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Old 06-13-2014, 06:28 PM
 
Location: Verde Valley AZ
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I imagine they are sitting there telling each other the very same thing about you.
LOL...that's exactly what I was thinking. I scrolled down to see if anyone else did.
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Old 06-13-2014, 06:41 PM
 
Location: Baltimore, MD
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In between my part time job as a College Business Instructor and my gadfly posts on City Data there is not much to do, so I go over to a local Regional Shopping Center and walk around and sit and watch the people with a number of other sad old people in the middle common area. I see the same tired bored looking retirees there every day. They seem so alone and aimless.

I look at them and try to picture them as 30 years younger, active, engaged and full of confidence and authority. Maybe the tired old man who always wears that green sweater, even in the summer, used to be a bank Vice President. The old woman who has such a hard time walking, may have been a High School Principal. And the sad looking man who sits there never smiling or talking to anyone used to be an Executive at a huge Accounting firm directing the work of a huge staff with a force of will and commanding personality that got things done.

Now they are all just old folks sitting at the mall killing time. God, tell me that this isn't going to be the retirement for all of us as we get old!
Hmmm. Your choice.

Lots of us retired folks sit at the Mall all day watching people and killing time
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Old 06-13-2014, 07:50 PM
 
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Retirement is what you make of it. Those who want to lead more active retired lives will find something that interests them. Of course, they just might like spending time at the mall! We have a long list of things that we plan to do in retirement. In between doing all of those exciting and fascinating things, I imagine that we'll be doing something mundane and boring, too.
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Old 06-13-2014, 07:53 PM
 
Location: Florida -
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In between my part time job as a College Business Instructor and my gadfly posts on City Data there is not much to do, so I go over to a local Regional Shopping Center and walk around and sit and watch the people with a number of other sad old people in the middle common area. I see the same tired bored looking retirees there every day. They seem so alone and aimless.

Now they are all just old folks sitting at the mall killing time (along with the OP - my insert) -

There seems to be an ironic similarity between the 'watcher' and the folks being watched...

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Old 06-13-2014, 07:54 PM
 
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Now they are all just old folks sitting at the mall killing time. God, tell me that this isn't going to be the retirement for all of us as we get old!
Isn't it already, in your case?
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Old 06-13-2014, 08:07 PM
 
Location: Verde Valley AZ
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Maybe they should hang out at restaurants instead of the Mall. I worked in restaurants for many years and every one of them had their "old guy" groups. I never noticed any of them just staring off into space, watching people around them and looking depressed. They had some pretty lively conversations and good War stories, etc.. They could spend hours just yakking it up. Obviously not just "waiting to die".
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Old 06-13-2014, 08:12 PM
 
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What do you expect when so many peoples identities are linked to their employment and the word used to describe the end of all of that hard work sounds like something just died 'retirement'.

If you dare to look at the bigger picture, you will see a pattern and a reason for such outcomes and none of them serve the individual. However, if one seeks their identity elsewhere, has many passions, gets to know themselves and understands the whole manipulative game that is work and retirement then you may be able to reach it with much more to look forward to than sitting around a shopping centre watching pigeons exhibit the enjoyment of freedom that you mentally lack.
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Old 06-13-2014, 08:23 PM
 
Location: TX
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Being tired is kind of common among seniors...not all, certainly, but many...I do feel tired quite often myself. As far as not having anything better to do than hang around a mall, well, some probably don't have a lot of money, to lead a more exciting life. Others may have hung around malls during some of their free time when younger, and it's a habit. Personally, I don't hang around malls anymore. I'm mostly at home...I have enough to do there, not necessarily what I'd prefer to be doing, but you gotta do what you gotta do.
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Old 06-13-2014, 08:37 PM
 
Location: too far from the sea
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Maybe those who would hang out in a mall are the ones who never developed any interests or hobbies in their lives. Maybe they had to spend all their time working. Maybe they were just boring people even before they retired. We don't know.

Of the retired people I've known, none are bored and none sit around in malls. They go places, they work out, they meet up for lunch, they babysit for grandchildren, they read, they take up walking or do photography, take art classes, play bridge, work in the garden, volunteer. It's easier if you have money but even without money there are plenty of things to do for those who get interested in something beyond the mall.
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Old 06-13-2014, 08:45 PM
 
Location: Great State of Texas
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In between my part time job as a College Business Instructor and my gadfly posts on City Data there is not much to do, so I go over to a local Regional Shopping Center and walk around and sit and watch the people with a number of other sad old people in the middle common area. I see the same tired bored looking retirees there every day. They seem so alone and aimless.

I look at them and try to picture them as 30 years younger, active, engaged and full of confidence and authority. Maybe the tired old man who always wears that green sweater, even in the summer, used to be a bank Vice President. The old woman who has such a hard time walking, may have been a High School Principal. And the sad looking man who sits there never smiling or talking to anyone used to be an Executive at a huge Accounting firm directing the work of a huge staff with a force of will and commanding personality that got things done.

Now they are all just old folks sitting at the mall killing time. God, tell me that this isn't going to be the retirement for all of us as we get old!
I suggest you find yourself a hobby or another part-time/volunteer job because YOU are doing exactly what you are commenting on.
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