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Old 03-28-2015, 09:37 AM
 
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I agree that there can be advantages to an over-55 community. I'm a homebody who loves having a beautiful home and yard - it's just getting harder to take care of them. So I'm in favor of a place where I pay a fee and the care is done for me. I don't care if the residents are elderly, and as for the "Bitchiary Committee" or "Gossip Brigade" that someone mentioned (LOL) - they can kiss my foot. I put up with their younger versions in offices for 35+ years, and treasured going home because they couldn't very well follow me there :-)

What I don't like about these communities is that they are so focused on "ACTIVITIES!!" and not on the homes. The homes themselves tend to be dinky, the yards even more so. Everyone is supposed to be running around doing all these "ACTIVITIES!!" none of which are remotely interesting to me. I make my own activities, which are mostly of the mind (art, writing). I don't care about golf/pickleball/ceramic painting/trips to outlet malls. I never learned to play cards, because I found it boring. I don't like paying a fee just so other people can be dashing around, being "ACTIVE!!" and basically trying to prove they aren't old!

I just wish I could find a community that has the best features of age restriction (quiet/low crime/cared for), has larger homes and yards, and isn't so focused on how "ACTIVE!!" the residents supposedly are.
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Old 03-28-2015, 09:58 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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You've posted almost the same thing in other threads about 55+. We get it, you don't like them.

Did you ever think that the younger people where you live may be saying "why doesn't that old man go where there are people his age."
As for your personal attack, no, I have never thought that the younger people where I live may be wondering to each other why I don't go where there are people my age. In fact, I have reason to know that their attitude is exactly the opposite because I have received many unsolicited expressions of appreciation for the time I have donated to the HOA, primarily by, but not limited to, engaging in exterior painting which I happen to enjoy and which saves the association money. I am a net giver, not a net taker. I became president of the association about nine months ago and have succeeded in reversing a negative, contentious environment so that people have a more pleasant place to live, psychologically speaking. The main reason I have had the time to engage actively in the HOA is because I am mostly retired. Therefore, my age is a positive, not a negative.

It's amazing what things you can come up with about a person when you know nothing about that person. You have assumed that my neighbors have a certain attitude toward me when in fact the opposite is true and when in fact you had nothing to go on except your resentment that I hold an opinion which is different from yours.

As for my having previously posted a similar opinion, I suggest you go back and re-read the thread title of this thread. When there are repeated threads on the same subject, it should not be surprising to you that similar comments come up again in the latest thread, both pro and con. (And the thread title specifically asked for both pro and con.) You may wish to reflect on why that bothers you.
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Old 03-28-2015, 11:14 AM
 
Location: Anchored in Phoenix
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I think you listed the best reasons for a 55+ community.

I am 55 years old, so I'm eligible to be in one. About 20 years ago my girlfriend and I stumbled on one such community in a rural area. It was nice and clean and modern. But we were telling each other, it could be depressing being the youngest people in the community, where perhaps ambulances are commonly going in for medical emergencies.

Now my perspective is kind of in the middle. I am still working and I do work with a wide range of ages. It is great to be with young people. But then my culture is different. I don't do video games, I don't go drink to get drunk.
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Old 03-28-2015, 11:15 AM
 
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The homes themselves tend to be dinky, the yards even more so.
The yards are pretty small, that's true, but the houses at Colonial Heritage range from small (1,700 square feet) to really massive.

Here's one that caught our eye. 6935 Vernon Hall, Williamsburg, VA 23188

It lists 2,500 square feet, but that doesn't include the basement, which is about 1,800 more square feet.

This one (out of our price range) has 5,200 square feet: 6904 Arthur Hills Dr, Williamsburg, VA 23188

BTW, someone posted an article earlier in this thread about the surprises with retirees' home purchases, and one fact is that 30% of retirees buy a BIGGER house after retirement.
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Old 03-28-2015, 12:23 PM
 
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That is within my price range (actually I would be willing to spend more $$, for a smaller house on a lot big enough for a side-loading garage), and a HOA of $250/month isn't bad if they actually do the maintenance...but look at that extra fee of $3240...you can bet that's for the clubhouse, pool, etc. where I would probably never put in an appearance.

And you still have to pay property tax.

I just don't see the value.

Sigh....

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The yards are pretty small, that's true, but the houses at Colonial Heritage range from small (1,700 square feet) to really massive.

This one (out of our price range) has 5,200 square feet: 6904 Arthur Hills Dr, Williamsburg, VA 23188

BTW, someone posted an article earlier in this thread about the surprises with retirees' home purchases, and one fact is that 30% of retirees buy a BIGGER house after retirement.
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Old 03-28-2015, 12:25 PM
 
Location: San Antonio
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I just thought of another possible advantage of a 55+ community. Very often, when we have moved, we found it hard to start new friendships with locals who had lived there a long time. It seems that their social life is already established with family and friends that they may have had for decades. If its a small town, this is especially true, no matter where you go.

But in a 55+ community, everyone has moved there and left much of their old life, and their other relationships behind. So you have a whole community of people who are looking to make new friends. Almost like the first couple of weeks as a freshman at college.
Funny you should say that....my husband and I often refer to living in the 55+ as "the same as being in college without the homework"! SO much fun!!!!
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Old 03-28-2015, 12:26 PM
 
Location: San Antonio
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I wondered when the age was when people made the leap.
55 for us, and still working at the time.....6+ yrs later, I am retired, DH still working for the next 3 yrs.
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Old 03-28-2015, 12:33 PM
 
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I just thought of another possible advantage of a 55+ community. Very often, when we have moved, we found it hard to start new friendships with locals who had lived there a long time. It seems that their social life is already established with family and friends that they may have had for decades. If its a small town, this is especially true, no matter where you go.

But in a 55+ community, everyone has moved there and left much of their old life, and their other relationships behind. So you have a whole community of people who are looking to make new friends. Almost like the first couple of weeks as a freshman at college.
That reminds me of how I felt when I was in the military. Everyone there was in the same situation and everybody was willing to help when you had to move in or out, and they were there for you when you needed it. The old folks might not be able to help physically but at least they could be more friendly and compassionate than most neighborhoods.
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Old 03-28-2015, 12:36 PM
 
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I like where I live ( not a 55+ ) but mostly retired people.

Recently a young guy drove slowly down our street with the windows all rolled down.........loud rap music blaring.........and every other word was the "F" word.

Made me wish I lived in a place where that didn't happen.

But , it is seldom, so I'll stay here.
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Old 03-28-2015, 12:38 PM
 
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P.S. Just wanted to say that my previous post was not meant to dis Rosemary T's choice of homes...I appreciate it when someone posts something specific that they like. I am only hoping to find someone who has similar preferences and concerns to mine.
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