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Old 06-22-2014, 04:24 PM
 
Location: Ponte Vedra Beach FL
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Well, I've had money and then not had money.

Having money is better because it gives you options. Knowing I had those options made me happy.

Now I don't have them, so it's harder. I don't like it!
That is what having money means. I like to cook. It's sockeye salmon season now - and I don't worry about buying it.

It's hard to get a good PCP provider in my area if you're of Medicare age. Not to worry. We joined a concierge practice.

We're getting too old to maintain our somewhat large property as we age. Again - no worries. Just pay people to do the stuff we can no longer do.

Like you say - money = options. It's as simple as that. Robyn
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Old 06-22-2014, 04:28 PM
 
Location: Ponte Vedra Beach FL
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...My SIL played Pebble Beach just so she could say she did. Big green fees but she said worth it...
What did she score? Or did she not keep score (and it was simply something on her "bucket list")? Robyn
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Old 06-22-2014, 04:38 PM
 
Location: Ponte Vedra Beach FL
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We can lie on a beach most days or help out in a classroom...
Why would anyone in his right mind with some money do the latter? Quite a few years back - homeowners' insurance policies stopped covering anything relating to allegations of sexual abuse (bogus or not). And - believe me - if you have even a little money - if you are hands on with kids - you will eventually encounter at least one kid who levels false accusations against you.

When our homeowners' insurance changed - we changed (my husband and I would have probably done things in this area - but - without any insurance - forget about it). Robyn

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Old 06-22-2014, 04:45 PM
 
Location: Ponte Vedra Beach FL
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I retired on April 2, and so far I am emphatically in the happy 40%. Alarm goes off at 7 AM; then walking in the park; back for breakfast then with a cup of coffee ready for the stock market open at 9:30. While keeping an eye on the market, do some yard work, work on cleaning up the house for eventual sale and maybe take a nap or watch Netflix or pull out the Nook and read some (whatever strikes my fancy) .

Versus up at 6:30, working all day at a job that had become boring, for a department that did not really appreciate employees and with other people who did not want to be there. They trying to do yard work and other things around the house on the weekends.

I guess I was one of those unlucky people who had a job that was not challenging/fulfilling for the last few years. On the plus side, my identity as a person was not all wrapped up in my employment. So for me, it is no contest; very happy in retirement. My wife joined me two weeks ago and so far, she feels the same way.
Why do you watch the stock market every day? Do you day trade? Do you run daily/intraday charts? Robyn
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Old 06-22-2014, 04:45 PM
 
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What did she score? Or did she not keep score (and it was simply something on her "bucket list")? Robyn
She's accomplished, not sure what she scored but yes a bucket list thing. I was surprised her husband didn't play. He just said he didn't.
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Old 06-22-2014, 07:21 PM
 
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That is what having money means. I like to cook. It's sockeye salmon season now - and I don't worry about buying it.

It's hard to get a good PCP provider in my area if you're of Medicare age. Not to worry. We joined a concierge practice.

We're getting too old to maintain our somewhat large property as we age. Again - no worries. Just pay people to do the stuff we can no longer do.

Like you say - money = options. It's as simple as that. Robyn
You and my wife both with salmon, she like you is indifferent to cost and I am becoming less price conscious.
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Old 06-22-2014, 08:18 PM
 
Location: Central Massachusetts
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^^^^^ Well, Curmudgeon, I'm glad you responded because I was greatly mystified as to why the OP would take a gratuitous swipe at you, especially as he was answering my post, not yours, when he did so and you hadn't even posted yet in this thread. (Maybe the thought was that the best defense is a good preemptive attack??) But I decided not to say anything because I know you are a big boy and can speak for yourself.
the swipe was a love tap. I can understand him quite nicely.

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I think that's some acknowledgement that I am not fond of nor do I buy into "The sky is falling" articles, posts, comments, etc. If so then golfingduo is quite correct. But perhaps I'm just stricken with a Pollyannaish approach to life. If that's not what he alluded to then regardless, I'm going to forge ahead anyway.

... OK. For those of you who are married, don't ever take one another for granted! You should be one another's greatest gift.

I had been hoping you would join in on the conversation. I enjoy all of your posts. You do have a different way of looking at things

I do really appreciate that last line that I bolded and underlined. Those are words to live by. Those words are almost exactly word for word my grandmother said to me.

Thanks Curmudgeon
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Old 06-22-2014, 08:57 PM
 
Location: Las Vegas
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I more or less retired at 53. I've had some part time, low wage, jobs but never a 'real' job. I have taught ESL to adults. And volunteered at the shelter. I write. I have done a lot of work on my house and there's still lots to do. I have plenty to keep me as busy as I wish to be.

My laziness is cyclical. One of the biggest retirement revelations for me was figuring out how much of my life had been spent doing things I had to do VS wanted to do. It wasn't JUST work, it was elder care, husband care, friend care, and just general responsibilities. So much of my life was doing all the things I was supposed to do. I was always the one who took care of everything and everyone. Time was my enemy. There were never enough hours in the day.

I retired and moved 2500 miles cross country alone. For the first time in my adult life, I had no one to take care of or consider but me. It took me a lot of time to figure out I could do anything or nothing. I could read for 24 hours straight. Or spend the whole day doing nothing but playing with the dogs. I could learn to make gelato. Watch trash television. There was no one telling me what I had to do.

Sometimes I get up and literally do nothing productive all day long. Then when I get disgusted by my lack of progress on my umpteen projects, I get motivated, put in some hard work and maybe even complete a few things. Then the process starts over again. Laziness followed by progress. And that's OK. I guess I earned it.

My friends are still around only now it's an e-mail or a phone call. They are all still working and very busy. The H who might not have been my H for much longer, dropped dead. All the parents are gone too. I am lonely some times. I miss the forced social interaction of having to go to work and see people every day. I even miss the structure in my life at times.

Change is inevitable. I still have a bunch of things to work on. I have a new and different SO to get to know better who likes to take care of *me*. All in all, it's good. Not always easy, but good!
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Old 06-22-2014, 10:15 PM
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Location: Middle Tennessee
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Why do you watch the stock market every day? Do you day trade? Do you run daily/intraday charts? Robyn
I do some trading. Sometimes I will sell the same day; sometimes hold for a bit longer. I look for the stocks with the largest % down first thing out of the gate each day and decide if I think that the market is overreacting. I never have been a chart person. An example is DreamWorks when it dropped on the box office results for How to Train Your Dragon 2. I picked up 1500 shares on Monday and got out on Wednesday with a little over $1500 profit.
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Old 06-23-2014, 04:37 AM
 
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I would like to see more posts from people who are not part of a "we," like yellowsnow. As much as I look forward to not working for every reason, I am accustomed to some work friendships and conversations, and it has become my community of sorts. I fear my own tendency toward isolation in the first place, so while anticipating giving up the stressful and very unrewarding aspects of my job, I do worry about losing the somewhat sense of community that showing up gives me.
As for "identity," fergit it. I'll leave smoke when I go out the door for the last time on that.
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