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Old 01-06-2015, 09:37 PM
 
Location: Tucson/Nogales
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I've been scanning the Obituary columns for decades, don't ask my why, it's an addiction!

The vast majority of them are sugar-coated, as if they walked around on this planet with angel wings, or their sh*t never stunk!

"She would have done anything for her children!"
"The most loving, selfless mother or father you could ask for!"
"She was totally dedicated/loyal to her husband for 60 years!"
"He will now be rejoined in Heaven with his loving wife of 50 years!:
"All the grandchildren worshipped their grandmother!"
"His wife and children always came first!"

How about you? Are you planning on have a typical sugar-coated obituary some day, or are you planning to have your obituary stand out from the rest, perhaps with some humor thrown in? Or some dashes of brutal honesty? And are you going to write in advance or leave it to one of your grandchildren who worshipped the ground you walked on? Or leave it to your loyal/dedicated wife or husband to write? And, why insult your intelligence, no 4-letter or 7-letter (adding ing) words will be allowed!
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Old 01-06-2015, 09:41 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Who reads newspapers anymore?

I get my news online as do most people I know. No obits read by me. None planned for me because I don't know anyone who reads them.
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Old 01-06-2015, 10:04 PM
 
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No obit for DH & me, either. In our funeral planning, we arranged for the funeral home to enter just the basics in their online database: birthplace, parents, death date, list of survivors.

I don't read the details in obits, I just scan them (newspaper and online) to see if there's any family to whom I need to send condolences. Actually I learn of most deaths via Facebook, before the announcements hit the news or databases.
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Old 01-06-2015, 10:18 PM
 
Location: New Mexico
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Obits are not cheap - it costs lot for an obituary in a major newspaper beyond just the visitation/funeral times. Why not dress it up if you are going to pay for one.
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Old 01-06-2015, 10:26 PM
 
Location: New Mexico
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Actually I learn of most deaths via Facebook, before the announcements hit the news or databases.
It's a problem that folks are first hearing of parents or siblings dying by seeing it on Facebook. It is a little thoughtless to race to Facebook to post such bad news before the family is notified. I know of a couple cases where that has happened.
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Old 01-06-2015, 10:38 PM
 
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It's a problem that folks are first hearing of parents or siblings dying by seeing it on Facebook. It is a little thoughtless to race to Facebook to post such bad news before the family is notified. I know of a couple cases where that has happened.
I'm sure it happens but I've never heard of anything like that.
When I said I learn first on Facebook, I'm referring to deaths of more distant friends - old schoolmates, especially - and their families. Also former co-workers. IOW, the types information that people usually scan obits to look for.
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Old 01-07-2015, 12:12 AM
 
Location: NYC
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I only read the obits on the NY Times website every other month or two just to acknowledge the passing of people of merit & what they accomplished. There is always someone that was an author, actor, musician, etc... that I recall back in the day. For example I hadn't heard that "Little" Jimmy Dickens passed away this weekend... "May The Bird of Paradise Fly Up Your Nose".

I figure people who I know that die I will get the word from others by phone or email since not a soul I came of age with or went to school with is even in the state anymore. I too only read news online as well...
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Old 01-07-2015, 02:15 AM
 
Location: Las Vegas
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No obit for me. Why pay for a death notice? Those I care about will know. But I'm just guessing I won't care at all!
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Old 01-07-2015, 02:39 AM
 
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Humor is fine; brutal honesty is not. (That's why it's called "brutal.")
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Old 01-07-2015, 02:48 AM
 
Location: Tucson/Nogales
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I would like my obituary to be so humorous, people will die laughing after reading it!
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