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Old 05-05-2015, 09:30 PM
 
Location: Northern Wisconsin
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I was struck by this just today. We enjoy the same TV shows pretty much. We've always had very similar values and priorities. But today, I also notice we often order the same food. We were at IHOP, and just had the exact same thing, even right down to have the eggs over easy. Its weird sometimes, but nice. We rarely fight over anything.
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Old 05-06-2015, 05:43 AM
 
Location: Near a river
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Better for you perhaps that your spouse is more like you than like her mother, LOL.
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Old 05-06-2015, 06:04 AM
 
Location: Near a river
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We've always had the same big interests, ever since we got together in college as fine arts/graphic design majors. From a very young age, 19 and 21, we've shared a passion for (and have made, exhibited and sold) visual art, and we love classical and chamber music (traditional and contemporary), opera, same kinds of films. I dislike certain composers whereas he loves them. He would not attend a jazz concert or dance performance whereas I do. I go to writers' readings whereas he'd fall asleep at one.

We do disagree a lot, mostly how to approach major undertakings (he, in his head calmly intuitive and me, overly thinking and too much planning).

We both love going to Maine and often look at each other (any time of year) as if to say let's play hooky and hop in the car and...

As seniors we both live for our dogs and take good care of them. Oh and our kids and grandkids, the loves of our lives. When we're with them we're definitely on the same page.

We rarely argue anymore. We seem to understand how important it is to keep the peace at our age. We try to stay healthy by our mutual interest in good food and being outdoors. He gardens, I watch from my chair in the shade.

Renovating an old forlorn house has been one of our passions. We have a similar vision about how to do that. We are do-it-yourselfers on a carefully planned (moi) budget and have brought to life three houses, and no more!

Not sure we're meant for each other though, lol.
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Old 05-06-2015, 06:30 AM
 
Location: Nebraska
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My wife of 30 years is my twin. We like to eat the same things, watch the same TV shows and movies, and have the same interests for discussions. We almost never argue about anything. Some times we are sitting around and start talking about the same subjects simultaneously.

We spend 15-20 hours a day together. When my wife craves something special to eat, I will automatically make the 25 mile drive to town to get it for her, she will do the same for me.

We are amazingly alike.
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Old 05-06-2015, 06:46 AM
 
Location: Orange County
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No way. Different foods and different TV shows.
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Old 05-06-2015, 06:47 AM
 
Location: Minnesota/ Las Vegas
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My wife (39 years this week) has always been my best friend too.
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Old 05-06-2015, 09:31 AM
 
Location: Out there somewhere...a traveling man.
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My wife of 30 years is my twin. We like to eat the same things, watch the same TV shows and movies, and have the same interests for discussions. We almost never argue about anything. Some times we are sitting around and start talking about the same subjects simultaneously.

We spend 15-20 hours a day together. When my wife craves something special to eat, I will automatically make the 25 mile drive to town to get it for her, she will do the same for me.

We are amazingly alike.
^^^Same here, that's why we married each other.
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Old 05-06-2015, 12:00 PM
 
Location: We_tside PNW (Columbia Gorge) / CO / SA TX / Thailand
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We are very different and no TV! But... we enjoy / tolerate similar interests.
We are both frugal, give generously of time and money, and seriously into travel... (will eat / spend minimally to travel / gift more). No questions about our 'purpose / pursuits'.

We are happy to be very are different and can use that diversity to benefit each other (sometimes a stretch) and our friends / service work to others.

We each respect our space and responsibilities (eldercare / siblings). Some yrs we are apart a lot to meet individual responsibilities. (8 months apart last yr, met every other month in some country or another to rest and do a service project for others / family)

35 yrs this week (we are pretty young at this). Learning more about forgiveness / grace each day. MUCH more mellow these days. Crisis' will come

trust = 100% (in decisions and relationship). Neither one of us are willing to put another spouse through this battle! We will not live long enough to 'train' up another. (Or change each other).
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Old 05-06-2015, 12:12 PM
 
Location: East of Seattle since 1992, originally from SF Bay Area
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For us it's just over 40 years. While I think you must have a lot in common to stay together that long, we still maintain our own individual differences, and sometimes compromise is required. That's how I end up following her into quilt shops, while she will come with me to car shows. For those TV shows that only one of us enjoys, we simply record on the DVR and watch when the other is not around. If she wants to see a "chick flick" she can go with one of our adult daughters or a friend. When I'm fishing she can sit and read. I like cooking and she doesn't mind doing the dishes, so in some ways we compliment each other for the best.
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Old 05-06-2015, 12:43 PM
 
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Yep; and I have long been meaning to sit her down and have a long talk with her about it. Quite borrowing my stuff woman; I'll title it.
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