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Old 06-18-2016, 08:44 AM
 
Location: Central IL
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I once had a "ladies" doctor tell me she didn't know any women my age (I was 50ish at the time) who really cared about it any more. I guess she didn't read the posts around here!
My "lady" doctor asked me when the last time I had sex was and I was counting on my fingers..."Let's see, one, two, three, four, five...." and she interrupts me "Five years!"

Uhm no you dumb #*$&%^! Five DAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I switched doctors after that because she was always interrupting me and trying to finish my sentences and she was always wrong.
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Old 06-18-2016, 10:12 AM
 
Location: Central NY
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Something I'd like to hear about from ladies and gents.

I have heard people talk and read articles describing the benefits of sex, etc. I totally agree, sex is exhilarating and fun. Being an "older" woman who has been single a very long time, there has been a rather large lack of it. OK, I've ventured into some activity but nothing long-lasting or regular. And never been one for one-night-stands.

How does a healthy woman (yes I know about self satisfaction) who enjoys the activity but has no partner (male) with none in sight?

It gets lonely out here sometimes. I hate the idea that my sex life is over.

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Old 06-18-2016, 10:20 AM
 
Location: Coastal New Jersey
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My "lady" doctor asked me when the last time I had sex was and I was counting on my fingers..."Let's see, one, two, three, four, five...." and she interrupts me "Five years!"

Uhm no you dumb #*$&%^! Five DAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I switched doctors after that because she was always interrupting me and trying to finish my sentences and she was always wrong.
Hahaha, this is great.
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Old 06-18-2016, 10:25 AM
 
Location: Coastal New Jersey
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Something I'd like to hear about from ladies and gents.

I have heard people talk and read articles describing the benefits of sex, etc. I totally agree, sex is exhilarating and fun. Being an "older" woman who has been single a very long time, there has been a rather large lack of it. OK, I've ventured into some activity but nothing long-lasting or regular. And never been one for one-night-stands.

How does a healthy woman (yes I know about self satisfaction) who enjoys the activity but has no partner (male) with none in sight?

It gets lonely out here sometimes. I hate the idea that my sex life is over.

No, this is not an advertisement.
You're not alone. Even though I am long divorced and had no luck with finding a real relationship during my post-divorce forays into dating, I still find myself hoping even though I keep sternly telling myself NOT to hope at this point. I will be 58 in August. The chances available to me are usually Somebody Else's Husband, and I'm not personally comfortable being in that role. I know a woman who is in that situation, with the wife's ok. She even sent my friend a "take good care of him" email, but doesn't want to break up the household for children and grandchildren's sake.
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Old 06-18-2016, 10:41 AM
 
Location: Central NY
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You're not alone. Even though I am long divorced and had no luck with finding a real relationship during my post-divorce forays into dating, I still find myself hoping even though I keep sternly telling myself NOT to hope at this point. I will be 58 in August. The chances available to me are usually Somebody Else's Husband, and I'm not personally comfortable being in that role. I know a woman who is in that situation, with the wife's ok. She even sent my friend a "take good care of him" email, but doesn't want to break up the household for children and grandchildren's sake.
Oh my, the "forgiving wife" is a rare bird, I think.

I spent some time in that scenario (only once w/ same person for about 3-4 yrs). Problem with it is I fell in "love" or so I thought it was. But of course he told me over and over he was not leaving. He had a wife, children (grown), grandkids, and money (wife's). Why would he want to leave that? I was the fool. Not interested in a repeat.
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Old 06-18-2016, 10:45 AM
 
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My "lady" doctor asked me when the last time I had sex was and I was counting on my fingers..."Let's see, one, two, three, four, five...." and she interrupts me "Five years!"

Uhm no you dumb #*$&%^! Five DAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I switched doctors after that because she was always interrupting me and trying to finish my sentences and she was always wrong.
ROTFLMAO!!! That's hilarious. Thanks for the morning laugh.
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Old 06-18-2016, 10:49 AM
 
Location: NC Piedmont
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You're not alone. Even though I am long divorced and had no luck with finding a real relationship during my post-divorce forays into dating, I still find myself hoping even though I keep sternly telling myself NOT to hope at this point. I will be 58 in August. The chances available to me are usually Somebody Else's Husband, and I'm not personally comfortable being in that role. I know a woman who is in that situation, with the wife's ok. She even sent my friend a "take good care of him" email, but doesn't want to break up the household for children and grandchildren's sake.
I have heard of that happening also. I don't think I would be very comfortable with that even if my wife were okay with it.
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Old 06-18-2016, 10:52 AM
 
Location: Coastal New Jersey
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Oh my, the "forgiving wife" is a rare bird, I think.

I spent some time in that scenario (only once w/ same person for about 3-4 yrs). Problem with it is I fell in "love" or so I thought it was. But of course he told me over and over he was not leaving. He had a wife, children (grown), grandkids, and money (wife's). Why would he want to leave that? I was the fool. Not interested in a repeat.
Well, rumor has it that the forgiving wife has her own side thing going on, which might have made her more amenable.
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Old 06-18-2016, 10:54 AM
 
Location: Edina, MN, USA
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You're not alone. Even though I am long divorced and had no luck with finding a real relationship during my post-divorce forays into dating, I still find myself hoping even though I keep sternly telling myself NOT to hope at this point. I will be 58 in August. The chances available to me are usually Somebody Else's Husband, and I'm not personally comfortable being in that role. I know a woman who is in that situation, with the wife's ok. She even sent my friend a "take good care of him" email, but doesn't want to break up the household for children and grandchildren's sake.
I suspect there are many women out there that don't want a divorce for a variety of reasons but don't really want the husband either. Having someone else "fulfill" his needs works for them.
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Old 06-18-2016, 12:07 PM
 
Location: NC Piedmont
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I suspect there are many women out there that don't want a divorce for a variety of reasons but don't really want the husband either. Having someone else "fulfill" his needs works for them.
The odd thing is, I suspect it probably works for her better than it does for him. The reason I would not like that is not because I am a prude; I would like to think I would do the right thing if I were offered some "fufillment" but I am not sure I would. It's because as soon as you both accept that as part of the relationship, I think it is broken and unfixable. I actually think it would be easier to get past a clandestine affair because it isn't part of the relationship. Not sure if that makes sense.
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