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Old 01-05-2015, 07:52 AM
 
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At Christmas, our daughter was just great to me. She is growing up. There are things I have not been able to move past and I need to move forward instead of looking back and being sad.

Let's put it this way - the last major shopping for work type clothes/daily stuff was over 10 years ago.
What I've been wearing was embarrassing to say the least and of course, she noticed that.

She went to a store and came home with a big bag, all age and size appropriate clothes. She told me that she wouldn't buy me new ones if my size went up - only if it went down.

Well, this kind act has lifted my spirits and encouraged me to really focus on some of the goals I need to set - one of them being weight loss like so many others - and just make proper eating a regular part of life.

I know I need to get back to the gym also so thanks for those of you who suggested that.
Bette

It is funny how our daughters take care of us in that way sometimes, isn't it. They get fed up with our current look and drag us shopping whether we want to go or not. Often when we need change the most.
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Old 01-05-2015, 08:24 AM
 
Location: Boca Raton, FL
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Smile The funny thing was...

She went by herself and bought me clothes I would have most likely passed by. And - they all fit.

LOL.

But yes, you are right.
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Old 01-05-2015, 10:31 AM
 
Location: Chicago area
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Call in sick on the day you're going to catch that super bug in 06. It's been hell.
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Old 01-05-2015, 12:32 PM
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Location: North Monterey County
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IOW, if your 2015 self saw your 2005 self, what would you say?
This too shall pass.

There IS light at the end of the tunnel.

You've been working 45+ years - another 4 won't kill you.


Breathe.
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Old 01-05-2015, 12:34 PM
 
Location: Las Vegas
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Whoa... For me it would have been life changing. I would have put my house on the market January one and moved into a rental close to work. I would be a much wealthier person today if I had done that one thing. Next I would have known H was going to die and I would have insisted he get his affairs in order so I wouldn't have had to lose half of what we had to his relatives.

I probably would have stayed in MN and saved money. Worked till after H died. OR maybe I would have been able to force him to get appropriate medical care and save himself! Who knows. Most likely I would have moved to Vegas in 2012 instead of 2008.

Just a decades worth of prescience would have changed the whole rest of my life!
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Old 01-05-2015, 12:50 PM
 
Location: Florida -
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No real regrets to speak of. Life has been pretty good -- I suppose we might have been more timely in selling property that had skyrocketed to 2006 levels, before dropping in 2007-08, but, even so, didn't do too bad. Retired early in 2008 - good decision, again with no regrets. Moved to be closer to grandkids in 2011 - Preferred the weather and area where we were, but, the young grandkids are a lot of fun! Steady preaching/teaching in old area ... New area hasn't picked-up as quickly, but, more time to write, etc.. --- Just rambling, I guess, but, interesting question, and can't really think of much I would have done differently.
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Old 01-05-2015, 01:40 PM
 
Location: SoCal desert
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iow, if your 2015 self saw your 2005 self, what would you say?
"Just keep doing what you're doing."
"Except when that realtor comes to the door in 2007 and offers you 5 times what you paid for the house. Grab the money and run."
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Old 01-05-2015, 04:19 PM
 
Location: Nescopeck, Penna. (birthplace)
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Not much, but I do wish I had worked part-time more during my undergraduate years, and possibly "sampled" a bit more before deciding on a career. Like so many of the Millennials complaining at this site, I was in for some painful lowering of expectations.

In addition, I would likely pay more attention to the behavioral and humanities classes I either downplayed or shunned.

But that's about all; I have very few major regrets.
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Old 01-06-2015, 07:51 AM
 
Location: Loudon, TN
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I would've sold our home at the peak of the market and made a killing! Oh, to have a crystal ball that works.....
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Old 01-06-2015, 04:16 PM
 
Location: NC
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I don't think I could have done any better than I did the last 10 yrs, all things considered. What I do wish is that I would have the ability to know the best course of action to take for the next 10 yrs. For these next 10 yrs I have way too many options to explore. Or ignore.
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