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I am wondering how many of you over 60 would want to marry again.
My mom was widowed at 56, and although she was very active and attractive, after about three or four dates (different men), she decided that she just did not want to spend the rest of her life "playing nursemaid to some old geezer" (her words). She is now 82 and has not regretted her decision at all.
I am 61 and have been happily married for 30 years, and if I were widowed, there is no way I would want to marry again, either. It just wouldn't be fair to any possible future spouse because after having experienced as perfect a marriage as I could possibly imagine, he would definitely come up short.
Are my mother and I unusual? Or do most of you feel the same way?
I won't marry again. My husband died last year, and for the last five years of his life, I was his full-time caregiver. Caregiving is so difficult, emotionally and physically, that at times I wondered if I'd be the first of us to die even though he was 20 years older. I never want to have that experience again.
And I have very little interest in dating. Before he got sick, my husband was the most alive, active, fun-loving person I had ever met. He loved to dance and to travel, and he made me laugh every day. I don't see how I could enjoy anyone else's company nearly as much.
Besides, I enjoy my life as it is, and I see no need to change it.
Recently a sort-of-friend told me she'd like to see me get married again, because as she put it, it's not good to be alone. Maybe it's not good for her, but I'm fine, thanks. (Note to self: avoid that woman in future.)
I would get married again only if we were truly compatible and emotionally supportive of each other. I would not marry just for the sake of convenience.
Dating in our senior years is 180 from dating when we were much younger. We're more settled in our ways now; we have health issues that need to be accepted by our partner, etc.
Not all, but some senior men prefer a younger woman because their looks and physical appearance may be more appealing. I'm way past the point of trying to look spiffy or sexy all the time; I'm not a slob by any stretch of the imagination, but my appearance obviously fits my age.
If a man accepts me as I am and he isn't daydreaming of having a woman who looks like Rachael Welch, then OK, it may work out.
I have been married almost 47 years I am 63. My husband is the only man I have ever been with.
If he dies before me there is no way I can picture myself ever remarrying, or even dating for that matter.
Naw, in all seriousness, if my wife passed today, I have a toddler and a baby.
My time should be spent raising them, not trolling for dates.
And anyway, even when they are up and out of the house, the whole rigamarole of having to find someone decent to date (next to impossible when I was young and now pretty much completely impossible) and then having to do all that work of getting to know them and maybe that won't matter bc it won't work out, compromising on stuff I don't feel like...blah blah blah blah...no, thanks.
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