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Old 04-30-2015, 12:08 PM
 
Location: Sterling Heights, Michigan
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I retired April 1 after 36 1/2 years. (co-op college student right out of high school). My husband is still working. I've been working on my personal "honey-do" list, but really need ideas for getting out and being with people! Unfortunately, I'm not a real outgoing person, so I don't have friends other than the people I used to work with. SAD...I know! Any suggestions for how I meet friends or things I can do I know I sound pitiful...but I'm really a normal person trying to get used to my new routine.
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Old 04-30-2015, 12:36 PM
 
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Check out VolunteerMatch - Where Volunteering Begins
Join a book club, train a dog and certify it for therapy and you can visit hospitals, schools, etc., see what is offered for seniors in your area (line dancing, mahjong, bridge,etc.) Join the YMCA and take a water aerobics class.
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Old 04-30-2015, 12:44 PM
 
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Any suggestions for how I meet friends or things I can do I know I sound pitiful...but I'm really a normal person trying to get used to my new routine.
No, you don't sound pitiful at all; you sound like you are trying to find your place in this new world of retirement. I am 4 years away from retirement, but have been thinking about this myself.

My immediate suggestions, in no particular order:
Join a book club- see if your local library has any reading groups.
Offer to help a local animal shelter with their office work or to spend time cuddling kittens.
If you like art, take a class at a local museum, or ask about docent training
Use your skills to tutor, read to children at the local library, be a big sister
Take an adult continuing education class- try something outside your comfort level, or something you are interested in, e.g. a cooking class, crafts, carpentry, gardening
Volunteer with your local garden club
Find a way to use your interests and talents
Volunteer to be a guide at a local state park

The possibilities are endless, and something as simple as a book club may lead to making a new friend or finding a new interest.
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Old 04-30-2015, 12:59 PM
 
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Did this not occur to you as you were planning on when to retire?
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Old 04-30-2015, 01:00 PM
 
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Check out meetup.com. They usually have a variety of social activities.
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Old 04-30-2015, 01:05 PM
 
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Maybe a nice camera to start out with if you like birds and wildlife.
With digital cams you get instant results.

Not retired yet but have taken a ton of hummingbird and other bird pictures.
You can even get free editing software and punch up your pictures.
Gives a great excuse to get out and about.

I also became very involved with my church congregation.
Tons of volunteer work and church activities now and in the future.
I became a deacon after joining my church in less than a year.
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Old 04-30-2015, 01:25 PM
 
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That is a hard one as no idea what you enjoy doing. I say the easiest is joining some group who does things in community to get beyond work relationships. I was always the opposite as I mostly have friend I never worked with that developed over time by interest beyond work. but the there is no reason if those at work where friends to not continue the relationship really. We all meet close friends one way or another. I have always said I have friend and then I have close friends ;the difference being the bond we developed overtime and of course my closest :my wife.
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Old 04-30-2015, 01:32 PM
 
Location: Tampa, FL
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I retired April 1 after 36 1/2 years. (co-op college student right out of high school). My husband is still working. I've been working on my personal "honey-do" list, but really need ideas for getting out and being with people! Unfortunately, I'm not a real outgoing person, so I don't have friends other than the people I used to work with. SAD...I know! Any suggestions for how I meet friends or things I can do I know I sound pitiful...but I'm really a normal person trying to get used to my new routine.
It's good that you recognize this issue about meeting people. I recognized the same thing myself but was prepared because I play golf and tennis, so those two sports automatically are ways to meet new people and keep some social relationships going.

I always tell people to make sure they have hobbies before retiring or make sure they get actively involved with learning new hobbies when they retire otherwise they'll go stir crazy with their sudden ample free time.

One could get depressed from the lack of social contact and no things to do (other than work).

Learn new hobbies is my recommendation. Attack them w/ a passion.
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Old 04-30-2015, 02:14 PM
 
Location: Idaho
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Thank you so much for this link, Ellwood. System wouldn't let me rep you again. I registered on the web site. This just might make me reconsider to where I will spend my retirement years. There are a whole bunch of volunteer opportunities out there, some of them in areas that I have experience/talent.
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Old 04-30-2015, 02:18 PM
 
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Senior center. They have lots of activities.

And they go places on a small bus.
Sometimes overnight.
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