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Old 05-06-2015, 01:01 PM
 
Location: Florida -
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47-years this month -- We are the same in our Christian faith, the kids and grandkids, and our approach to work and money .... but, very little else. However, different is not necessarily bad. It certainly adds balance to decisions and a broader perspective to life in general.

As Stealth noted, diversity can actually be a benefit. In our case, each of us brings something different to the relationship and our strengths and weaknesses offset and compliment each other. It also means that one must consider decisions and choices from two different points of view.
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Old 05-06-2015, 02:15 PM
 
Location: in the miseries
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Not us. We rarely even know what the other is talking about.

If I had it to do over. Hmmmmmm .
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Old 05-06-2015, 02:25 PM
 
Location: New-Dentist Colony
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We are not that much alike. Even our sex is opposite.
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Old 05-06-2015, 02:51 PM
 
Location: Somewhere in America
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I was struck by this just today. We enjoy the same TV shows pretty much. We've always had very similar values and priorities. But today, I also notice we often order the same food. We were at IHOP, and just had the exact same thing, even right down to have the eggs over easy. Its weird sometimes, but nice. We rarely fight over anything.
How do you think we started dating?
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Old 05-06-2015, 04:53 PM
 
Location: State of Washington (2016)
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My husband and I were friends for years before we fell in love (second marriage for both of us). We have a lot in common and a shared history. One of my sisters married his younger brother, so sometimes when I am introducing him to someone, I'll say "This is my brother-in-law, _____________," and give him a big kiss on the lips.
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Old 05-06-2015, 04:57 PM
 
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I was struck by this just today. We enjoy the same TV shows pretty much. We've always had very similar values and priorities. But today, I also notice we often order the same food. We were at IHOP, and just had the exact same thing, even right down to have the eggs over easy. Its weird sometimes, but nice. We rarely fight over anything.

Mr. CSD and I are not alike on much. I hate the television and he loves it.
I smoke and he doesn't. We always order different food and drinks.
We wear different colors with clothing. We like different things as far as movies, museums, etc.
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Old 05-06-2015, 05:05 PM
 
Location: California
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I'm not sure we are so much alike but have smoothed out each other's rough edges over the years.
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Old 05-06-2015, 05:52 PM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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DH and I have learned to like some things together. I think this is good in a long term relationship. But we are quite different people in temperament, talents, modes of thinking, abilities. We do share some solid basic values though.

What is gratifying in our relationship is how we know what the other is thinking many times, and how we both think about a shared experience under certain circumstances. We've been together a long time, so we have developed a sixth sense about each other.

We have talked about how we've learned from each other. We understand that how we navigate the world is different. But we've learned to appreciate the strengths these different ways of thinking bring into our relationship.
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Old 05-06-2015, 08:44 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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My husband of almost 40 years (plus 8 years of dating) are different in many ways. He is a very conservative Republican and I am a Democrat. He goes to church four to six times a week and that is about how often I go every 20 years. I love to travel and he doesn't. He is horrible with money (thank heaven for dual signature joint checking accounts) and I'm constantly needing to bail him out of financial disasters.

However, we both agreed on most parenting skills and we love each other very much. And, that is all that matters.
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Old 05-07-2015, 03:05 AM
 
Location: Canada
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Liking the same things, sharing the same values, enjoying the same activities... that's what makes long, happy marriages.
(6 years of dating, and 37 great years married, here)

Even scarier, my husband and I even sound the same when we talk...Many people start talking to one of us, thinking it is the other on the phone. It is to the point one of our grown sons has made the same mistake when we first answer the phone. Our son: "hi Dad", Me: "OMG, nope, this is mom" LOL
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