.
My Bh's friends now all seem to be 10 years younger than him.
At least some of them ought to outlast him.
His bff from elementary school died 5 years ago.
Makes you think.
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Old 05-11-2014, 11:48 AM
 
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Yes - from high school. We've kept in touch even though we are far away from one another and they came to visit me last year! It was a blast. I'm in touch with 2 from grade school and years ago, one of them came to visit me.
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Old 05-11-2014, 02:32 PM
 
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This is interesting. It is a very peer group and family dependent thing. For instance my HS class - about 50% have taken advantage of modern internet communications to stay in touch. We will have our 45th reunion this year. Before the 40th, the reunions were pretty small. But the internet and life finally coalesced, ya know.

But I switched HS midway through. The one I graduated from - a great class. The other - nobody there I want to talk to ever again. No thank you. They have reunions too - but without me.

Some people I know have had friends since childhood. Most don't. I don't. The first friends I've been able to make and keep are those in that 2nd HS.

At my age, the die-off (sorry to be so blunt) is just beginning. We've lost a few. I remember when my Grandpa was "the last man standing" among his family and peers of his youth.

I've made much more rigorous attempts to stay in touch with friends and family over the past 20 years then I did in the previous 20 years. And more than ever today. It is important.
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Old 05-11-2014, 02:48 PM
 
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I visited my mom today (mothers day)...The old neighborhood.
Most of my friends still live in their parents basement...(They are almost 60 years old.)
Its kinda awkward....
I feel like I don't belong...
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Old 05-11-2014, 02:52 PM
 
Location: Sacramento
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I briefly reconnected with some of my childhood friends via facebook, and while I enjoyed being able to get an update from them the relationships were over. Nothing hostile at all, we just all had long ago evolved in our own directions and had families and friends that didn't exist back then.

On the other hand, my wife and I went out on our first date when she was 17 and I was 18, so I guess I have one friend I've kept from childhood.
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Old 05-11-2014, 03:33 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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I visited my mom today (mothers day)...The old neighborhood.
Most of my friends still live in their parents basement...(They are almost 60 years old.)
Its kinda awkward....
I feel like I don't belong...
I am intrigued by that, dr57. How many old friends still live in their parents' basement? Is there a common reason for that failure to thrive? Did some of them live on their own for a while, then move back in? Any Vietnam vets with PTSD? Would you have been able to guess back in high school that it would come to this? Of those who still live with parents, how many have a job and contribute to the household?
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Old 05-11-2014, 03:40 PM
 
Location: Ft. Myers
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I haven't seen any of my old buddies in years. About 30 years ago I decided to look up one of my best friends from when I was in my teens. He was a crazy guy and we did a lot of stupid teen stuff together and dated a lot of the same girls. There wasn't a day we weren't together.

I found his number and called him and he was like a total stranger. He was now a school teacher and was very "proper and reserved" on the phone, not like the wildman I once knew. I actually got off the phone depressed because he was so different.

They say you can never go home again, and I guess that is true, at least in my experience. Some memories are best left to just that, memories.

Don
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Old 05-11-2014, 09:28 PM
 
Location: Montgomery County, PA
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I have found out that reconnecting with long lost friends is fleeting. You at first are elated, exchange a few messages, reminisce a bit then nothing. You are just content that you found him or her and go on about your life.
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Old 05-11-2014, 09:33 PM
 
Location: southern california
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I looked up my child hood friend when I found him he said
Why are you calling
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Old 05-12-2014, 05:02 AM
 
Location: in the miseries
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I looked up my child hood friend when I found him he said
Why are you calling
Oh Huck, that's so sad.
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