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Old 06-07-2014, 06:52 PM
 
Location: NC
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At 54, menopause and the bittersweet realization that fertility was over (not that I wanted a child, but it was a change in self perception). Then later that year, ovarian cancer, chemo, and due to other health issues my nursing career was over. So my 2 major identities were finished.
10 years later I'm still here, and am finally moving south which I've wanted to do forever. Planning a lot of good times, maybe this is the delayed mid-life crisis response?
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Old 06-07-2014, 06:54 PM
 
Location: southern california
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Stopped fencing 3 years ago that was hard
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Old 06-07-2014, 07:32 PM
 
Location: NW Philly Burbs
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First one was when I hit 40 and stopped looking for Mr. Right. Up 'til then, I still dreamed of marrying and having a family. But when I hit 40, I knew that I didn't want to be an "old" mom -- I barely had energy as it was! So I took the pressure off of myself and said that although I still might get married someday, I now had the rest of my life to do so. I grieved a tiny bit for the life that I didn't have, and then embraced what I did have -- freedom and leftover income. That got me started traveling.

Then in my mid-40s I had a health crisis. I had been unhappy with my house of 15 years and was house hunting, but not making up my mind. When the health crisis hit, I told myself life was really too short, and made a formal offer on the house the day after my surgery. The peace and quiet of the new house/neighborhood (as opposed to my old row house) helped me to recover.
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Old 06-07-2014, 08:06 PM
 
Location: too far from the sea
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My midlife crisis resolved to either chasing younger women or skydiving. My wife told me to jump out of airplanes, it would be much safer for me that way.
One smart woman! And you obviously obeyed?
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Old 06-07-2014, 08:22 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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...... I still do some volunteering in things that are meaningful to me. Trying to make a difference in the world, that sort of thing.
It's funny how things turn out sometimes. I am finding that my volunteer work is more consistently gratifying than my career job was. I sometimes wonder if I would now be having an "old age crisis" if I hadn't found my niche as a volunteer. And oddly enough, that happened more or less by accident.

Once the motorcycling was over I would have needed something to latch onto. Reading, traveling, going to movies and concerts are all great activities which I value highly, but for me at least, those things would not be enough to fill me with a sense of doing the meaningful.
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Old 06-07-2014, 08:32 PM
 
Location: UpstateNY
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Escort, you are in my thoughts during our Americade motorcycle fest. That is so incredible, riding for the peace for those who passed. Bless you and us all.
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Old 06-07-2014, 08:48 PM
 
Location: UpstateNY
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Poodle, after my parents divorced when I was 7 I vowed never to bring a child into the works. When I got taken off the pill at 35 I found out I was infertile. I have no regrets. Rock on.
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Old 06-07-2014, 10:50 PM
 
Location: Gilbert, AZ
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No serious crisis... didn't do anything silly or crazy... but sure had doubts about my lifelong faith and marriage.
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Old 06-07-2014, 11:20 PM
 
Location: Haiku
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Lots of good stories here, but I thought a mid-life crisis was an euphemism for a pathetic attempt to regain one's lost youth, particularly in regards to men and how they perceive their sex lives. You know, like Kevin Spacey in American Beauty. Or Bill Clinton and his escapades in the White House closet. Or King Henry VIII.

Men have this funny relationship with their virility. A lot of money is made off that (see: Viagra, Cialis, etc). The whole thing makes some men go bonkers at some age. But not me.
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Old 06-08-2014, 10:54 AM
 
Location: in the miseries
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It's funny how things turn out sometimes. I am finding that my volunteer work is more consistently gratifying than my career job was. I sometimes wonder if I would now be having an "old age crisis" if I hadn't found my niche as a volunteer. And oddly enough, that happened more or less by accident.

Once the motorcycling was over I would have needed something to latch onto. Reading, traveling, going to movies and concerts are all great activities which I value highly, but for me at least, those things would not be enough to fill me with a sense of doing the meaningful.
I think if you are doing what you love, you are less apt to sit back, look at your life and say 'what happened'
And then change (midlife crisis).
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