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Old 04-14-2015, 07:01 PM
 
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The only way I would get married again is if it was one of those things where I wasn't looking for someone, but the perfect person (for me) just appeared out of nowhere and we clicked. My best friend from high school was like that. We can't remember when/how we met, but we did and were inseparable from there on out (well, until life took us in separate directions, but we are still friends). I had always thought that a spouse would come along in much the same way, but it didn't happen like that. Really, I can say that my high school best friend is the only time in my life that I have found a true soulmate.

But other than that, no. I don't want or need someone else if anything ever happens to my husband.
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Old 04-14-2015, 07:07 PM
 
Location: San Antonio
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I have been married 1/2 of my life to the love of my life and would NEVER, EVER even consider dating or marrying again if I were to loose him. I don't think it would be a problem for me anyway as I would probably just lay down and die if God took him from me first.
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Old 04-14-2015, 07:41 PM
 
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I'm 61. Been divorced for years. I didn't remarry because that wasn't a goal of mine, I don't think I'm the marrying kind, and I was working too much. Now, though, I have retired. I've thought about it. I might consider it, if we got along, or fell in love, and if he were financially secure so that we could pool our assets & be able to live a good life and hire caretakers when that time comes. Someone to share with, enjoy life with. Sounds nice. But then I remember being married and how I didn't like it. And how I think men get more out of marriage than women. So, I don't know. But I wouldn't live with a man without the legal protections of marriage. I might get married, if the opportunity presented itself. But who's kidding who? There are hardly any men in my age bracket still alive & healthy!
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Old 04-14-2015, 07:46 PM
 
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No, I would not.
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Old 04-14-2015, 07:51 PM
 
Location: Duncan, Oklahoma
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My husband and I will be married forty years this coming July. I know I would never remarry if he died before me. He says he would not remarry again either. We are both sixty-one years old.

Like I tell him, he would have to be very careful. The running joke in this town is that the old women around here go after the widowers before the wife is cold in the ground. I know of two widowers that have had women chasing after them (and their money, I suspect) as soon as the wife's funeral arrangements were complete. This town!!! <smh>
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Old 04-14-2015, 08:00 PM
 
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What's the point of marrying when your older? It's only a paper. You can still enjoy each other's company without a certificate. Don't understand why it's an issue when you are retired and not having more children.
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Old 04-14-2015, 08:02 PM
 
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This thread reminds me of a one-panel comic strip I saw many years ago about a bickering couple. The panel has the couple meeting another couple with the husband saying: I'd like to introduce you to my second wife, but I'm still stuck with the first one.

I occasionally say this as a joke when my wife and I meet a new couple at a party or other affair.

For some unknown reason, she doesn't find that line as amusing as I do.
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Old 04-14-2015, 08:06 PM
 
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What's the point of marrying when your older? It's only a paper. You can still enjoy each other's company without a certificate. Don't understand why it's an issue when you are retired and not having more children.
To some it is a moral issue.

( if you are living together and sharing the same bed )

I try to be a role model for my grandkids
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Old 04-14-2015, 09:18 PM
 
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I was alone for 15 years before finding the man of my dreams. Is he perfect? For me he is. I look forward to growing old with him. Older, actually. But he's younger.
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Old 04-14-2015, 09:52 PM
 
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So a wife said to her long time husband, "if I would die first, honey, would you remarry?" The husband thought for a second and answered, "gee, I don't know, probably not."

"Why not?" she said. "Your still in good shape." He replied,"ok maybe I would." The wife asked, "if you did remarry, would you live in our house?" He said, "I don't think so."

She said, "it's a perfectly good house, why not?" "Ok maybe we would." He replied.

"Well, what about my car? Would she drive it?" He answered, "I got you that car for your birthday, I just don't know." "Well it would be fine, I wouldn't be here to drive it." She said. "Ok,ok." He said.

She asked, "well what about my golf clubs, would she use them." "Oh, no she couldn't, impossible." He said.
"Well why not?"she asked. "Well, because she's left-handed!" He replied.
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