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View Poll Results: What's the maximum distance you could live away from your children if you were to downsize?
15 Minutes 0 0%
30 Minutes 3 7.69%
1 Hour 7 17.95%
2 Hours or more 29 74.36%
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Old 03-23-2015, 02:16 PM
 
Location: Schererville, IN
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If you plan on downsizing, what's the maximum distance your new home could be from your children?
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Old 03-23-2015, 02:19 PM
 
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We drew a 2 hour circle . Didn't want to be any farther than that .
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Old 03-23-2015, 02:57 PM
 
Location: Idaho
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Since my only daughter will not be having any children, it's unlikely I'll ever do the grandpa thing, (my loss). She is living her own life and physical distance between us is a non-issue.

edited to add:

If I were a grandpa, I'd want to be within about 20 minutes. I would expect to play a lot of tennis and cycling with my teen grandkid.
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Old 03-23-2015, 04:52 PM
 
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We drew a 2 hour circle . Didn't want to be any farther than that .
I drew an approximate-2-hour circle, too ... Wouldn't want to be anywhere inside it ...
DW wants to be near her oldest, her daughter. She's (DW) younger than me, and will find out that, as her kids grow older, they and their kids don't want just-a-whole-lot to do with Grandma & Grandpa.
I was already told by my kids not to expect any of them to take care of me in my old(er) age, and I'm already there!
So, DW and I are going to be pretty-much on our own, here in a couple-three years.

As "Barretta" used to say: "An' that's th' name-a dat tune" ...
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Old 03-23-2015, 05:02 PM
 
Location: Sierra Nevada Land, CA
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People who decide to live close to their kids should plan on moving every two to five years.
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Old 03-23-2015, 05:07 PM
 
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We haven't given much thought to where we will downsize to, but we won't be near our kids. One lives a 7 hour drive north already, and another will be moving to the west coast this summer. We're in GA. We have one more son who is currently local, but that won't sway us. We want to be where it's right for us.
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Old 03-23-2015, 05:25 PM
 
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If I downsize it most likely won't be located close to my daughters ... With one 1600 miles away on the West coast, I can't afford to live near her, and my older one is 9800 miles away and I don't want to live overseas. So far, no grandchildren in the picture but at least I know where I'll be going for vacations.
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Old 03-23-2015, 05:42 PM
 
Location: The Triad (NC)
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what's the maximum distance your new home could be from your children?
The distance from their mother's home will play a larger role in the decision.
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Old 03-23-2015, 05:48 PM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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People who decide to live close to their kids should plan on moving every two to five years.
Not necessarily. Each family is unique. One of the reasons we move is because we knew just how permanent our kids' residences will be.
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Old 03-23-2015, 06:00 PM
 
Location: We_tside PNW (Columbia Gorge) / CO / SA TX / Thailand
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22, 500 km / 12,450.5 miles from kids is OK. (1/2 way around the world)

Further is recommended for 'parents'. (another galaxy preferred)

I grew up with my grandparents 10 hrs away (dairy farm). That was a little too close to home to suit me, I frequently had to go home to work on my parents ranch, as they were busy working other businesses.

No grandkids in the picture or spouses (yet), Kids and we will be living internationally on the 'move', we make it a point to adopt families in need wherever we happen to be. Appreciation level is more predictable without the 'family - blood' dynamic. (at least there is less blood / tears shed).
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