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Old 04-14-2015, 10:22 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles>Little Rock>Houston>Little Rock
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I was widowed at age 47 and remarried 7 years later. I don't think I would want to marry again a third time. I have two friends who are on their 4th marriage and neither have ever been widowed.
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Old 04-14-2015, 10:34 AM
 
Location: San Antonio, TX
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Right now my dad has Alzheimer's and he's getting to the stage where he doesn't recognize people and he'll be asking for my mom when she's right next to him. He can't put together a sentence anymore. My parents have been married almost 50 years. I really hope that my mom will be able to find a good man to keep her company after my dad is gone.
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Old 04-14-2015, 10:35 AM
 
Location: Idaho
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It is very, very unlikely that I'll ever marry again. Either I don't choose good mates or I'm not good husband material. Whichever, I'm a 'two-time loser' and don't really want to go down that road again. I do wish to have someone special in my life with which to share experiences. However, I'm fine by myself. I may be alone . . . but I'm not lonely.
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Old 04-14-2015, 11:00 AM
 
Location: Retired in Malibu/La Quinta/Flagstaff
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I'm 63 and have been a widower for 38 years. I got married when I was almost 25 and my wife died five months later. Been engaged twice since then. However, both of my fiancees thought they could do better than marrying a cop and broke off the engagements.

At this stage of my life, I believe in the phrase, "Never Say Never". In reality, though, I can see spending the rest of my life alone. It doesn't bother me one bit.
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Old 04-14-2015, 11:00 AM
 
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No. Married my husband at 20 (I'm now 58). There is no way.
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Old 04-14-2015, 11:05 AM
 
Location: middle tennessee
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no. because I can't imagine anyone wanting me, or me wanting the person who did
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Old 04-14-2015, 11:08 AM
 
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Probably not but I cannot say never because I am not in a position to even think about getting married again since I am currently married to Mr. CSD who is alive and well.
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Old 04-14-2015, 11:09 AM
 
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I retired at 62, bought a home a hundred miles from my old address, my wife died a few months after we moved, I was left alone in a very small town. Getting to know people in small town America wasn't easy, lived by myself for a few years and struggled a bit with loneliness and a feeling of social isolation. People thought online dating may help me get some better social connections, they were right, married four years now and we've never regretted a thing about our doing so.

Life is about change, that the only thing we can count on is the fact that we can't count on anything should be a sobering thought for all who feel the need to live in a past long gone. Of course those who actually don't mind being alone and like it, should be alone. But I've seen way too many people living alone simply because they find everything to complain about with regard to dating and meeting others. My present wife and I have lived out our dreams of retirement despite the fact of our spouses deaths. Traveling together, making one of our houses into a house for both, doing hobbies together, and just the simple act of awakening with the one you love has been a reward far beyond the risk taken by us both.
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Old 04-14-2015, 11:16 AM
 
Location: SoCal desert
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Let me act like I'm 2-years-old again for a second ....

No No No No No No No No No No No No No No!
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Old 04-14-2015, 11:16 AM
 
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Pretty much every formerly married woman I know said they wouldn't do it again. Widowed or divorced.
there was an article on the effect of marriage on life span and happiness. married men have longer life span and higher level of happiness.
single, widowed, and never married women live longer and happier than married women.
now you know why.
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