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Old 03-21-2015, 09:32 PM
 
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DH and I had more than our share of friction throughout our marriage but so far retirement works great for us, no problems at all.
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Old 03-21-2015, 09:33 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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Where's the farm and how large is it? Just askin.
You taking bets? I bet Curmudgeon is typing right now. Escort's playing it safe, so I may lose.
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Old 03-21-2015, 09:34 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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DH and I had more than our share of friction throughout our marriage but so far retirement works great for us, no problems at all.
If only men would defer to their spouses the world would be a much saner place.
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Old 03-21-2015, 09:43 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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You taking bets? I bet Curmudgeon is typing right now. Escort's playing it safe, so I may lose.
I think Curmudgeon is braver than I. He once commanded an infantry platoon (perhaps a company?) on the Korean DMZ during a time of small-scale, but largely unknown combat. And also, I don't think he's yet been crucified by the Tribe of Angry Women on City-Data. (Just to be clear, the Tribe of Angry Women is a small subset of all women posters on City-Data).
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Old 03-21-2015, 09:45 PM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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One or both of you needs a volunteer job that gets you out of the house. Or, hubby needs an absorbing hobby.

Yes, he is getting on your nerves. He likes to run things, and now he is trying to run every minute of your life.

You should try to talk to him calmly and let him know that he does not need to run your life. He needs to understand that this is not acceptable.
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Old 03-21-2015, 09:46 PM
 
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If only men would defer to their spouses the world would be a much saner place.
Deferment is a 2-way street for us, ymmv. I retired 15 months before he did and I spent way too much of that time worrying about how I would cope with him being home and underfoot all day. Turns out it was not only a non-issue, it is a blessing.
Just to reiterate: our pre-retirement marriage was often a mess. In our case, wisdom and genuine love/caring took awhile. A long while. The wait was worth it.
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Old 03-21-2015, 09:46 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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I think Curmudgeon is braver than I. He once commanded an infantry platoon (perhaps a company?) on the Korean DMZ during a time of small-scale, but largely unknown combat. And also, I don't think he's yet been crucified by the Tribe of Angry Women on City-Data. (Just to be clear, the Tribe of Angry Women is a small subset of all women posters on City-Data).
Trying to soften your stance?

I'm sure your years as a classroom commando match Curmudgeon's in combat. I think I'd rather go into combat.
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Old 03-21-2015, 09:55 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Trying to soften your stance?

I'm sure your years as a classroom commando match Curmudgeon's in combat. I think I'd rather go into combat.
Not at all. That's always been my stance. Even during the most agonizing moments of my crucifixion I always knew it was at the hands of a small subset of all women posters.
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Old 03-21-2015, 09:57 PM
 
Location: Anchored in Phoenix
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I see what you are all saying. I had a manager many years ago who told us half-jokingly she spends more time with us than with her family.

For years most married couples see each other maybe 2 to 4 hours a day before it's time to sleep and then wake up, exercise for an hour and go to work for 8 hours and back about ten to twelve hours later. And then they see each other for 2 days on a weekend.

So what the above stories are suggesting is that many married couples do not really know each other. Or they do not realize that each other has changed from the person they married decades ago.

Just a statement, not a conclusion.
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Old 03-21-2015, 10:01 PM
 
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When pondering conflict about men and women, much of it disguised as humor, I'm bewildered and ask myself: where was I when all this gender confusion and animosity was handed out?

Then I remember: I am the middle and only girl, I had 2 older and 2 younger brothers. It wasn't always easy, they lynched my Betsy-Wetsy doll and my 3rd brother was a con artist who stole my mom's heart. But I am always grateful that I learned very early on that males are 100% as good and kind and loving and generous as females, I've never for a moment had any reason to doubt that.
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