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Old 01-19-2015, 08:39 AM
 
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Forget all this stereotypical BS, let's talk about our bowel movements!
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Old 01-19-2015, 09:08 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Forget all this stereotypical BS, let's talk about our bowel movements!
If you are a senior, I am happy to note that your wit and sense of humor seem to remain undiminished.

On a more serious note, I have never understood why medical problems (including bowel problems) would be a subject of daily, regular conversation among a subset of seniors. Those poor souls must have no real life. God preserve me from ever becoming like that. If I had problems with bowel regularity, it would be a subject of conversation only between my and my doctor.
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Old 01-19-2015, 10:35 AM
 
Location: Henderson, NV
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Has anyone wondered why a 28 year-old, the OP of this and many other posts, is spending so much time on the Retirement forum? I feel as if we're being used for a research paper.
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Old 01-19-2015, 11:16 AM
 
Location: SW Florida
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If you are a senior, I am happy to note that your wit and sense of humor seem to remain undiminished.

On a more serious note, I have never understood why medical problems (including bowel problems) would be a subject of daily, regular conversation among a subset of seniors. Those poor souls must have no real life. God preserve me from ever becoming like that. If I had problems with bowel regularity, it would be a subject of conversation only between my and my doctor.
I heard of a comment made by a senior one time, that IMO kind of illustrates the perspective that may exist among at least some seniors who spend so much time talking about their health issues. The guy said, "If I didn't have all these doctors' appointments I wouldn't have any social life at all".

We laughed when we heard that comment, but it was also poignant, as I see it. The comment addressed not only that the guy had a number of health issues (or poor health), enough to have to spend a significant amount of time seeing doctors, but also that he didn't have much, if anything else, to occupy his time, or to talk about. Perhaps being in this situation explains at least one of the reasons some seniors talk ad nauseum about their health.

But I'll tell you they aren't alone in that regard! Having worked for many years in settings where females outnumbered males by approximately 5 to 1 (healthcare), I can attest that all it takes is one pregnant female in the bunch to have all the other ladies talking at length, in graphic and gory detail about THEIR pregnancies, labor and deliveries.

Then they'd move on to the vicissitudes, graphic and gory details of child-rearing....

I guess there's something in human nature that makes any number of us talk at length about what concerns us?
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Old 01-19-2015, 11:30 AM
 
Location: SW Florida
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If the friend lives in Tucson, she should have access to dial-a-ride through SunTrans. At the nonprofit that I work at, there are ten volunteers that are picked up all over town and dropped off in front of the building. The fares, I believe are $3.00 one-way or $1.00 if you qualify for reduced fare, which most of them do. All you need to do is to call one day in advance for a ride.
They've got a dial-a-ride program here where we live too. And I see those little buses everywhere, so it seems many people use it. The fare is $1.00 each way, I believe. The problem is, that there seem to be too many people ( including the two family members I drive everywhere they want to go-one of whom, my mother, gave up her car keys and sold her car) who think the dial-a-ride is too inconvenient for them to use. They don't like being picked up early and having to wait for appointments, or having to wait for the ride when the appointment is over, or having to wait when they're finished shopping, or whatever, till the dial-a-ride bus comes to pick them up. It's too easy for them to "guilt" the transportation fairy ( the person who drives them everywhere) into taking them everywhere.
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Old 01-20-2015, 08:20 AM
 
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If you are a senior, I am happy to note that your wit and sense of humor seem to remain undiminished.

On a more serious note, I have never understood why medical problems (including bowel problems) would be a subject of daily, regular conversation among a subset of seniors. Those poor souls must have no real life. God preserve me from ever becoming like that. If I had problems with bowel regularity, it would be a subject of conversation only between my and my doctor.
Says the guy with 9,505 posts on c-d!
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Old 01-20-2015, 04:23 PM
 
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They've got a dial-a-ride program here where we live too. And I see those little buses everywhere, so it seems many people use it. The fare is $1.00 each way, I believe. The problem is, that there seem to be too many people ( including the two family members I drive everywhere they want to go-one of whom, my mother, gave up her car keys and sold her car) who think the dial-a-ride is too inconvenient for them to use. They don't like being picked up early and having to wait for appointments, or having to wait for the ride when the appointment is over, or having to wait when they're finished shopping, or whatever, till the dial-a-ride bus comes to pick them up. It's too easy for them to "guilt" the transportation fairy ( the person who drives them everywhere) into taking them everywhere.

One of the guys I volunteer with fell recently and can no longer drive. For the first few weeks, people were willing to drive miles out of their way to pick him up. After that period, one of the people taught him to use the "dial a ride", which for him is about $1.

As long as you are the "dial-a-ride", you will be doing all the driving.

I will admit that my father does hitch rides with neighbors and relatives BUT he does it when they are going. He still drives to most doctors appointments.
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Old 01-20-2015, 05:59 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Says the guy with 9,505 posts on c-d!
Your point, if there is one, completely eludes me. None of my posts are about bowel problems.
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Old 01-21-2015, 03:13 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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I heard of a comment made by a senior one time, that IMO kind of illustrates the perspective that may exist among at least some seniors who spend so much time talking about their health issues. The guy said, "If I didn't have all these doctors' appointments I wouldn't have any social life at all".

We laughed when we heard that comment, but it was also poignant, as I see it. The comment addressed not only that the guy had a number of health issues (or poor health), enough to have to spend a significant amount of time seeing doctors, but also that he didn't have much, if anything else, to occupy his time, or to talk about. Perhaps being in this situation explains at least one of the reasons some seniors talk ad nauseum about their health.

But I'll tell you they aren't alone in that regard! Having worked for many years in settings where females outnumbered males by approximately 5 to 1 (healthcare), I can attest that all it takes is one pregnant female in the bunch to have all the other ladies talking at length, in graphic and gory detail about THEIR pregnancies, labor and deliveries.

Then they'd move on to the vicissitudes, graphic and gory details of child-rearing....

I guess there's something in human nature that makes any number of us talk at length about what concerns us?
I agree that is sad, very sad (about not having any social life at all outside of medical appointments).
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Old 01-21-2015, 04:50 AM
 
Location: ☀️ SWFL ⛱ 🌴
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I heard of a comment made by a senior one time, that IMO kind of illustrates the perspective that may exist among at least some seniors who spend so much time talking about their health issues. The guy said, "If I didn't have all these doctors' appointments I wouldn't have any social life at all".

We laughed when we heard that comment, but it was also poignant, as I see it. The comment addressed not only that the guy had a number of health issues (or poor health), enough to have to spend a significant amount of time seeing doctors, but also that he didn't have much, if anything else, to occupy his time, or to talk about. Perhaps being in this situation explains at least one of the reasons some seniors talk ad nauseum about their health.

But I'll tell you they aren't alone in that regard! Having worked for many years in settings where females outnumbered males by approximately 5 to 1 (healthcare), I can attest that all it takes is one pregnant female in the bunch to have all the other ladies talking at length, in graphic and gory detail about THEIR pregnancies, labor and deliveries.

Then they'd move on to the vicissitudes, graphic and gory details of child-rearing....

I guess there's something in human nature that makes any number of us talk at length about what concerns us?
The man talking about not having a life outside of his dr. appts may be trying to make light of his situation and inject some humor into a grim time of life and keep things in perspective. My Dad had cancer 20 years ago and was disgusted that his life was not his own during the time of his treatment. Surgery, chemo, scans, bloodwork and dr. appts was his routine for well over two years. I call it being caught in the loop and its hard to get out sometimes. Complications or adverse reactions to treatments and discovery of different illnesses, related or not to the original condition, may pop up and it can become endless. It's easy to say someone must have a sad life if it only consists of their medical appts., but it's something they have to think about everyday and fit their life around. Hopefully it's a short term condition and not a life long obsession.

I dont like listening to health problems of others either, but I do understand their need to unburden themselves. Their need to verbalize what they are experiencing and my dislike of hearing it, are both based on fear, underneath it all.

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