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Old 06-08-2014, 10:56 AM
 
Location: in the miseries
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No serious crisis... didn't do anything silly or crazy... but sure had doubts about my lifelong faith and marriage.
That could be a crisis.
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Old 06-08-2014, 04:53 PM
 
Location: Northern Virginia
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One smart woman! And you obviously obeyed?
Absolutely!
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Old 06-09-2014, 12:58 PM
 
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It seems my old guy neighbors midlife crisis is coming on to me.
YUK
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Old 06-09-2014, 01:18 PM
 
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Professional mid life crisis.

In my early 40's (1985ish), myself and 3 others (professional and social friends) in the high tech business (all in sales and marketing) realized we were becoming dinosaurs. One incident two of us shared was a 28 year old, newly minted MBA telling several of us how things should be done. Two of us said we have seen the future of this business and it is not us.

Within 3 years, 4 of us were out of the business. Two of us bought small businesses. One bought a quick print type franchise. One stayed in sales but in an entirely different field.

Side story on the MBAer. She had been a 4th grade teacher when she decided to get an MBA. She said she had 3 offers out of graduate school. One from Gillette marketing female shaving products. One from Hanes marketing women's underwear and one from a computer company marketing computer systems. She thought the computer business would be fun and interesting.
The irony is, nowadays, if a person wants to do high tech marketing and is not from a technical background, they will not go very far. After all the "right sizing" of the past 20 years, there is no longer sufficient resource to support separate "Marketing" and "Technical Marketing" groups. So the wearers of multiple hats succeed while others perish.
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Old 06-09-2014, 02:47 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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Lots of good stories here, but I thought a mid-life crisis was an euphemism for a pathetic attempt to regain one's lost youth, particularly in regards to men and how they perceive their sex lives. You know, like Kevin Spacey in American Beauty. Or Bill Clinton and his escapades in the White House closet. Or King Henry VIII.

Men have this funny relationship with their virility. A lot of money is made off that (see: Viagra, Cialis, etc). The whole thing makes some men go bonkers at some age. But not me.
I agree. A mid-life crisis is, imo, an identity crisis having to do with age, not some event that could have happened at any age. Typically making expensive purchases, having an affair, taking some huge out-of-character risk, or even having some kind of breakdown (or "breaking down" something such as a long-term marriage) is what happens.

Big Daddy, in Cat on a Hot Tin Roof (Tennessee Williams play), a rich cotton plantation tycoon in the Mississippi Delta, discovers at 65 that he has cancer but then is lied to by his doctor and family. They tell him he passed all the tests and is fine. He resolves to dump his irritating but loving wife and have a string of affairs. His son, Brick, has an alcoholic breakdown over another matter. Williams shows how our impending mortality can wreak havoc on some of the more sensitive individuals.
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Old 06-10-2014, 02:09 PM
 
Location: Oxygen Ln. AZ
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Our mid life crisis is 25 years old now. He is a very good kid and we are proud of him.
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Old 06-10-2014, 04:16 PM
 
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Our mid life crisis is 25 years old now. He is a very good kid and we are proud of him.
Good one! I approve.
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Old 07-04-2014, 08:33 AM
 
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I started taking classes at a community college, found that I was interested in a whole lot of things, went to school for 8 years, and ended up getting my M.A. in a field that I never would have imagined being interested in It was a real labor of love and personal discovery. Unfortunately, when I graduated, the economy was tanking (2007), so in order to find employment I again had to re-invent myself, and eventually became employed in a position that had nothing to do with my degree. In hindsight, I would probably have done things a little differently, but the twists, turns, and challenges provided insight into myself that I wouldn't have had otherwise.
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Old 07-04-2014, 08:41 AM
 
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Do you want to change to a job reflecting your degree?
Could be a turning point.
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Old 07-05-2014, 12:41 AM
 
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I am likely past the mid-life point at 56, but did just realize within the last year that I never get to do anything fun. I love to dance, but dancing for those my age was relegated to the occasional wedding. No one I knew liked to play board games or sing karaoke. My husband won't fly so we never traveled. All of the close couple friends we had over the years have gotten divorced at some point, so we ended up with limited social interactions.

Our sons are grown with lives of their own, and I do have my first grandchild coming soon but due to logistics I probably won't see them more than once a week I'm guessing.

Husband has been angling to retire soon as he is fully vested in his pension and works long and erratic hours. He has no hobbies, and whenever I asked what he planned to actually do when he retired, he answer was always "relax". All I could envision was day after day of watching tv, with the highlight of each day eating breakfast, lunch and dinner.

I would still work but even so, I felt I was going to be bored out of my mind once he retired. I started panicking.

I decided to start a local group of like minded people, have 300 people so far, and have hosted several dance parties and gone to karaoke, game nights and other events. My husband reluctantly participates in these events but I've enjoyed meeting new people, making friends and having fun.

I'm sure my kids think I'm trying to recapture my youth and are waiting for the phase to pass.

So maybe this is my crisis, or some kind of delayed empty nesting.
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