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Old 03-14-2015, 06:18 AM
 
Location: UpstateNY
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I for sure know how we plan and stuff happens along the way. My husband was getting ready to retire in a few weeks he was hit from behind c2 c3 broken neck kidney damage we thought he was going to be ok ready to sign on a retirement home the day we were going to sign he had bad back pains went to er here he had cancer 65 he died about 13 months later .I now am building a 23oosq ft home in fl around 3 blocks from my old house due to not wanting to leave my drs when he was here i was moving to Sarasota fl but now Orlando i did meet a nice man not getting married but nice to share my life again with someone .I don't like being alone I just hope I can enjoy life again such a hard loss but I know he wants me to be happy I do really miss him a lot but very grateful to have him 25 years.
Not trying to be harsh here, but punctuation and paragraphs are your friends. I'm old and your post is really hard to read. TYIA
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Old 03-15-2015, 02:58 PM
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Location: North Monterey County
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Yes, life happens when you are making plans. Both my spouse and I are from pretty healthy gene lines - all of our parents living up into their 80's and 90's.

But my 68 year old sister just lost her 68 year old husband - in a pedestrian auto accident. I couldn't be sadder for her. He's been retired for over 10 years - but was a very young 68. His kids are devastated.

As for my spouse and I- we have always known how to live on NOTHING. Saved 30% of my income and what I will retire on will be what we are living on now. The only change is that we will be moving to a state with a higher COL. But we have lived there before and know how to manipulate the situation for our benefit.

We won't be living in the heart of any metro area - because that's where it's expensive. We prefer to live away from the madness. We will be closer to family and friends...

If something happens to either of us - there will be family and friends nearby. We know how to take care of ourselves - we married at the very ripe age of 35.

I relish the thought of downsizing. I'll be ruthless - and love every moment of getting rid of crap we have accumulated over the years. No tiny house for us - we hope to build something all on one level with wide hallways and doorways if we should need a wheelchair.

Pets? We'd be lost without them. I hope to always have a dog in our life - and will make accommodations for any pet if we were to die before them.

I am so looking forward to our third act.
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Old 03-15-2015, 03:14 PM
 
Location: UpstateNY
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Very sorry for your sister, that is awful.

Good luck with your new plan, we've been downsizing for 2 years now. It will take longer than you think.

To the OP, there's choice and there's chance. Old Yiddish proverb: Man makes plans and God laughs.
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Old 03-15-2015, 06:13 PM
 
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Not trying to be harsh here, but punctuation and paragraphs are your friends. I'm old and your post is really hard to read. TYIA
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Old 03-16-2015, 02:38 PM
 
Location: UpstateNY
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Yeah, I know, I'm anal. And my eyesight sucks.
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Old 03-16-2015, 02:58 PM
 
Location: Edina, MN, USA
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Very sorry for your sister, that is awful.

Good luck with your new plan, we've been downsizing for 2 years now. It will take longer than you think.

To the OP, there's choice and there's chance. Old Yiddish proverb: Man makes plans and God laughs.


That happens to be an old Norwegian proverb too.
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Old 03-16-2015, 03:07 PM
 
Location: UpstateNY
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Way cool! Are you Viking descent, Umb?
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Old 03-16-2015, 03:23 PM
 
Location: Edina, MN, USA
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Way cool! Are you Viking descent, Umb?
Yep - I wear one of those funky hats the horns
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Old 03-16-2015, 05:34 PM
 
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Mine was more or less in time I now had to do what I had been and more; basically. Realizing that many things I had to do early on and not leave to life's chances. The latest was at 65 to secure even more against healthcare risk and to secure for what if's having seen examples if not and effect.
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Old 03-17-2015, 09:23 AM
 
Location: UpstateNY
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Yep - I wear one of those funky hats the horns
LMAO my BFF has one!!!!!!!! A la Horny Mike on Counting Cars!!!!!!
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