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Old 09-26-2014, 11:06 AM
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Originally Posted by newenglandgirl View Post

Seventies is not that old.

How lucid and "with it" is your father? Is he intelligent and savvy? If he's pretty together as an individual, despite his medical problems I would butt out. We each choose our own fate by our own decisions. It this marriage turns of fine for him, great, and if not, oh well. Let him take the consequences and don't hover over him so much. You'd want the same leeway for yourself at his age.

That said, if he's flakey or not with it mentally, you should see a lawyer to see what you can do legally—POA etc.

Thanks for this. Your thoughts are very reasonable.

He is intelligent, but not savvy/sophisticated and unfortunately has a brain injury and mental illness on top of his primary disabilities. He is dependent on his kids for medical/financial decision making and we are his POAs. He is not a fan of lawyers etc.. and it took my Mom's death (with no financial planning prior) to finally lead him to agree to get some basic documents in place.

Unfortunately, he is very mistrustful of professionals, and has been taken advantage of in the past. This includes the recent past... it makes him very suspicious, which unfortunately is compounded by his cognitive problems. I have also had bad experiences in the past with professionals, so I don't blame him.
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