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Old 05-02-2015, 09:42 AM
 
Location: Central NY
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I have a new friend, from the senior gym, who moved back here from the West Coast because of job loss at 63 (her company folded). A small pension plus SS and probably savings/annuity. She lives frugally but always presents so nicely. Her lovely tiny 3-room apartment overlooks a park. She is one of the most intelligent people I've ever met, really well-read esp on history and social issues. I get more enjoyment out of her company than I do from any of my other friends who happen to be wealthy. Although I'm sure she'd rather have lots of money (?), she seems to be living her life within her constraints with a certain kind of richness.
I think your friend must be a wonderful person. The art of living with what you have is a skill that not many of us have learned to do. It sounds as though she has found the "secret" to happiness and it does not involve having a lot of money. Finding joy in things that do not cost anything or perhaps cost very little is a true gift.

The world (our country?) has taught us that there can never be "enough" money. How sad.
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Old 05-02-2015, 09:48 AM
 
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Most of the happiest and interesting people that i have met were monks who have taken a vow of poverty.
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Old 05-02-2015, 10:27 AM
 
Location: CT
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The world (our country?) has taught us that there can never be "enough" money. How sad.
But that doesn't mean we can't use our brain and think for ourselves. We are very close to retirement with a lot less than what the "experts" tell us we need, and by our calculations (fingers crossed) we'll be able to live quite comfortably.
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Old 05-02-2015, 11:19 AM
 
Location: Central NY
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But that doesn't mean we can't use our brain and think for ourselves. We are very close to retirement with a lot less than what the "experts" tell us we need, and by our calculations (fingers crossed) we'll be able to live quite comfortably.
I think it takes a lot of using our brain to figure out how to have a joyful life without a lot of money.

Don't have to think too hard when you have a lot of money.
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Old 05-03-2015, 08:12 PM
 
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I think it takes a lot of using our brain to figure out how to have a joyful life without a lot of money.

Don't have to think too hard when you have a lot of money.
That is so funny!
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Old 05-04-2015, 01:43 AM
 
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except the thinking just changes. it goes from not thinking about lack of money issues to thinking about money issues .
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Old 05-04-2015, 09:35 AM
 
Location: Central NY
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Kind of depends on which side of the fence you are on, doesn't it? If you have never known "poor" you will not be able to relate. Same with wealthy...... if you have never had wealth, you will not be able to relate.
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Old 05-04-2015, 09:58 AM
 
Location: Las Vegas
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Kind of depends on which side of the fence you are on, doesn't it? If you have never known "poor" you will not be able to relate. Same with wealthy...... if you have never had wealth, you will not be able to relate.
I never thought I would be grateful for my poor years when I was young. But I am now very grateful I had them. I learned how to be frugal and stretch a dollar. Of course I hated it back then but those skills have served me well over the years.

Doing well without much is a skill. Takes practice and effort. It's under-appreciated. Like you said, if you have never been there, it's hard to relate. Trust fund babies, Paris Hilton comes to mind immediately, wouldn't make it if they woke up penniless without resources.

I have been both relatively wealthy and poor. Wealthy is better. No surprise there!
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Old 05-04-2015, 10:09 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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I never thought I would be grateful for my poor years when I was young. But I am now very grateful I had them. I learned how to be frugal and stretch a dollar. Of course I hated it back then but those skills have served me well over the years.

Doing well without much is a skill. Takes practice and effort. It's under-appreciated. Like you said, if you have never been there, it's hard to relate. Trust fund babies, Paris Hilton comes to mind immediately, wouldn't make it if they woke up penniless without resources.

I have been both relatively wealthy and poor. Wealthy is better. No surprise there!
I agree with your sentiments. I have been both reasonably comfortable (not "relatively wealthy") and poor. Reasonably comfortable is indeed much better.
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Old 05-04-2015, 11:10 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I look at the times I wasn't doing so well as a time of stress and deprivation. It is certainly not a place I think anyone would want to be in.
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