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Old 06-14-2014, 08:50 PM
 
Location: Pac. NW
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In between my part time job as a College Business Instructor and my gadfly posts on City Data there is not much to do, so I go over to a local Regional Shopping Center and walk around and sit and watch the people with a number of other sad old people in the middle common area. I see the same tired bored looking retirees there every day. They seem so alone and aimless.

I look at them and try to picture them as 30 years younger, active, engaged and full of confidence and authority. Maybe the tired old man who always wears that green sweater, even in the summer, used to be a bank Vice President. The old woman who has such a hard time walking, may have been a High School Principal. And the sad looking man who sits there never smiling or talking to anyone used to be an Executive at a huge Accounting firm directing the work of a huge staff with a force of will and commanding personality that got things done.

Now they are all just old folks sitting at the mall killing time. God, tell me that this isn't going to be the retirement for all of us as we get old!
Better (and safer) that they're sitting in the mall than sitting in traffic driving too slow.
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Old 06-14-2014, 09:13 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Better (and safer) that they're sitting in the mall than sitting in traffic driving too slow.
I hadn't thought of that. Good point. If there is anything in life more irritating that people driving too slow, I can't think of it right at the moment.
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Old 06-14-2014, 10:44 PM
 
Location: Sydney, Australia
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This thread is ageist.

Lol.
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Old 06-14-2014, 10:49 PM
 
Location: Verde Valley AZ
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I hadn't thought of that. Good point. If there is anything in life more irritating that people driving too slow, I can't think of it right at the moment.
Every time I see anything about slow drivers I remember that lady with the small sign in her back window that said "Yes, I CAN drive slower" and it makes me laugh all over again.
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Old 06-14-2014, 11:29 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque NM
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I can't wait to move to Oregon so I can tick off all the Californians with my driving.
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Old 06-15-2014, 01:27 AM
 
Location: CasaMo
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Me, too. By tired old man?
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Obviously the same person as OP.

http://www.city-data.com/forum/searc...rchid=11628646
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Old 06-15-2014, 05:18 AM
 
Location: Location: Location
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I refuse to read through seven pages discussing "tired, old people", and the reasons they have nothing better to do than to sit at the mall.

I've thought about it and have come to the conclusion that the "Mall Sitters" are there because the spouse/partner/adult children can't stand to have them sitting in the house all day. Some of them may even be dropped off in the morning with a snack and a bottle of water. Who knows? I'm just speculating.

I hate The Mall. The Mall, any Mall, has always catered to the 18-35 demographic. The clothing shops, the cell phone kiosks, cheap jewelry and hair accessories. And you wonder why the sitters look bored? It's because they've already BT,DT and have no interest in doing it again.

The Mall is warm in Winter and cool in Summer. Were I to drop off a senior to spend the day somewhere, I'd certainly pick a place where said senior wouldn't freeze to death or be overcome by heat prostration. The authorities don't look too kindly on elder abuse.

I haven't been to The Mall in about 12 years. I have too much to do.
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Old 06-15-2014, 05:35 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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I can't wait to move to Oregon so I can tick off all the Californians with my driving.
If you're kidding, that's not even funny. People who drive too slow are the crabgrass on the lawn of life.

If you're not kidding, I have some questions:

1. Aren't there any Californians in Albuquerque that you can irritate?
2. Have you thought deeply about your attitude towards other human beings? In other words, how can it be acceptable to get our kicks by ticking off other people? That's pretty misanthropic.
3. Are you saying all Oregonians drive slow, so only California transplants and vacationers will be ticked off by your driving? That doesn't make any sense. Ditto for people in Albuquerque; your driving doesn't tick any of them off?
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Old 06-15-2014, 06:08 AM
 
Location: Vermont
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My retired friends hang out at Home Depot and walk the mall. It's for something to do, exercise and in the hopes they'll meet people they know to talk to. Work can be a big social thing for many that is hard to replace. You go from 40 hours of people, to all day having to make an effort to socialize. Retired people need to plan for filling that void before retirement so they aren't just camping out at the mall like the homeless.
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Old 06-15-2014, 10:52 AM
 
Location: Oceania
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My retired friends hang out at Home Depot and walk the mall. It's for something to do, exercise and in the hopes they'll meet people they know to talk to. Work can be a big social thing for many that is hard to replace. You go from 40 hours of people, to all day having to make an effort to socialize. Retired people need to plan for filling that void before retirement so they aren't just camping out at the mall like the homeless.

Are there seminars for that in the workplace or you just thinking out loud? People don't know what they are going to do when they retire because they don't know what it's like to live when it's the weekend day after day. You can only do so much putting around the house before that gets boring. It's like a vacation with nothing to do after you have done it all. Everyone thinks they are going to do it all when they retire but when that day comes most aren't financially able to DO IT ALL.
The McDonalds down the street has a gathering of old folks every morning around 7. They are black and white, it doesn't matter, the common bond is they are all older and meet there every morning. I've sit with them before but they are at least a decade older than I so the conversation wanders a bit. I say more power to the old folks for getting out, at least they aren't sitting in front of their TVs watching old TV shows.
I know an older guy who does just that. He wakes up at 5am, flips on his TV and sits there until 10pm, turns off the TV and does it again every single day. He gripes about the crap he sees on the news, mainly what the MSM feeds him, and it is a bunch of newspeak, which matters little to me as it is all BS.
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