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Old 01-04-2015, 06:32 PM
 
Location: Florida
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Invest every dime I could into my retirement fund. join the gym sooner and use it three times a week, eat healthier day in and day out.
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Old 01-04-2015, 08:50 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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If I could say something to my 2005 self, it would be "No good turn goes unpunished, so be prepared to get kicked in the teeth without letting it bother you. Be prepared to move on with the realization that life will have some of that and that it will come unpredictably."

If we have been mean or if we have let someone down, we should expect it to come back and haunt us. But if we have stepped forward with generosity or have gone beyond the call of duty with conscientious service, we shouldn't expect overt hostility. But of course life is not "fair".

Fortunately for me, the instances of "getting kicked in the teeth" have been richly counterbalanced by expressions of gratitude which came out of the blue and which are all the more valued for being unsolicited and unexpected. Lesson from that: Don't hesitate to express appreciation when it is deserved.
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Old 01-04-2015, 09:18 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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IOW, if your 2015 self saw your 2005 self, what would you say?
'You've come a long way, baby."
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Old 01-04-2015, 11:33 PM
 
Location: San Francisco
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IOW, if your 2015 self saw your 2005 self, what would you say?
Ten years ago I became clinically depressed from the shock of learning that my job was going to cease to exist the following year and that I would have to either learn a whole new skill set (that didn't suit my talents at all) or retire early. I was tied in knots with worry and anxiety. My whole world was turned upside down.

Looking back from 2015, I would have told myself Don't worry, it's going to be all right. Because it was. Years of saving and investing and living frugally paid off when I did the math and learned that I didn't need to put myself through the hell of trying to retrain for a job I didn't want and would have been terrible at. Instead I took an early retirement, and that was the best thing that's ever happened to me. I wouldn't change a thing except the worrying part.
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Old 01-05-2015, 01:32 AM
 
Location: Cochise county, AZ
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If I could say something to my 2005 self, it would be "No good turn goes unpunished, so be prepared to get kicked in the teeth without letting it bother you. Be prepared to move on with the realization that life will have some of that and that it will come unpredictably."

If we have been mean or if we have let someone down, we should expect it to come back and haunt us. But if we have stepped forward with generosity or have gone beyond the call of duty with conscientious service, we shouldn't expect overt hostility. But of course life is not "fair".

Fortunately for me, the instances of "getting kicked in the teeth" have been richly counterbalanced by expressions of gratitude which came out of the blue and which are all the more valued for being unsolicited and unexpected. Lesson from that: Don't hesitate to express appreciation when it is deserved.
I never have agreed with that saying about no good deed, but, I had such a horrible two years & when the Social Security judge said, "There is no way you can do the job you've been doing for 30+ years" and qualified me for disability, the back pay enabled me to pay back all the people who'd helped me while I waited for the decision, plus let me get to a better life.

So, I guess since I always worked for non profit organizations, maybe you're right since it took two years to get the reward. I guess I would rather have that saying be "No good deeds are unrecognised". And the karma saying, what goes around, comes around." So if u spend your life doing good, it will come back to you.

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Old 01-05-2015, 04:20 AM
 
Location: Ouachita Mtns of Arkansas
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Default If only I knew that, I could have .....

"slowed down a little more while taking that curve on my Harley". "What was I thinking?"
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Old 01-05-2015, 04:37 AM
 
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So easy to Monday Morning Quarterback about previous choices. I have a list as well, what I do is try to learn from my poor choices as I go forward (not saying that I won't ever again make a bad choice!).
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Old 01-05-2015, 05:55 AM
 
Location: Whereever we have our RV parked
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More exercise.
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Old 01-05-2015, 06:19 AM
 
Location: Near a river
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More exercise.
Get a mini trampoline ~ that's my solution to not being able to be outside for winter exercise, plus it's low/no impact, and it's fun/
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Old 01-05-2015, 07:27 AM
 
Location: Backwoods of Maine
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If I knew then, what I know now...

I would have retired at 60 rather than wait till 65. I gained zero money (thanks to 2008) for waiting, and although I made most of it back, I can't say I'm richer for that extra 5 years. It was just another 5 years of stress and wear-and-tear on the bod. I had to have both my knees replaced, 8 weeks apart. But I knew that was coming. Life is good now that it's over.

Tomorrow isn't promised to any of us. Sometimes you just have to grab the brass ring while it's within reach!
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