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Old 06-29-2014, 03:35 PM
 
Location: Sierra Nevada Land, CA
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We have Life Alert type services available thru our local hospital and a social services agency. $25 per month. If you push the button, they call your phone number. If you don't answer, they send someone over.
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Old 07-02-2014, 01:12 PM
 
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But wouldn't one need to wear this alert button all the time in order for it to be worthwhile? If you fall or have a stroke, you probably wouldn't be able to get to the life alert if it's sitting on a table somewhere. I think it would be hard to get an older person to wear it all the time, at least that's what I've been told.
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Old 07-02-2014, 03:36 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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........contacted MIL's attorney with whom she had not communicated in several years and found out she had written my wife, her only child, out of her will when she married me because "Now you have a husband to take care of you." My wife had previously been divorced for 18 years.

Have I mentioned that I never did care for my mother-in-law? Not surprisingly, neither did my wife but regardless, we did the best we could for her.
Not to be nosy, but to whom or what did she leave her assets if her only child was not going to receive them? A dog or cat society, etc?
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Old 07-02-2014, 04:18 PM
 
Location: Verde Valley AZ
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We purchased and paid for Life Alert for my mother-in-law when her health began to fail and maintained it up until she demanded 24-hour home health aid assistance, which was not necessary, so she "wouldn't be lonely. At that point my wife took over her finances, paid her bills and paid the two aids who each worked 12 hours at a stretch. We also cancelled the Life Alert but at the same time aided her financially. At the very end she was financially down to three months worth of such assistance and did need it. Thereafter it would have been on us and by then we'd retired. She absolutely refused to consider assisted living When she died at home at 2:00 a.m. the aid called 911 and also notified us. Their services no longer needed, we paid nice bonuses to the two aids out of our pockets, contacted MIL's attorney with whom she had not communicated in several years and found out she had written my wife, her only child, out of her will when she married me because "Now you have a husband to take care of you." My wife had previously been divorced for 18 years.

Have I mentioned that I never did care for my mother-in-law? Not surprisingly, neither did my wife but regardless, we did the best we could for her.
It sounds to me like you went 'above and beyond' for your MIL.

That's pretty mean to disinherit someone just because they got married.
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Old 07-02-2014, 04:21 PM
 
Location: Verde Valley AZ
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But wouldn't one need to wear this alert button all the time in order for it to be worthwhile? If you fall or have a stroke, you probably wouldn't be able to get to the life alert if it's sitting on a table somewhere. I think it would be hard to get an older person to wear it all the time, at least that's what I've been told.
Yes, Mom has to wear it all the time and is glad to have it. What's on the table is the machine that lets you talk back and forth to the operators and it'll pick up all over the house. Mom will have no trouble wearing it all the time, except the cord is way too long so we have to shorten it up. She can wear it in the shower as well. I wondered about setting it off accidently but the actual button is recessed so you have to push it. If she's actually passed out and can't use the button? I don't know but she doesn't have to worry about getting to the living room at all.
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Old 07-02-2014, 08:12 PM
 
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But wouldn't one need to wear this alert button all the time in order for it to be worthwhile? If you fall or have a stroke, you probably wouldn't be able to get to the life alert if it's sitting on a table somewhere. I think it would be hard to get an older person to wear it all the time, at least that's what I've been told.
My mother's alert is a bracelet. She never takes it off. It really does give her peace of mind, since I am her closest child, and I'm 4 hours away. One of her neighbors (55+ neighborhood), fell and laid on the floor for over 24 hours. She had the necklace version, and didn't have it on, because "it got in her way".
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Old 07-03-2014, 01:16 PM
 
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I'm really thinking about approaching the subject with my dear friend/neighbor who is almost 85 years old, walks with a cane, get dizzy spells and lives in an upper unit...this is just a disaster waiting to happen, IMO. But she is very sensitive to anyone being "negative" around her so I've avoided this. I have a feeling it's because of the cost but her husband's family has money (but they live out of state)
and I'm sure they would be willing to chip in for it, but I know she wouldn't ask. They bought her an iPad so I think this Alert system would be much more important than that.

Any suggestions?
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Old 07-03-2014, 02:15 PM
 
Location: SoCal desert
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Tell your neighbor about 'your other friend' who just got one. No suggestions to get one, just tell your neighbor about all the good things 'your other friend' likes about it.
That's how I used to get my Mom to start talking and make it her idea.

**'your other friend' = AZDesertBrat's mom
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