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Old 06-11-2014, 02:20 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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I'd be thrilled if someone wishes me "bliss" for my retirement, although a female might "get it" more than a male, but either way, it's good. All I get is "what are you going to do????" which makes me even happier that I only have a few weeks left. Talk about not getting it...
What is wrong with the question "What are you going to do?"? I find it completely understandable that colleagues would be curious what our plans are. If we don't have any plans and our idea is just to vegetate and de-stress for a while, it's easy to say that. What is it that your work colleagues are "not getting"?

Many people have fairly specific travel plans, or home projects, or volunteer opportunities in mind, or other similar things. And please note I am not implying that there is anything wrong with vegetating and de-stressing, which is a common agenda item, especially at the beginning!

The main reason I would NOT ask a colleague "What are you going to do?" would be that I don't give a rat's ass about that person. In that case I would probably just say, "Oh, congratulations." If I cared about that person I would be curious what his or her plans are, and the more I cared about him or her, the more curious/interested I would be in the plans.

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Old 06-11-2014, 07:27 PM
 
Location: Florida
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No problem.
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Old 06-11-2014, 08:39 PM
 
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Yep; when I got what are you going to do;I rubbed my nose and said train as a astronaut;I report tomorrow then walked off.
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Old 06-11-2014, 09:14 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque NM
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What is wrong with the question "What are you going to do?"? I find it completely understandable that colleagues would be curious what our plans are. If we don't have any plans and our idea is just to vegetate and de-stress for a while, it's easy to say that. What is it that your work colleagues are "not getting"?

Many people have fairly specific travel plans, or home projects, or volunteer opportunities in mind, or other similar things. And please note I am not implying that there is anything wrong with vegetating and de-stressing, which is a common agenda item, especially at the beginning!

The main reason I would NOT ask a colleague "What are you going to do?" would be that I don't give a rat's ass about that person. In that case I would probably just say, "Oh, congratulations." If I cared about that person I would be curious what his or her plans are, and the more I cared about him or her, the more curious/interested I would be in the plans.
Well, sometimes the question is asked in almost a scolding way. Their idea is that as long as you have any energy left, you should keep on working. My older brother and his wife are examples. They do not plan to ever retire. Anyone who retires is just lazy.

Other times, the question is asked as in "What in heaven's name will you do if you retire?" As if we have nothing but our work or no life beyond our work. How will we fill our day without spending 9-10 hours a day at work? They just don't get it.
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Old 06-11-2014, 09:55 PM
 
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Bliss is 'all things good"...
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Old 06-11-2014, 10:24 PM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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Well, sometimes the question is asked in almost a scolding way. Their idea is that as long as you have any energy left, you should keep on working. My older brother and his wife are examples. They do not plan to ever retire. Anyone who retires is just lazy.

Other times, the question is asked as in "What in heaven's name will you do if you retire?" As if we have nothing but our work or no life beyond our work. How will we fill our day without spending 9-10 hours a day at work? They just don't get it.
when I was asked that before I retired, I'd just say 'whatever I want.'
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Old 06-12-2014, 07:11 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Well, sometimes the question is asked in almost a scolding way. Their idea is that as long as you have any energy left, you should keep on working. My older brother and his wife are examples. They do not plan to ever retire. Anyone who retires is just lazy.

Other times, the question is asked as in "What in heaven's name will you do if you retire?" As if we have nothing but our work or no life beyond our work. How will we fill our day without spending 9-10 hours a day at work? They just don't get it.
Sure, if the question is posed in a scolding manner or indicates disbelief that anyone would want to retire, then it is going to be irritating. But the poster to whom I responded did not imply it was anything but a neutral question. If it is a neutral question, to me it indicates interest and curiosity and is no cause for irritation. Perhaps that poster meant exactly what you explained; if so, that intention was far from clear in the post.
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Old 06-12-2014, 01:10 PM
 
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Default What in heaven's name will you do if you retire

exactly, like above, the tone was what on earth will you do now that you're not working. Most of those were younger people, folks over 50 just say "aren't you getting excited", or "I'm jealous...those that stilll have enough years left to go and they are well aware of it. I work at a place where they expect your work and the company to be your life, your work "family" and all that, which I've never bought into.

What I really want to say is "we weren't created as human doings, we were created as human beings...so I'm just going to "be" for awhile. But I can't get too philosophical with this crowd at work!

I don't take any offense to the way people react but I do find it interesting.
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Old 06-13-2014, 07:03 AM
 
Location: Loudon, TN
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I think years of bliss is what we all want from our retirement, so it's a great wish. Bliss is one of those words that we rarely use, but it perfectly describes what we should be experiencing!

I get the "what do you do all day" questions from some people who are still working and find them condescending. I generally reply with either a very cheerfully expressed "whatever I want" or "something different every day", both of which are exactly as I would like it to be.
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Old 06-13-2014, 08:02 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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I think years of bliss is what we all want from our retirement, so it's a great wish. Bliss is one of those words that we rarely use, but it perfectly describes what we should be experiencing!

I get the "what do you do all day" questions from some people who are still working and find them condescending. I generally reply with either a very cheerfully expressed "whatever I want" or "something different every day", both of which are exactly as I would like it to be.
While you don't owe people any particular response when they ask you "What do you do all day?", the responses you have chosen are in fact evasive. What would be wrong with taking a few seconds extra to give some examples of what constitutes "whatever I want" and "something different every day"?

I don't find the question condescending. It would be condescending if it implied they are looking down on you, as if they were somehow better. And perhaps in a few cases that may even be true. But many people are genuinely curious. Why not attempt to satisfy their curiosity, unless you think the individual is not worth your time?

Some people are rather narrow and don't have much of a life outside the workplace. Those are the people who are more likely to ask the question. When they do, we have the opportunity to broaden their narrowness somewhat. Is there a point to being evasive, other than saving time?
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