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Old 03-14-2015, 11:51 AM
 
Location: Idaho
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Then there is rage at not being able to communicate or function.
This frustration stage is the hardest thing to bear for both sides. My FIL had a series of strokes which robbed him more and more of normal functions. In the last few years of his life, this fiercely independent man had to rely on nursing staff help for the daily functions. He was very frustrated at not being to communicate. He tried his hardest to make his wishes known by uttering sounds along with facial expressions and hand motions but not always succeeded.

We reprinted all the old family pictures, enlarged them and put in them in a big album next to his bed. His happy facial expression especially in seeing the pictures of him and our MIL hand-in-hand during their dating days showed us he mind was still mostly intact. The most treasure item he had in his latter day was our gift to him, a tape recorder with several tapes of his favorite songs. He loved to hear them especially the song Oh Danny Boy over and over. He could barely push the play button and needed help to rewind the tape.
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Old 03-14-2015, 12:00 PM
 
Location: middle tennessee
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tarajane, did you get moved? Are you all in a new place?
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Old 03-14-2015, 01:02 PM
 
Location: Backwoods of Maine
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I have been mildly absent-minded for as long as I can remember, i.e., college years. But it has NOT gotten worse, and I am now approaching 71. (Don't ask from which direction).
I've been absent-minded all of my life! Never bothered me, though. I'm 67 now, and still that way.

Once a doc told me that it was due to having too much on my mind, and too many competing thoughts about what to do next. At some point, I'd just forget where I was on my list, but it would come back, unfortunately. If I could just forget it forever, I might not have to do it!
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Old 03-14-2015, 01:09 PM
 
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your doc is correct as was proven to me when we took that test. once i was focused i could tell you 3 months later at least 1/2 the words we had to remember.

i can't remember my own cell number or marilyns cell number and it drives me nuts.
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Old 03-14-2015, 01:24 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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the examiner gave us three tests.

first was to spell world , then spell it backwards while being timed.

next he said a random word , we repeated it . at the end we had to recite all ten words.

they would give us sets of 3 animals and say pick which is different.


at times they would give you mixed in with other animals the same group again in a different order.

i guess they check to see if your reasoning stays consistant.

last part was to name as many of the animals mentioned as i could.


i do feel much better since doing the tests since all the stuff we typically forget or that is like an echo in our head and only there until the echo stops is quite normal as we age.
I could not have passed that test in my 30s. I have always had a lack of logic (I think visually) and a poor memory and terrible sense of direction. I've no idea how I passed the graduate record exam to get into grad school. The analogies (A is to B and C is to...D????). Just not how my brain works.

I say this because it may be all too easy, when attempting to self-diagnose, to make assumptions that you have age-onset dementia. Specialists will make the diagnosis.
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Old 03-14-2015, 01:24 PM
 
Location: too far from the sea
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your doc is correct as was proven to me when we took that test. once i was focused i could tell you 3 months later at least 1/2 the words we had to remember.

i can't remember my own cell number or marilyns cell number and it drives me nuts.
One reason we can't remember phone numbers now is that they're usually stored and we don't have to dial them like we used to. I THINK I know my cell number after all these years but I'm not quite sure, lol.

With some people it's perfectly normal to be absent minded. Other people are like elephants: they never forget. I know one thing I will never forget and that is my house keys. That's due to getting locked out a very long time ago. My solution: Never leave the house without house keys in my hand.

But dementia is different. The confusion, the gradual loss of speech, the getting lost and not knowing how to get home. And it comes and goes until it comes and stays.
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Old 03-14-2015, 01:29 PM
 
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boogie'smom, no not moved yet. Won't be till late may when the other person moves out. But we are planning a vacation in May in case things don't work out on this property. Now my husband is showing some signs of something of the dementia type. I am going to call the doctor this week. I'm thinking Florida where we are going would be better suited for him because of all the older people down there and FL having to have specialists to treat such mental problems. Thanks for asking. I can't wait till May.
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Old 03-14-2015, 01:33 PM
 
Location: in the miseries
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Having trouble locating the 3 on a clock face
is supposed to indicate a problem.
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Old 03-14-2015, 01:34 PM
 
Location: Coastal New Jersey
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I remember reading that it's not forgetting where you put the keys that's the problem, it's forgetting what keys do.

One woman said the first sign of her 55-year-old mother's early dementia was when her mother came to visit but didn't get out of her car after she pulled into the driveway. Finally the daughter went outside to see what the problem was, and her mother said, "I don't know how to shut the car off."
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Old 03-14-2015, 02:22 PM
 
Location: Idaho
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I'd guess that all boomers like myself have either known or had to handle loved ones with memory loss problems ranging from senility, dementia to Alzheimer. In reading the news, forums and/or discussing with friends, I discovered that there are reversible and irreversible dementias and what we eat, drink, take (regarding medications) and do can either contribute to the cause or help with the cure or improvement.

Here is a link to a very informative article

What's Causing Your Memory Loss? It's Not Necessarily Alzheimer's

An acquaintance of mine almost had her mother moved to an assisted living home. Her mother was severely depressed and had signs of dementia (which was confirmed with testing). Just by luck that she had other issues and had to have other testings done. The test indicated problem with her thyroid. She was treated for her thyroid condition and miraculously, both her depression and memory issues started to improve.
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