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Old 07-07-2015, 06:29 AM
 
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I feel that my best days are definitely ahead of me. I am in a new phase of my life, though not by choice. However, I am minute by minute able to move on and looking forward to the rest of my adventure!
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Old 07-07-2015, 06:38 AM
 
Location: Near a river
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I am an Gen Xer (mid 40s) and I feel like its all down hill from here. Especially since I am diabetic and have mild retinopathy (they say it doesnt have to progress. Yeah right). What is left but diapers, death and decrepitude (and maybe blindness). I have a great wife but I feel like my best days are long gone. I dont feel depressed but when I take a hard look at things, I really believe the best has happened already
I just posted in another thread how I see seniors, way older than you, with walkers, wheelchairs and some on oxygen who are not going to let physical limitations keep them from enjoying life. When you come really close to death, as I was (in my 40s), you can get a real wake-up call and determine that if you pull through, you'll never be down again. I admire those with resilience, bravery and joie de vivre, and although I don't always maintain these myself, I aim for it. And...the best years of my life have come 20 years after nearly losing my life.
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Old 07-07-2015, 06:46 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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At 71, my best days are behind me, but that doesn't mean that the days to come look bleak. I continue to enjoy myself and find gratification in life. Behind me are things like hitch-hiking through Europe, flying private airplanes, bicycling from Seattle to Los Angeles, escorting funeral processions on a motorcycle - in other words the grand adventures. But ahead of me are still things to look forward to. Later this morning I will enjoy the enthusiasm of third through eighth graders who are students in the chess classes I teach in an enrichment summer school. So, while the grand adventures are behind me, life is still good!
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Old 07-07-2015, 06:56 AM
 
Location: Florida
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Since my memory seems to be getting so poor, I don't recall the 'good old days' very clearly so what's ahead is better by comparison....or rather, lack of it
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Old 07-07-2015, 07:17 AM
 
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We are born 1948 and less then a week into retirement. If the best days are behind us then we made a big mistake. Right now it appears they are about to happen. Geez how can no stress not be the best of times?
And the answer eight plus years later is Bada Bing! Congrats Mr and Mrs TuborgP! My quote from above is number 14 in the thread and was written in late 2007. And the years ahead project to be even better unless the unexpected occur. Health good and getting better and lifestyle and family expanding. The no stress comment above was key as it has just improved health related measurements.

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Old 07-07-2015, 07:28 AM
 
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Behind me!!
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Old 07-07-2015, 07:29 AM
 
Location: New England
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I'm not sure . . .

Day by day, while planning good things to look forward to, seems the way to go for now.
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Old 07-07-2015, 07:46 AM
 
Location: Idaho
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'The future's not ours to see' so I simply can not see how a person can answer this question. Looking back at my life, there were some bad days and many good days. Amazingly, many of the good days were built and resulted from the experience gained from the bad days.

My life motto is "carpe diem". I just try to make the best out of every day, one at a time.
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Old 07-07-2015, 08:09 AM
 
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'The future's not ours to see' so I simply can not see how a person can answer this question. Looking back at my life, there were some bad days and many good days. Amazingly, many of the good days were built and resulted from the experience gained from the bad days.

My life motto is "carpe diem". I just try to make the best out of every day, one at a time.
Sure, others look longer term and layout a road map just like planning a vacation trip. If at the mid way point all is going well the positive expectations for the rest of the trip remain high. Sure accidents can happen but how many of us look for one around the next curve? As mentioned in my previous post I first posted in this thread in December 2007 just after retiring and prior to the Great Recession. Wow talk about about an accident around the corner. However we stayed on course adhered to the map and life was great if not even better than planned for. So here we are now in 2015 with the same map and more planned for highlights. doctors say all is well and the other indicators are strong so why not be optimistic we have a track record to look back on! We know we are blessed and encourage all the younger folks to be optimistic and work towards their retirement years being their best years.
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Old 07-07-2015, 08:39 AM
 
Location: Idaho
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Sure, others look longer term and layout a road map just like planning a vacation trip. If at the mid way point all is going well the positive expectations for the rest of the trip remain high.
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We know we are blessed and encourage all the younger folks to be optimistic and work towards their retirement years being their best years.
TurborgP,
I am a realistically optimistic person. To me, life is long journey. I prepare for the next leg of the journey everyday. When things are good, I enjoy the easy downhill stroll, stop to 'smell the flower, sip the coffee, enjoy the scenery'. When things are bad, I focus on climbing the hill, one step at the time, encouraged by the thinking that once I get on top of the hill, it will be again an easy downhill.

I am very blessed that I have enjoyed most of the days of my life. I am very well prepared for the future in all aspects (financially, physically and emotionally). I know that I will enjoy my retirement as much as my current state of contentment. I know that there may be challenges ahead (likely some health issues) but as long as we remain healthy, we will continue to do the things that we have been doing (flying, rowing, travelling, scuba diving, hiking, photography, volunteering etc). If health issues develop, we will just find new, less active, more suitable activities, When I retire, I will miss the intellectual challenges of work. I will just replace them with learning and doing new things.

I don't have a crystal ball to see the future but very confident that my future will not be much different from my present life in terms of enjoyment, satisfaction and happiness. So my best days are neither behind or ahead. I will just continue to try making each day either a great day or at least a good day.
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