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Old 02-18-2015, 04:50 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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One thing that seems popular around here on a certain kind of older woman is shawl-like tops, long gauzy tops over baggy gauzy skirts or pants (giving a tent-like feeling) with large bobbly necklaces from some other culture. I'd prefer to see an old-fashioned tailored dress from the 50s, actually. I have no clue what I look good in, but I refuse to wear baggy.
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Old 02-19-2015, 01:26 PM
 
Location: Loudon, TN
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We have a lady (probably 68ish) in our community (mostly retired folks) who always overdresses for everything. We chuckle to ourselves when we see her because she looks so out of place all the time. We are a very recreational type community, so most people, even those in their 70's and 80's wear jeans, shorts, polos, nice tees, etc. A few particularly dapper folks will wear button down shirts and a sweater, or nice blouse, jacket, and slacks. This one lady (we call her "trophy wife") always wears what I call "Palm Springs ladies who lunch". She might wear silk slacks, a tight sparkly sweater, 4 bracelets, a large statement necklace, 3 or 4 chains, 3 or 4 large rings with "stones" approximately an inch across, sunglasses with rhinestones, strappy gold metallic sandals, a professionally styled (60's styles) wig, impeccable makeup, and a hat complete with either 8" feathers sticking out of it or with rhinestones all over the brim, etc. to an event where everyone else is in shorts or capris, sneakers, and a polo shirt. Seriously she has never heard of "less is more". Her husband is SO proud of her, makes me shake my head, because she just sticks out like a very overdressed sore thumb in any crowd, and she sparkles so much you need sunglasses to look at her!

I will never, ever dress like that.
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Old 02-19-2015, 05:41 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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We have a lady (probably 68ish) in our community (mostly retired folks) who always overdresses for everything. We chuckle to ourselves when we see her because she looks so out of place all the time. We are a very recreational type community, so most people, even those in their 70's and 80's wear jeans, shorts, polos, nice tees, etc. A few particularly dapper folks will wear button down shirts and a sweater, or nice blouse, jacket, and slacks. This one lady (we call her "trophy wife") always wears what I call "Palm Springs ladies who lunch". She might wear silk slacks, a tight sparkly sweater, 4 bracelets, a large statement necklace, 3 or 4 chains, 3 or 4 large rings with "stones" approximately an inch across, sunglasses with rhinestones, strappy gold metallic sandals, a professionally styled (60's styles) wig, impeccable makeup, and a hat complete with either 8" feathers sticking out of it or with rhinestones all over the brim, etc. to an event where everyone else is in shorts or capris, sneakers, and a polo shirt. Seriously she has never heard of "less is more". Her husband is SO proud of her, makes me shake my head, because she just sticks out like a very overdressed sore thumb in any crowd, and she sparkles so much you need sunglasses to look at her!

I will never, ever dress like that.
That is pretty strange, isn't it. I wonder what she is thinking in her own mind. Perhaps at a very young age she accepted and internalized being over-dressed like that as an absolute value of classiness? Perhaps she thinks it makes her superior to everyone else? Most people, of course, would not want to be a minority of one all the time. Some people are hard to figure.

A rather extreme analogy might be a nudist resort, where a person going around dressed would stick out like a sore thumb and draw attention to him or herself, whereas people in the nude would not cause any particular attention to be paid. (Yes, my ex-wife and I used to be members of one).

I place very little value on conformity, but the example you gave us there is so extreme that by comparison, yes, I am a conformist.
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Old 02-19-2015, 07:54 PM
 
Location: Asheville NC
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One thing that seems popular around here on a certain kind of older woman is shawl-like tops, long gauzy tops over baggy gauzy skirts or pants (giving a tent-like feeling) with large bobbly necklaces from some other culture. I'd prefer to see an old-fashioned tailored dress from the 50s, actually. I have no clue what I look good in, but I refuse to wear baggy.
Called "Langen Look" --I personally like it and often dress this way. Not all is baggy. Dressing appropriately to the situation, and being comfortable,while wearing whatever I like, is my idea of "mature dressing."
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Old 02-19-2015, 10:43 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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LOL @ "screamer or moaner". You crack me up.

I see this at work all the time. Older couples dressed alike. I often wonder why.
DH and I both live pretty much in tear-offs and T-shirts. One day on one camping trip, we happened to be wearing the same color tear-offs and same color T-shirts.

I walked over to use the 'facilities', and some camper was half-undressed washing up at a sink. I didn't really need the facilities and figured she'd appreciate the privacy, so I left. A while later, I saw that the park host was talking at some length with DH. He's much more sociable than I am, so I didn't think anything about it. He later reported that the park host told him that a camper had complained about a man lurking around the womens' 'facilities'.

Now, we're both tall and slim. I happened to have had my hair tied back. I'm sure it was me that she noticed, and the description just so happened to apply to both of us.
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Old 02-19-2015, 10:49 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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I don't see any problem with the article's choice to address only one aspect of style/attitude, namely as it applies to "mature women". But of course it's clear that "mature men" can also dress in tacky, frumpy, slovenly styles and have various attitude problems. As I posted previously, I think the style business is simpler for us men, and I also think we tend to give it a lot less thought (for better or for worse!).

Why don't you start your own thread? It could be called something like "Dress style and attitude problems among older men".
Why don't you two just get a room.
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Old 02-19-2015, 10:58 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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Called "Langen Look" --I personally like it and often dress this way. Not all is baggy. Dressing appropriately to the situation, and being comfortable,while wearing whatever I like, is my idea of "mature dressing."
I'd heard it called the "earth mother" look.
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Old 02-20-2015, 08:53 AM
 
Location: Asheville NC
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I'd heard it called the "earth mother" look.
Thinking of. Google Langenlook. Earth mother is more "hippy" in my opinion. Langen look means layered look in German.

But maybe she was describing a baggy earth mother- LOL.
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Old 02-20-2015, 10:12 AM
 
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We have a lady (probably 68ish) in our community (mostly retired folks) who always overdresses for everything. We chuckle to ourselves when we see her because she looks so out of place all the time. We are a very recreational type community, so most people, even those in their 70's and 80's wear jeans, shorts, polos, nice tees, etc. A few particularly dapper folks will wear button down shirts and a sweater, or nice blouse, jacket, and slacks. This one lady (we call her "trophy wife") always wears what I call "Palm Springs ladies who lunch". She might wear silk slacks, a tight sparkly sweater, 4 bracelets, a large statement necklace, 3 or 4 chains, 3 or 4 large rings with "stones" approximately an inch across, sunglasses with rhinestones, strappy gold metallic sandals, a professionally styled (60's styles) wig, impeccable makeup, and a hat complete with either 8" feathers sticking out of it or with rhinestones all over the brim, etc. to an event where everyone else is in shorts or capris, sneakers, and a polo shirt. Seriously she has never heard of "less is more". Her husband is SO proud of her, makes me shake my head, because she just sticks out like a very overdressed sore thumb in any crowd, and she sparkles so much you need sunglasses to look at her!

I will never, ever dress like that.

I think it's great that she dresses the way SHE wants. Wouldn't life be much more interesting if people had more variety of outfits for any event instead of look-alike clones with no imagination.
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Old 02-20-2015, 02:07 PM
 
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I love to see an older woman step out of her comfort zone for a special occasion, maybe wear something a little bit different, a moderate heel, a different cut or color, get away from that blousey Maude look. It's that easy-on elasticized outfit that makes older woman look like they're wearing today's version of their mother's housecoat. And neckwear... When I see a pretty older faced woman with a scarf round her neck, I always wonder what she's hiding. A woman who marches to her own music, big or small, young or old is always beautiful in my opinion.
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