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Old 04-14-2015, 09:12 AM
 
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over 80% of married men die married , 80% of married women die alone.
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Old 04-14-2015, 09:27 AM
 
Location: in the miseries
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Im on my second go around. I think I d like some freedom. To do what I what :}
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Old 04-14-2015, 09:30 AM
 
Location: In a chartreuse microbus
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There is no way on God's green earth I'd do it again.

Nine. Nyet. Nada. Fin. No.
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Old 04-14-2015, 09:31 AM
 
Location: Texas
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over 80% of married men die married , 80% of married women die alone.
Pretty much every formerly married woman I know said they wouldn't do it again. Widowed or divorced.
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Old 04-14-2015, 09:34 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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No. I said I wasn't going to get married again 24 years ago and being older makes me even less inclined. I don't want a roommate, either. My compromising days are over.
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Old 04-14-2015, 09:41 AM
 
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I am wondering how many of you over 60 would want to marry again.

My mom was widowed at 56, and although she was very active and attractive, after about three or four dates (different men), she decided that she just did not want to spend the rest of her life "playing nursemaid to some old geezer" (her words). She is now 82 and has not regretted her decision at all.

I am 61 and have been happily married for 30 years, and if I were widowed, there is no way I would want to marry again, either. It just wouldn't be fair to any possible future spouse because after having experienced as perfect a marriage as I could possibly imagine, he would definitely come up short.

Are my mother and I unusual? Or do most of you feel the same way?

It is impossible for anyone who is now married to say if they would marry if their spouse died.

Even if they use the phrase "no way "
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Old 04-14-2015, 09:42 AM
 
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My mom is 83 and was widowed for the second time 5 years ago. I love to tease her that if she wants to post some big numbers, time is a-wastin'. She needs to get going on number 3.
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Old 04-14-2015, 09:47 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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One thing that I didn't see mentioned was how often and how intensively married couples often depend on one another for assistance as they age.
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Old 04-14-2015, 10:06 AM
 
Location: MA
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I wouldn't mind, but, I will lose my survivor benefits so I won't be. I'm 43 so I think a lot of people remarry at this age. My SO and I have talked of a spiritual marriage and that would just be sort of fun
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Old 04-14-2015, 10:13 AM
 
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My mother is 83 and was widowed at 44. At 48, she met her "significant other" and they've been together now for 35 years. She had always wanted to remarry after my father died but didn't because she would have lost her pension from him. After 10 years when she could have married without losing her pension they decided not to ... why change things since it was going well as it was. He is now 90 and takes care of my mom who now has Alzheimer's. We're trying to get in-home health care though so that will change soon.

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