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Old 05-01-2015, 04:03 PM
 
Location: Miraflores
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I don't know what non-AW means, but if it's nothing to do with race, I don't understand you. Do you mean to say that no younger American woman would consider marrying a 50+-year-old man? I know two who have, and the marriages have lasted a long time. And neither of these were of the Hollywood "he has tons of money and she's a golddigger" variety, either. The young woman was just picky about whom she would have, and the older man was a fox

To the more discerning young woman, the male playing field can look like a bunch of cheap, flashy muscle cars, with a few well-traveled, well-maintained classics that are more tasteful and can still go zero-60 in good time.
No, it is generally the other way around. I have dated and been in relationships with several young women, before I met my current wife. AW tend to be less mature and more materialistic (and a whole lot of fun) than there counterparts in emerging market countries. Obviously, this is just a generalization and I don't doubt that your friends are in LT happy relationships with there OLDER spouses. My childhood best friend who lives in NYC is 62 and his Vietnamese/American Wife is in her late 20's now. For myself, we have been in a relationship for about 12 years, Married for 10+ years, Have a 10 y/o and a 1 month old child together.
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Old 05-13-2015, 07:27 PM
 
Location: Seattle some of the time now.
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NO! NO! NO! I would not remarry have been married since I was 19. Fifty two years of being maid, secretary, gardener, chief cook and bottle washer and home repair person. Did In mention perfect little obedient church wife?
It sounds like you're overdue to go out & have some fun. Let me know when & I'll be right there with you! Hahaha!!
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Old 05-13-2015, 08:50 PM
 
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No, I will not marry again. But if I did, a prenup would be a requirement. I have seen too many problems with second wives and their family.
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Old 05-13-2015, 11:39 PM
 
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I would never again allow that type of 'assumed' authority into my life. Guess I'll always be a free bird.
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Old 05-14-2015, 06:08 AM
 
Location: Florida
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Coming up on a year now and still won't use the term widow.
I still think of myself as married, just with a deceased husband, so marriage would seem like bigamy
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Old 05-16-2015, 05:32 PM
 
Location: Central NY
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When I first divorced (over 32 years ago), my first inclination was to feel like I was still married. I have no idea why I felt that way. My marriage was not a good one. He cheated from the first year. Why I felt like I was still married after divorce baffles me. I can better understand that old_cold might feel that way. Different circumstance all together.

But one of the posters above said something that makes perfect sense to me....."never allowing the 'assumed' authority into my life" again and now being a forever free bird. Sounds like heaven to me.
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Old 05-16-2015, 05:53 PM
 
Location: Florida Baby!
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Not likely (but I never say never )

I'm a stone's throw from 64 and got divorced in 2012. I tried on-line dating and had a knock-your-socks off romance that lasted about 3 months. After a few more attempts at dating I gave up because I realized that guys my age are too old for me. I like going to alternative rock concerts but nearly everyone I know is hasn't ventured out beyond "classic rock." Yeah, I'm probably the oldest person at these events but I don't care! Since the divorce I've gone to several small venue concerts in Boston, saw Mumford & Sons in Queens NY, have attended Boston Calling 2014 and Kerfuffle 2014 in Buffalo with my daughter. This year I'll see Mumford & Sons in MA. It's very hard to socialize in Ct--everyone else is doing their own thing, and it doesn't help that I'm pretty introverted. I'm looking forward to retirement in a few years. I'll be packing up and moving out of this state hopefully to warmer climes--just sit me on a beach and hand me a Mai-Tai....
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Old 05-16-2015, 05:57 PM
 
Location: Florida Baby!
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I would never again allow that type of 'assumed' authority into my life. Guess I'll always be a free bird.
You betcha Been there, done that, ain't happenin' again!
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Old 05-16-2015, 06:19 PM
 
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We're going on 45 years of marriage here but, to answer the OP's question, one winning lottery ticket was more than I ever deserved or expected.
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Old 05-16-2015, 06:36 PM
 
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Been married 60 years and hindsight being 20/20 would change one thing which I am paying for now,to many moves but noi my wife.
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