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View Poll Results: What's the maximum distance you could live away from your children if you were to downsize?
15 Minutes 0 0%
30 Minutes 3 7.69%
1 Hour 7 17.95%
2 Hours or more 29 74.36%
Voters: 39. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 03-26-2015, 09:10 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Looking at it from the other direction, as several posters have done in this thread, during most of my adult life, I lived about 2,000 miles from my mother, until her death ten years ago. That was about the perfect distance. I visited roughly every other year. That was about the perfect frequency. Not everyone gets along well enough with their parents to desire a close relationship or a close geographical proximity.

People like me have trouble relating to those whose distance of 30 minutes is too great. I don't see anything wrong with it if both parties are happy about it; I just can't relate personally.
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Old 03-27-2015, 12:40 PM
 
Location: State of Being
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I lived 1000 miles from my parents, and found I could drive that in one day, if pressed to do so (especially if I had a partner to help with the driving). So I would find it difficult to move more than 1000 miles from my son.

However, my son has talked about moving to Phoenix or to Hawaii and I certainly would never even hint that he shouldn't do that because of the distance from parents/family.

So even though I would not want to be more than 1000 miles from my son, that doesn't mean he wouldn't move and put several thousand miles into that equation.

I mention this because it doesn't always work out to make plans based on distance from your adult children. Your kids can move.
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Old 03-28-2015, 11:21 PM
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Location: Spurs country. "Go, Spurs, Go!"
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I voted 2 hours or more because I only have one daughter (married with children), and I am not one to follow her around. I learned early in life, when working with an older woman who had 4 grown children, three who lived out of state and one who lived hours away, that one could have 10 children and there is no guarantee that any of them would remain close to "home".
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Old 03-28-2015, 11:34 PM
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Location: Spurs country. "Go, Spurs, Go!"
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Old 03-29-2015, 12:12 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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There are plenty of people like poster Cheribelle (#11) who can accept to be MUCH farther away that the "two hours or more" maximum distance answer in the poll. (Yes, I know that "or more" technically allows for living in Russia, but my point is that the poll answers are biased in the direction of living VERY CLOSE to children. Nothing wrong with living very close to children, of course, but I find the poll choices bizarre in the extreme in not allowing for a greater range of answers to reflect the reality of American society in the 21st century.)
The poll results so far validate my earlier comment about the poll choices being skewed toward the close end of living near one's children. 75% of respondents voted "two hours or more"; it would be interesting to know how many of those are in the two to three hour range and how many are O.K. with living further away. We know from the posts that some are O.K. with much further.

Since the maximum number of poll answers is quite a bit more than four (don't remember how many) answers for four hours, eight hours, and twelve hours or more could have been included.
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Old 03-29-2015, 10:59 AM
 
Location: The Triad (NC)
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How did you find this absolutely-perfect-for-this-forum slice of old TV show video?????
The first time I posted this link it was just happenstance
That the episode was aired that night or recently before and I remembered it.
Then I just had to poke around on youtube for a few minutes to find it.

Since then, I've posted it at least another ten times among the other 100 threads on the topic.
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