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Old 08-20-2014, 09:30 AM
 
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Sometimes after retirement adult children come back.
This happened to a good friend who finally said enough is enough.
Out the door he went.
We re talking about many years of just lazing about.

Any success stories here about adult children who went back on their own?
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Old 08-20-2014, 09:55 AM
 
Location: SoCal
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Yep, one of my sisters (with her two toddlers). But it was decades ago, and the economy was relatively robust at that time, so she had reasonably good opportunities to get herself back to independence.
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Old 08-20-2014, 10:03 AM
 
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Yep, one of my sisters (with her two toddlers). But it was decades ago, and the economy was relatively robust at that time, so she had reasonably good opportunities to get herself back to independence.
Good news for you. Toddlers can be exhausting when you are older.
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Old 08-20-2014, 01:19 PM
 
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Compare unemployment / underemployment for the 18 - 34 range today vs say 1984 and there should be no surprise about this. It would stink to be in that age range right now. Thankless.
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Old 08-20-2014, 02:09 PM
 
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Yep, retired at 51, moved to Florida with DW ... Had a wonderful first year and then the news , one daughter , pregnant no father in picture . She moves in with us to get a new start, has child , finds good gainful employment and her and my grandson move out less than one year later . It's now been about two years , she's self sufficient and doing a wonderful job as a single mom as well. It was a tough year but I would do it again in a heart beat ..and my grandson is the best little guy ever !
So yes they do move back out ...
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Old 08-20-2014, 02:20 PM
 
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I moved back in with my parents in my 20's (a long long time ago)
They still had the same rules as when I was 16.
You know those rules ... the ones that start with "While you are under our roof ..."

It was a big incentive to get out of there ASAP
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Old 08-20-2014, 02:23 PM
 
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Yep, retired at 51, moved to Florida with DW ... Had a wonderful first year and then the news , one daughter , pregnant no father in picture . She moves in with us to get a new start, has child , finds good gainful employment and her and my grandson move out less than one year later . It's now been about two years , she's self sufficient and doing a wonderful job as a single mom as well. It was a tough year but I would do it again in a heart beat ..and my grandson is the best little guy ever !
So yes they do move back out ...
Good positive story.
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Old 08-21-2014, 10:29 AM
 
Location: SW Florida
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Yep, retired at 51, moved to Florida with DW ... Had a wonderful first year and then the news , one daughter , pregnant no father in picture . She moves in with us to get a new start, has child , finds good gainful employment and her and my grandson move out less than one year later . It's now been about two years , she's self sufficient and doing a wonderful job as a single mom as well. It was a tough year but I would do it again in a heart beat ..and my grandson is the best little guy ever !
So yes they do move back out ...
And you got a grandson in the deal as well!
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Old 08-21-2014, 02:26 PM
 
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Haven't had that happen to me. My son knows that he can always come back home if life throws a curve, and he also knows that he can always come back home with a plan to get his life back on track and move on.
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Old 08-21-2014, 05:26 PM
 
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We tell our younger friends that they better have a savings called "For kids AFTER college". All four of ours have degrees and all four work at least one job, but we have had two that did boomer-rang back for a couple of years.
This millennial group has it hard, I think. Lots of them are working very hard and they still can't afford their medical premiums. We help now and then with our two that struggle the most, but it's taken a chunk out of our savings since we did not plan on having to help adult children. My husband and I were raised that when you are 18, you are out. Good luck, we love you, but you're on your own.
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