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Old 07-22-2014, 05:37 AM
 
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Excellent posting! I too am fed up with others thinking they can 'make the rules' regarding how others live their lives.
I have learned that if you are living the life you want and are happy-Ignoring what others think of it becomes natural. Be consumed in your retirement and not others when yours works ought to be good advice for those who judge.
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Old 07-22-2014, 07:56 AM
 
Location: State of Being
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Not everyone is a social butterfly. Not everyone has health that allows them to get out and about as much as they desire. Not everyone is comfortable being away from home for periods of time.

Do what works for you. If you feel others think you are odd when the subject of travel comes up, it is easy enough to dismiss it by saying "we have seen enough of the world for now and are comfy staying close to home base at this point." End of discussion.

I think a lot of time people travel b/c they are bored and want to have something to talk about with others. Also, some folks see travel as a way to "one up" others around them, i.e. "Look - we have the discretionary income to travel all we want." If you are around folks like that . . . you really don't need that kind of attitude invading your life. Start using words like "Staycation" and tell people you are on a permanent "staycation" from here out . . . just so wonderful to be home and not HAVE to travel as I/we did with work. (That is pretty much how I feel).

Of course, you do not OWE anyone an explanation but I have found that sometimes, a simple statement puts things in perspective. Others should respect how you have decided to spend your retirement years.

As for the current invite . . .I quit staying at other people's homes about 20 years ago. I simply am not comfortable. I don't like traveling with others, either. Something as simple as the temperature of the abode can make me extremely uncomfortable. I would rather have control over my environment.

I have IBS and truly, I do not travel well. I decided a long time ago that my IBS is a very sane reason not to wish to travel with others. I tell folks that the IDEA sounds fantastic but the reality is -- travel is hard on my body these days and so the reality would be much less wonderful. Thanks for the gracious invite but sadly, I must pass.
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Old 07-22-2014, 08:09 AM
 
Location: Great State of Texas
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I only stay with immediate family otherwise it's a hotel.
I got my traveling bug out of my system when I was younger.
Quite content with a drive down to the Texas coast once or twice a year now.

I'm out in the country with lots of other like minded folks who pretty much keep to themselves and stay at home.
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Old 07-22-2014, 08:36 AM
 
Location: Florida
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The only thing my daughter says is in her bucket list is to go to Italy.
She brought it up and said now that my caretaking role is over, she figured I would want to do the traveling that I haven't been able to do.
Wrong!
Those ideas are 10 years old. The urge is gone and as mentioned above, I view travel more like something "to be endured rather than savored".
Believe it or not,, for some here can be a lot of changes between one's 60s and 70s .
Sheesh, some days having to put on shoes and comb my hair to go to the store seems like a chore!

I reserve the right to change my mind once I have nothing to do.
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Old 07-22-2014, 09:20 AM
 
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I think a lot of time people travel b/c they are bored and want to have something to talk about with others. Also, some folks see travel as a way to "one up" others around them, i.e. "Look - we have the discretionary income to travel all we want."
And here we go again....

Yet another forum/subject where people feel the need to ascribe ulterior motives and otherwise denigrate the actions of others who do not behave as they do. On the Automotive Forum, it's portraying people who drive luxury cars as showoffs who just want to look down their noses at others. On the Frugal Forum, it's portraying anyone who spends more money than they do as extravagant and spendthrifts. And now here we have the notion that people who travel do so because they want to "one-up" someone and/or flaunt their discretionary income.

Give me a break.
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Old 07-22-2014, 09:55 AM
 
Location: State of Being
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And here we go again....

Yet another forum/subject where people feel the need to ascribe ulterior motives and otherwise denigrate the actions of others who do not behave as they do. On the Automotive Forum, it's portraying people who drive luxury cars as showoffs who just want to look down their noses at others. On the Frugal Forum, it's portraying anyone who spends more money than they do as extravagant and spendthrifts. And now here we have the notion that people who travel do so because they want to "one-up" someone and/or flaunt their discretionary income.

Give me a break.
No, I don't choose to give you a break. Seems to me you don't deserve one if the only thing you got out of my post was one sentence mentioning WHY some folks regale listeners w/ stories about their travels -- Especially since it is a true statement and was qualified by limiting the phenomena to "some" folks.

You seem to forget that you aren't the only person with luxury vehicles and upscale digs . . . I suspect we have quite a few folks on this forum who qualify as "the millionaire next door." And we also have many who couldn't give a twit about luxury cars and upscale digs. And I have found that most folks are very gracious when others share info (whether about living frugally or living big) -- and they do so without judgment, unless someone is being a complete arse. Chill out.
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Old 07-22-2014, 10:00 AM
 
Location: USA
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The only thing odd about it is the need to ask.
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Old 07-22-2014, 10:03 AM
 
Location: UpstateNY
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My dad and his wife are on the road more than home. They love it. 34 foot Rv. River cruises to Europe.

We always took our vacations at home, too much to do on the ranch. Early on we followed the racing circuit, loved it.

c'est la vie!!!!!!!!
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Old 07-22-2014, 11:01 AM
 
Location: Prescott AZ
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Am trying to figure out today how to graciously reject a friend's offer to come
visit and stay in her home which is 4 times the size of mine for as long as I want.She lives in another state and is a world traveler but I don't envy that at all.

These days airline travel is a pain in the butt. No flights are direct without paying through the nose. Luggage is never easy. Transferring from airport to rental car on a bus makes me mad. Tipping everyone makes me madder. Parking my car at the airport or begging someone for a ride flips me out. Then there are 3 animals in my house that love and need me. The TSA is a joke. My daughter went through twice with a large knife in her purse which she had forgotten about. (no kidding). She carries it for protection mandated by her hubby, so it went with us unfortunately to Chicago. Everything is rush around. And people can be very rude.

Hate the jerk/bump/ boom landing at the arrival airport. Hate standing up so close to all those people waiting for the door to open. And God knows, if I have to make a connection, I am nervous as a cat. I also stay in hotels, even when I visit my son in Chicago. And noone cooks. We eat out.

So, although I would like to see a few places in the USA, I choose my adventures very carefully and limit them alot. Its just not worth it with all the stress. Not exactly a homebody but as the knees creak more today than yesterday, I am getting close.
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Old 07-22-2014, 11:17 AM
 
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Everyone is different and as long as you are happy, don't worry about what anyone else thinks or tells you. Hey, to each their own.

I am an introvert, have few friends and LOVE being home alone. However, I have a pathological need for excitement and love to be on the edge and feel raw fear. So I love adventure travel and refuse to travel with anyone else.

My Mom always told me to do anything I wanted as long as I didn't hurt anyone else or myself.
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