U.S. CitiesCity-Data Forum Index
Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Retirement
 [Register]
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
View detailed profile (Advanced) or search
site with Google Custom Search

Search Forums  (Advanced)
Reply Start New Thread
 
Old 12-18-2007, 09:25 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
919 posts, read 2,912,461 times
Reputation: 252

Advertisements

I guess everyone gets bored at times in their lives, maybe they just got done with a vigorous class of learning the tango and wanted to take a break? Or just flew back home from holland, we can only guess what goes on in a persons life, unless we are actually in their shoes, we really have no real idea..and if they are bored, good for them, wish I had time to be bored!~!!
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message

 
Old 12-18-2007, 04:02 PM
 
1,393 posts, read 2,537,717 times
Reputation: 413
I retired five years ago due to bad health, and I'll not do a damn thing if I want to.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 12-18-2007, 05:02 PM
 
Location: North Adams, MA
746 posts, read 3,181,873 times
Reputation: 796
I would not make assumptions like that. Rather, they could have just finished walking around the mall a few times to get some safe exercise and are having a rest before continuing on.

Perhaps they are thinking about how most of their friends have now passed away, or how to get to a doctor's appointment with their children far away, and nobody to drive them.

Perhaps their other half is shopping and they decided to wait patiently.

We should not assume that someone sitting peacefully is wasting their time, or is devoid of life. In fact, much of what we are so busy doing and chasing during life is the wasted time.

Sit down and take a minute to think about that!
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 12-18-2007, 10:43 PM
 
633 posts, read 802,793 times
Reputation: 257
I might add that many seniors seen sitting around at various places are also active at times. With some time to spare most don't go flat out.

Also a relative tells me he has had a long and reasonable marriage but he was rarely home all day with her. Upon retirement some adjustments were necessary to allow for peace and good health. Last time I heard he was taking advantage of his travel discount eligibility and traveling extensively. ALONE ! He said he feels much better now.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 12-19-2007, 08:12 AM
 
13,346 posts, read 25,607,620 times
Reputation: 20610
Dunno about retirees, but I am over-tired and quite bored and ticked off at my employment, and would be happy to drop it like a cheap suit when the financial time comes.

Why must someone be busy and scheduled and active etc.? If you weren't like that pre-retirement, why would you need to change?
Zen Buddhists would suggest that slowing down and being "aimless" is a rise in evolutionary status.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 12-19-2007, 12:09 PM
 
Location: Ocean Shores, WA
5,081 posts, read 12,987,641 times
Reputation: 10650
Quote:
Originally Posted by brightdoglover View Post
Zen Buddhists would suggest that slowing down and being "aimless" is a rise in evolutionary status.
Then I must have achieved Sainthood by now.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 12-19-2007, 05:20 PM
 
13,346 posts, read 25,607,620 times
Reputation: 20610
Congratulations on your annointment!

Seriously, I've been pushing myself to jobs for so long, I'd have to do absolutely nothing to retool myself to be internally motivated. I don't know how long it would take or what "nothing" would look like. I will say that I don't have a laundry list of things I wish I could do but have to wait until retirement to do. I've been fortunate and focused enough to try most of my dreams and make huge changes that other people only dream of. On the other hand, I've found out precisely what those dreams are, and what they are not. It's interesting knowledge.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 12-21-2007, 03:00 PM
 
385 posts, read 1,425,736 times
Reputation: 204
The one thing I have noticed as my friends and I age is that we are becoming more of who we were as younger people. That is, if you were a workaholic with no friends or social contacts outside of work and you get older, basically you become a person who now has no mission with no social contacts. I have always been interested in trying many things in life. I stayed in one profession for twenty years but moved to new jobs within that profession about every three because I wanted to try them. I was willing to take a chance and learn something. I am more of that person today. I am retired but work twenty hours per week; I have owned a small business; I have flipped real estate; etc. I think we make the mistake of believing that these bench sitters in the mall were somehow different in youth-probably not-just different benches.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 12-21-2007, 05:22 PM
 
29,829 posts, read 34,918,975 times
Reputation: 11752
Default We covered this before

Quote:
Originally Posted by questioner2 View Post
I think aging can be a terrible thing. We have some retired neighbors who like to go to public places and just sit there. I see them all the time at the Mall, the Library or the park and they are just sitting there. Only one at a time, not together. I suspect they are bored by the expression on their faces and just needed to get out of the house.

They looked like they could have been attractive and successful people in their day, but now life has passed them by. I picture them in a busy office or eating at a restaurant with tons of friends years ago on top of the world, but now they are all alone.

I suspect this is the reality with many retired people today.
I thought we covered this before. The men are waiting for their wives and checking out the ladies. What better place to go check out the ladies then the mall. Just look disinterested and no one get mad if they catch you staring etc. Beats the ladies at the home. No offense but think about it. Oh yeah and the ladies at the mall are doing the same thing. Isn't the mall great for the imagination and rekindling days gone bye?
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 12-30-2007, 05:36 PM
 
Location: Branson Area
880 posts, read 2,587,887 times
Reputation: 710
Hey I resemble that! From time to time I go to the mall, get a Starbucks, and just watch people. It's sort of a vacation from being too busy in retirement. Sometimes it's just nice to "be". When I worked it was a pleasure to sleep in late on Saturdays or to just rent movies and "be". Now I don't have to catch up on sleep but it's nice to just sit and watch people rush by...it's also nice knowing I don't have to rush to do anything.

Aging is what you make of it.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.

Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.


Reply
Please update this thread with any new information or opinions. This open thread is still read by thousands of people, so we encourage all additional points of view.

Quick Reply
Message:

Over $104,000 in prizes was already given out to active posters on our forum and additional giveaways are planned!

Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Retirement
Follow City-Data.com founder on our Forum or

All times are GMT -6.

2005-2019, Advameg, Inc. · Please obey Forum Rules · Terms of Use and Privacy Policy · Bug Bounty

City-Data.com - Archive 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35 - Top