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Old 03-11-2015, 03:43 PM
Location: New Mexico
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I've been to New Bern a couple times visiting and it seemed like a nice place (once they got the pirates cleaned out). If I was wanting to be by the water that is where I would want to look. And - Pepsi-Cola was invented there. The Tryon Palace and historic areas are interesting.
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Old 03-12-2015, 12:50 PM
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I have visited and stayed in three 55+ communities, in Florida, NJ and SC, and you have succinctly described what I don't like about them. They are all about paying dues to support what "most people" want, and many people assume "most people" want a constant social whirl.

But what about writers, artists, and the like, whose personal light shines best when you are thinking independently and doing independent activities? What if you prefer working out and walking by yourself, and only want to be around people when it suits you?

The houses and yards are small by design, to make maintenance easier; you can't create your own little paradise the way you can in a regular neighborhood. (As for purple houses and Section 8s - I know they are out there, but have never lived around them). As far as I can see, you end up subsidizing the other "activities" for everyone else and being ignored, perhaps even resented, because you aren't "with the crowd."

I'd like to hear from someone who disagrees with me on this and says "independent thinkers can still be at home in a 55+ community." And I wish there could be an over-55 community where people like me could feel at home.


Originally Posted by rothbear View Post

Concerning the 55+..........unfortunately I can't count the number of times I see people assuming this same thing when they have never even seen a 55+ community... The activity center is full constantly, as are the tennis courts, bocce ball courts, pickleball courts, softball, golf course, walking trails, etc. etc. etc....
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Old 03-13-2015, 06:14 AM
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We came from MA to NC almost 5 years ago. Mainly the weather, the cold mostly.

Started out in Cary the Containment Area for Relocated Yankees and kept drifting south... Apex and now the Sandhills.

The air is drier up north with less humidity. The south can actually feel worse due to the humidity- 40 degrees and rainy sounds balmy when you are dealing with that 15 degrees in winter but it's not. It's a dampness that gets in your bones and doesn't go away! It can feel as bad as that 15 degrees.

Down here they have heat pumps for heat- not so great to keep you warm when the temp is in the 30s and below. I miss Gas Heat! LOL

I don't find it better at all weatherwise, and if I have to deal with humidity all year long here in NC, then I am truly thinking that maybe it's better to keep going even further south to be warmer :-)

But as far as beauty goes, NC is great! I would come back and visit...
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Old 03-14-2015, 10:38 AM
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Originally Posted by Always Wondering View Post
Thanks for all of your input. We are thinking now that we might want to look at New Bern. I might sound like I am flip-flopping, but we're just trying to be open to a variety of options!
Lots of great advice. Web transplanted to the Triangle and love it. You first have to define yourselves and then find a area with similar identity in NC. A wide range and mix and when you visit the various areas explore individual neighborhoods during the day, nice weather both week days and weekends. People at home, garage doors open, neighbors out etc etc. cold weather, hot and humid and bugs can make us retreat inside.
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