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Old 05-12-2014, 10:46 AM
 
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Sometimes, I think it is not political correctness as much as trying to be sensitive to others who may have dealt with a loss such as the death of a child.
Hate to say so Ani, but that's exactly what political correctness is born from.
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Old 05-12-2014, 11:10 AM
 
Location: State of Being
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Hate to say so Ani, but that's exactly what political correctness is born from.
Good point, OLD_COLD!

I think of political correctness as being the way to avoid lawsuits, lol. I guess I never thought about it as being kindness and sensitivity on steroids.
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Old 05-12-2014, 11:21 AM
 
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Well, this was a downer.

Amen
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Old 05-12-2014, 11:22 AM
 
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Thanks so much for this post. I am not a mother to humans, but have worked in animal rescue and been a pet owner all my life. That is a worthy role in its own right, yet non mothers are frequently belittled on occasions such as these because we "aren't REAL mothers." I believe we should celebrate the nuturing behaviors of everyone: fathers, mothers, sisters, brothers, friends, etc. . .
The guys get theirs next month
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Old 05-12-2014, 11:25 AM
 
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I am sure you have read many times that for some folks, Mother's Day is not such a happy occasion.

In fact, for many, it is filled with conflicting emotions.

For those who have lost their Mother, this may be a time of reflection and sweet memories. For others, it may be a time of regret and even anger -- if Mother was absent, mentally ill, or suffered from addictions and addictive behaviors.

If Mom is still alive, it can be a difficult time -- either because of her senior age and the thoughts of losing her . . . or because of estrangement and thoughts of how incapable a mother she has always been.

For Mothers themselves, it can be a time of reminiscence or sad recollection. Not every mother is in close contact with her children. Getting that card or call can feel empty and rather meaningless if it is a gesture done from obligation rather than genuine celebration of the day.

And for Mothers who have lost their children, whether to death or to adoption or estrangement or stillbirth, it can the most painful of days.

So it isn't always a Happy Mother's Day, for many reasons.

Nevertheless, the tradition continues, lol!!!

Blessings to all mothers . . . even the ones who have fallen short.

And special blessings to those mothers who have lost a child.

For all of us, we are here because a mother labored to bring us into this world. Not all Mothers are created equal . . . some are better suited to the role than others. Regardless of how you fit into Mother's Day . . . I hope you are filled with peace and joy for all living things today, including Mother Earth!

Happy Mother's Day!

NOT a downer as another poster suggests, imo. Well thought out and beautifully stated.
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Old 05-12-2014, 12:12 PM
 
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Anyone else dread mothers day

On a more serious note, there is a thread in the Non-Romantic Relationships Forum entitled "Anyone else dread mothers' day?" (I hope the link above works, in case anyone is interested.)

My point is that it is a good thing to be aware of, and compassionate towards, people whose situations may make the Mothers' Day holiday extremely painful. It is sort of analogous to being aware of and/or praying for those who may be hungry on Thanksgiving Day. I can see where some may consider it a "downer" but I see it more as encompassing the entire range of our fellow human beings. That is the light in which I view the original post in this thread - not at all as an attempt to be negative, but as an attempt to be compassionate.

Ultimately, being Pollyannaish is not grounded in reality. Acknowledging that some cannot have a relationship with their cruel, abusive, hostile, and dysfunctional mothers should not take away the joy of those celebrating their gratitude towards their mothers; rather, it should enhance that joy.
Yes, be grateful if your mother did her best and was there for you!

I meant to check out the other post you mentioned . . . will go do that.

I feel bad that a day that is supposed to be happy and filled with love is often painful for people, for many and varied reasons.
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Old 05-12-2014, 12:35 PM
 
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Everybody has a mother somewhere, even if you aren't a mother yourself. I think the best way to make it your day is to honor your mother even if she wasn't anywhere near perfect. If for no other reason than she carried you and gave you life.
There are so many who didn't make it that far.

If she was bad, make it a day of forgiveness but at least honor her for the fact that you are alive.
Don't mean to turn this into a debate but just wanted to give even the "bad" mothers a little credit and something to be proud of.
They might not like you but someone is alive and breathing because of you.
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Old 05-12-2014, 01:14 PM
 
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Everybody has a mother somewhere, even if you aren't a mother yourself. I think the best way to make it your day is to honor your mother even if she wasn't anywhere near perfect. If for no other reason than she carried you and gave you life.
There are so many who didn't make it that far.

If she was bad, make it a day of forgiveness but at least honor her for the fact that you are alive.
Don't mean to turn this into a debate but just wanted to give even the "bad" mothers a little credit and something to be proud of.
They might not like you but someone is alive and breathing because of you.
excellent point.

and I recall the days that on Mother's Day the ladies would wear a white corsage to honor their mother who had passed away and a colorful corsage to celebrate their mother who was still alive. At church not too long ago when I lived in GA, the church members made corsages and took them to the ladies in nearby nursing homes. thought it was nice and know the elderly ladies appreciated it.
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Old 05-12-2014, 03:25 PM
 
Location: State of Being
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Everybody has a mother somewhere, even if you aren't a mother yourself. I think the best way to make it your day is to honor your mother even if she wasn't anywhere near perfect. If for no other reason than she carried you and gave you life.
There are so many who didn't make it that far.

If she was bad, make it a day of forgiveness but at least honor her for the fact that you are alive.
Don't mean to turn this into a debate but just wanted to give even the "bad" mothers a little credit and something to be proud of.
They might not like you but someone is alive and breathing because of you.
A lovely message!

I like your suggestion about forgiveness--sometimes, that is the best gift we can give ourselves!

Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
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Old 05-12-2014, 03:27 PM
 
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excellent point.

and I recall the days that on Mother's Day the ladies would wear a white corsage to honor their mother who had passed away and a colorful corsage to celebrate their mother who was still alive. At church not too long ago when I lived in GA, the church members made corsages and took them to the ladies in nearby nursing homes. thought it was nice and know the elderly ladies appreciated it.
What a sweet gesture!

I think we should bring back the corsage tradition. Or maybe I should say -- introduce it to those who have never heard about it.
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