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Old 07-09-2014, 07:15 AM
 
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I don't know if it's a crisis.....but whatever it is, I guess it's evidenced by not being retired, in fact being about 10 years from retirement -- and yet reading the 'retirement' board.

I'm 54 and I don't want to work anymore. I'm burned out mentally, have health and care issues I'm overseeing long distance concerning my 88 year old mom, and my mind and interest are just not about work anymore. Yet I have at least 8 more years until age 62.

I think about retirement -- or more exactly not working -- everyday.
You know, -- the "if only I could get 3 months off" mindset. It's hard to get time off from work, and I couldn't get the kind of time I want anyway, so why bother.

My 'crisis' will be staying sane for another 10 years...all the while hating having to work.
I have no doubt it's related to the additional issues with mom, but once that's no longer the case, there'll be other issues....for example, seeing after the family home long distance.

I guess I've been thrown so, because to be honest until I hit my mid 50s -- being single with no kids and in good health -- life was excellent I had no cares, no responsibilities or demands on my time....and I was spoiled I guess.
Can you put all your vacation together and get an extended break?
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Old 07-09-2014, 09:30 AM
 
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I did not have a mid life crisis, but was the victim of my ex-husband's mid life crisis. All things happen for a reason...he is now with a stupid, overweight, non-productive woman and in a mountain of debt. I am with a good hard-working, great looking man and we own our home and cars....no debt. So much for mid life....looking forward to the last trimester.
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Old 07-09-2014, 10:50 AM
 
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I did not have a mid life crisis, but was the victim of my ex-husband's mid life crisis. All things happen for a reason...he is now with a stupid, overweight, non-productive woman and in a mountain of debt. I am with a good hard-working, great looking man and we own our home and cars....no debt. So much for mid life....looking forward to the last trimester.
You are the winner here!
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Old 07-09-2014, 05:25 PM
 
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I am having a midlife crisis right now. I am 42 and my wife is 32. We've been married for 11 years and those have been the best years of my life. But now she wants to have a baby and I do not. There is a good chance that we will divorce over this issue. I cannot imagine what my life will be like without her, but I am horrified when I think about the burdens and responsibilities of raising a child. It looks like this will go badly for me either way.
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Old 07-10-2014, 07:05 AM
 
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I am having a midlife crisis right now. I am 42 and my wife is 32. We've been married for 11 years and those have been the best years of my life. But now she wants to have a baby and I do not. There is a good chance that we will divorce over this issue. I cannot imagine what my life will be like without her, but I am horrified when I think about the burdens and responsibilities of raising a child. It looks like this will go badly for me either way.
How about counseling?
Though it doesn't sound good.
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