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Old 04-15-2015, 08:26 PM
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Location: The beautiful Rogue Valley, Oregon
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I will be 57 this year, have been married to the same man since I was 22.
Would I marry again if he died? No.
Would I live with another man? I doubt it.
Would I live with a (non-romantic) room-mate? I doubt it.
Would I have a casual relationship with a man I did not live with? Maybe.
Would I stay in this house? No
Would I stay in this city? Maybe, although I am more likely to move to live somewhere near our son. Maybe part year here, part year there.

Would he marry again if I died? Maybe.
Would he live with a girlfriend? Likely.
Do I care? Not at all.
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Old 04-15-2015, 08:38 PM
 
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No. I was only 35ish when I hit the "nurse or a purse" stage - the only guys who expressed interest were significantly older and wanted one or the other (or both). Most men my own age were dating women in their 20's - the closer to 20, the better.

At my age - nearing 60 - they're even older and more decrepit. If they're not, they're doing better (relationship-wise) than me, LOL!

Also - at this point I have nothing to offer a partner anyway. I already know I'm on the long decline. Why would I stick someone I cared about with that?
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Old 04-15-2015, 08:40 PM
 
Location: NYC
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Many older women have a tough time finding men to date.

If you want to meet men, go food shopping on weekends around 9ish. I see men trolling the aisles with their little single serve meals in their baskets every weekend eyeing the ladies.
It's like the new pickup spot for the older generation.
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Old 04-15-2015, 08:49 PM
 
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I am wondering how many of you over 60 would want to marry again.

My mom was widowed at 56, and although she was very active and attractive, after about three or four dates (different men), she decided that she just did not want to spend the rest of her life "playing nursemaid to some old geezer" (her words). She is now 82 and has not regretted her decision at all.

I am 61 and have been happily married for 30 years, and if I were widowed, there is no way I would want to marry again, either. It just wouldn't be fair to any possible future spouse because after having experienced as perfect a marriage as I could possibly imagine, he would definitely come up short.

Are my mother and I unusual? Or do most of you feel the same way?
I am not yet 60, but getting there. I was married many years ago, and have been divorced for about 11 years or so. I have no desire or intention to ever marry again. I like my own space and my own alone-time too much.
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Old 04-15-2015, 09:05 PM
 
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I'd rather have a friend with benefits relationship, a relationship that I wouldn't call disposable, but one with mutual respect for each other's space.
Well-said, that's exactly what I'd want in lieu of marrying again.
And I'd especially respect his relationship with his children, while expecting reciprocal respect of mine.
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Old 04-15-2015, 09:15 PM
 
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We have been married for 10+ years.
AW=American Women, It is an abbreviation popular on Men's forums.
Thanks for clearing that up.
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Old 04-15-2015, 09:16 PM
 
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Just seems to me that most of the men I know are dominated by their wives. Not for me. I want to be myself. Most wives I know want their husbands to wear the wedding ring, THROUGH THEIR NOSE!!!!!!
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Old 04-15-2015, 09:36 PM
 
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NO. NoNoNoNo.

I've little doubt I'd find romance again, that's the easy part. But I have no interest trying to adjust to a new set of in-laws and step-children and step-grandchildren. Nor would I expect a new man to adjust to mine.

yes- this absolutely --
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Old 04-15-2015, 09:38 PM
 
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Just seems to me that most of the men I know are dominated by their wives. Not for me. I want to be myself. Most wives I know want their husbands to wear the wedding ring, THROUGH THEIR NOSE!!!!!!
Probably known as TTN's on Men's forums.
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Old 04-16-2015, 01:06 AM
 
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Wow, lots of bitter people here. Yes, I would get married again. I'm 60, male, and have been married since i was 26.
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