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Old 07-24-2014, 09:28 AM
 
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Financially, yes. We planned and we're good. Location wise, no. We missed our mark but I'm glad it happened. We retired early, still in our fifties to Florida. It was good for us to live there for the six years that we did. Great experience. It taught us a lot. Now we're relocated, closer to family and friends but there are some things we miss about Florida and we spend some of the winter there. Everything is a lesson. We're more learn-as-you-go people. We're also not done tweaking locations. The term 'final house' gives us the heevie-geevies.
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Old 07-24-2014, 09:46 AM
 
Location: SoCal desert
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So far smooth sailing with a few big waves in the rear view mirror.
I'd rather have smooth as glass than crests and troughs
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Old 07-24-2014, 09:51 AM
 
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I'd rather have smooth as glass than crests and troughs
The waves were pre-retirement and could have screwed up retirement but didn't. The only wave after retirement was the market crash but that turned out ok. Actual retirement by most standards has been very smooth plus. It is all relevant however to the context we put it in.
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Old 07-24-2014, 09:54 AM
 
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Not retired yet, but am a couple years away,
made some plans and beginning to look for that day

then my wife passed away 2 months ago, suddenly / unexpectedly

Now single, first time in 30 years,

Have to make all new plans for the rest of my life ....
Maybe I shouldn't plan ...
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Old 07-24-2014, 09:59 AM
 
Location: UpstateNY
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We seriously did not plan on anything going the way it has.

PLAN /ACTUAL
DH work until 650 or longer /out at 62, failed hip

eventually to Florida to take
care of my parents as they get
older /Dad died unexpectedly in Sept. 2012

move to FL take in mom, sell
duplex to find appropriate house /mom gets her sealegs back, wants to stay
in house, finds a BF

mom buys house for us, rents
to satisfy 1031 exchange /tenant trashes place, breaks lease

mom sells her house, downsize
to condo in same area /accepts offer on her house, decides to move
into house for us (pending)


OMG boater, I know just what you are going through.........<3

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Old 07-24-2014, 10:02 AM
 
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Hi boater1,

I am so sorry. I'm widowed too. Two months is a very short time in the scheme of grief. Be gentle with yourself, give yourself time, don't rush to make new plans.

Wishing you peace.
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Old 07-24-2014, 10:05 AM
 
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CCc,

Grief is hard work and we are very vulnerable. That is why we are all advised not to make any long-term decisions while we are in the grip of it. It takes a while to stabilize. Best wishes to you and your family.
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Old 07-24-2014, 10:05 AM
 
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Death of a spouse either shortly before or during retirement has got to be a game changer. That is the biggest dagger as it changes how you were going to spend the rest of your life together. It is my one dread.
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Old 07-24-2014, 10:22 AM
 
Location: UpstateNY
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Rule of thumb for widowers, don't make any big changes for at least a year. In my moms case it should have been two.
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Old 07-24-2014, 10:47 AM
 
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Financially, yes. We planned and we're good. Location wise, no. We missed our mark but I'm glad it happened. We retired early, still in our fifties to Florida. It was good for us to live there for the six years that we did. Great experience. It taught us a lot. Now we're relocated, closer to family and friends but there are some things we miss about Florida and we spend some of the winter there. Everything is a lesson. We're more learn-as-you-go people. We're also not done tweaking locations. The term 'final house' gives us the heevie-geevies.
I agree on the 'final house' thing. I love where we are now, but I am pretty sure this will not be our last house depending on lots of things.
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