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Old 04-14-2015, 09:58 PM
 
Location: Idaho
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What's the point of marrying when your older? It's only a paper. You can still enjoy each other's company without a certificate. Don't understand why it's an issue when you are retired and not having more children.
In certain circumstances, there is a financial advantage of a legal marriage.
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Old 04-14-2015, 10:14 PM
 
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NO. NoNoNoNo.

I've little doubt I'd find romance again, that's the easy part. But I have no interest trying to adjust to a new set of in-laws and step-children and step-grandchildren. Nor would I expect a new man to adjust to mine.
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Old 04-14-2015, 10:20 PM
 
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What's the point of marrying when your older? It's only a paper. You can still enjoy each other's company without a certificate. Don't understand why it's an issue when you are retired and not having more children.

For some people, it is also for security and finances.

My father really wants to be re-married. The woman he will marry has made it clear she wants to be financially taken care of for the rest of her life. She is 60, he is 73 and disabled. She has been unable to maintain stable employment for years, and has little retirement savings/benefits. She says that marrying my father means sacrificing other opportunities (ex. other marriages and employment opportunities), so he must agree to support her indefinitely. He is willing to do that, and actually wants his pension/SS benefits to go to someone or else it is "wasted". In his state, his retirement account will automatically go to his wife when he marries. In some ways, it is a business arrangement I guess.
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Old 04-14-2015, 10:30 PM
 
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No. There's not a woman on Earth that could compare to Mrs. Tek.
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Old 04-14-2015, 10:39 PM
 
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It is impossible for anyone who is now married to say if they would marry if their spouse died.

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Whoa there! Isn't that a bit prescriptive? I'm pretty sure intelligent adults are capable of assessing things and making informed decisions.

Looking over the posts, I discern a pattern: the men (except for a few, such as the widower who is raising young children ) would leap right into marriage again. It is to be presumed that they state their preference with eyes open, having previously been married.

Most of the women not only say "no", they say "H*LL NO!!" ...On other threads, there are one or two who are looking for somewhere to live that is bone cheap. A few posts later, they add that they'd prefer a lot of men. For the most part, I daresay that the women who post in this forum do not need a man to make ends meet.

From the numbers, it would appear that men get a lot more out of the arrangement than women do. Whatever benefits women might have derived earlier in life no longer apply.

Personally? I've been there - done that - got the T-shirt. Would not repeat the experience. Not enough EROEI (energy returned over energy invested), so to speak.

Just my fully informed opinion.
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Old 04-14-2015, 10:39 PM
 
Location: it depends
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I was married for over 20 years (I married at age 19). The divorce took place 10 years ago and it was my decision.

Perhaps because my marriage was very difficult, I see no reason to re marry. I have dated many men and I have had a couple of pretty long term and serious relationships. I guess at this point in my life, I want to borrow em, I dont wanna own em. LOL
There is a saying among sportsmen on the great plains, "If it floats, flys, or f*ks you are better off renting."

I am in a caregiver role 40 years in, and I have the sense that I will be pretty much used up for that kind of duty. I might try to get out and get some exercise, but marriage? Nope.
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Old 04-14-2015, 11:02 PM
 
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Whoa there! Isn't that a bit prescriptive? I'm pretty sure intelligent adults are capable of assessing things and making informed decisions.

Looking over the posts, I discern a pattern: the men (except for a few, such as the widower who is raising young children ) would leap right into marriage again. It is to be presumed that they state their preference with eyes open, having previously been married.

Most of the women not only say "no", they say "H*LL NO!!" ...On other threads, there are one or two who are looking for somewhere to live that is bone cheap. A few posts later, they add that they'd prefer a lot of men. For the most part, I daresay that the women who post in this forum do not need a man to make ends meet.

From the numbers, it would appear that men get a lot more out of the arrangement than women do. Whatever benefits women might have derived earlier in life no longer apply.

Personally? I've been there - done that - got the T-shirt. Would not repeat the experience. Not enough EROEI (energy returned over energy invested), so to speak.

Just my fully informed opinion.

I wonder what percent of women who remarried after the death of a spouse said.........."no way "....while their husband was still living.

Reminds me of all my single female relatives who proclaimed exactly how they would raise their kids.

Once married and with kids they didn't practice what they preach.
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Old 04-14-2015, 11:09 PM
 
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I wonder what percent of women who remarried after the death of a spouse said.........."no way "....while their husband was still living.

Reminds me of all my single female relatives who proclaimed exactly how they would raise their kids.

Once married and with kids they didn't practice what they preach.
ROTFL!! Quite a few of the women who posted saying "No Way Jose" are married.
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Old 04-14-2015, 11:51 PM
 
Location: Copenhagen, Denmark
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Yup. Done it once. Would do it again if the situation arose.
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Old 04-15-2015, 01:33 AM
 
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NO. NoNoNoNo.

I've little doubt I'd find romance again, that's the easy part. But I have no interest trying to adjust to a new set of in-laws and step-children and step-grandchildren. Nor would I expect a new man to adjust to mine.
i make it easy . i come with an instruction manual written by my mom .

"the proper care and feeding of my son "

who wants me now ladies ????????? ha ha ha ha
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