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Old 04-27-2015, 09:27 PM
 
Location: Portlandia "burbs"
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Nope. No way, Jose'. And Hell, no!

Been married twice. Although I love my husband to death - we've been together almost 35 years - I'm not about to do it again! I think I'd rather marry a woman (and I'm not gay).
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Old 04-28-2015, 11:22 AM
 
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Well, I never said I didn't have Alzheimers........ we married in 1970....1970 minus 2015=45 years...I was born in 1951. Thanks for the clarification. Just a little off. But NO I would not marry again. My husband is 67..OMG anyway
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Old 04-28-2015, 11:25 AM
 
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I remarried in my 50's to a non-AW almost 30 years my junior. With a 10 y/o son and a 2 week old son, it is one of the best decisions I ever made!

let me guess. you married a chinese/asian girl from overseas.

when im 60, i want a 20 year old bride.
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Old 04-29-2015, 05:27 AM
 
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I don't know what non-AW means, but if it's nothing to do with race, I don't understand you. Do you mean to say that no younger American woman would consider marrying a 50+-year-old man? I know two who have, and the marriages have lasted a long time. And neither of these were of the Hollywood "he has tons of money and she's a golddigger" variety, either. The young woman was just picky about whom she would have, and the older man was a fox

To the more discerning young woman, the male playing field can look like a bunch of cheap, flashy muscle cars, with a few well-traveled, well-maintained classics that are more tasteful and can still go zero-60 in good time.

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let me guess. you married a chinese/asian girl from overseas.

when im 60, i want a 20 year old bride.
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Old 04-30-2015, 10:25 PM
 
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when im 60, i want a 20 year old bride.
..and a cardiologist?
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Old 04-30-2015, 10:44 PM
 
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I am wondering how many of you over 60 would want to marry again.

My mom was widowed at 56, and although she was very active and attractive, after about three or four dates (different men), she decided that she just did not want to spend the rest of her life "playing nursemaid to some old geezer" (her words). She is now 82 and has not regretted her decision at all.

I am 61 and have been happily married for 30 years, and if I were widowed, there is no way I would want to marry again, either. It just wouldn't be fair to any possible future spouse because after having experienced as perfect a marriage as I could possibly imagine, he would definitely come up short.

Are my mother and I unusual? Or do most of you feel the same way?
I'm not that age (yet!) but if I didn't know better, I would think I wrote what your mom said. If I ever get out of this marriage, I will never get married again. Not because my marriage is so great, I just feel like your mom. I crave silence, and would just love to sit down and read a book for an hour or so. For reasons I won't go into, I can't just divorce him at this time. I just think some of us shouldn't ever marry. I never should have gotten married. I would never be lonely because I like spending time with myself! I love your mom.
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Old 04-30-2015, 11:15 PM
 
Location: California
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I sill think no, but I'm softening on the subject. I think I needed a few years to decompress from tension of a long term marriage ending/divorce. Being single has been really good for me and while I still have stress and worry I don't have TENSION, and I never realized how much I had those last few years...

I'd LIKE to date someone who has their own place to live. It's not the relationship part that bothers me now, it's the thought of sharing my physical space with someone else and having them around all the time and having to deal with the baggage.
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Old 05-01-2015, 02:54 PM
 
Location: Central NY
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When I first got divorced over 30 years ago, I knew a woman at work who had been divorced for over 20 years. And I thought.... wow that's a long time, I wonder why she didn't get remarried. I guess I thought getting remarried was the "thing you did". My ex got remarried right away. And then again for a 3rd time.

As time has passed and I'm single and doing my own thing, I'm starting to understand the beauty of being single. I guess my self-esteem was pretty bad for a long time because I didn't realize all of the things I could do by myself without a husband.

I'm moving to NC in late summer and I'm ecstatic about it. It's a pretty area, I love the mountains, the apartment I am looking at fits my needs, and while I do not have a lot of money, there are some things in life that are more important.

I am feeling a new sense of freedom and peace in my life, probably for the first time.

I now consider my life to be successful.
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Old 05-01-2015, 03:46 PM
 
Location: Miraflores
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let me guess. you married a chinese/asian girl from overseas.

when im 60, i want a 20 year old bride.
Not exactly, I married a Latina and we live in her home country. For them it is all about family and giving the Man the bigger piece of chicken!
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Old 05-01-2015, 03:48 PM
 
Location: RVA
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Isn't it curious that both men and women that answered here both say the same things : they would not remarry because they love the quiet, me time, and are never lonely? Companionship and the benefits are great, but the baggage and tension seems to always come with it. I love my wife dearly, but the second I get home, it's listen to my problems, family (hers, always) issues etc, etc. My ex over 20 years ago, same things, but she was just plain fat and lazy on top of it. DW now often catches herself, when she sees me glaze over. Sometimes she gets mad and gives me a few days of the silent treatment. I love it. But I'm not cruel enough to upset her all the time to get it! She used to go out with friends and have work things that kept her busy, but she told me one day she was burnt out from teaching and at 55, retired from it. When she asks if I'm retiring early, I tell her, I could have if you kept on teaching, but can't now. Where were all you women that love being indepndent and do your own thing when I was looking??? Or does getting married automatically change both spouses? DW was a lot more independent when we met on a live aboard dive boat.
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