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Old 05-13-2015, 08:51 PM
 
Location: Surf City, NC
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I just can't get over the statement that you are 45 and have launched 8 kids. When did you start - at 12? And how well launched are these progeny? Many a retirement has been Ruined by boomerangs.
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Old 05-13-2015, 11:37 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Just curious but where do you volunteer? not many people volunteer so that's nice
I volunteer in the public schools. I read aloud for 30 minutes once a week to six different fifth grade classes at three different schools and conduct a lunch-time chess club at two different middle schools. The reading aloud will be cut (by me) to five different classes at two different schools for the coming school year because I was finding the schedule a bit heavy and I don't want to burn out on a very enjoyable activity.
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Old 05-14-2015, 01:20 PM
 
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I volunteer in the public schools. I read aloud for 30 minutes once a week to six different fifth grade classes at three different schools and conduct a lunch-time chess club at two different middle schools. The reading aloud will be cut (by me) to five different classes at two different schools for the coming school year because I was finding the schedule a bit heavy and I don't want to burn out on a very enjoyable activity.
Sounds wonderful!
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Old 05-14-2015, 02:32 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Sounds wonderful!
Thank you for the kind words. I feel thankful and fortunate to have found something which I find so gratifying.
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Old 05-14-2015, 06:34 PM
 
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I just can't get over the statement that you are 45 and have launched 8 kids. When did you start - at 12? And how well launched are these progeny? Many a retirement has been Ruined by boomerangs.
LOL. 17...with twins. We're a Brady bunch family though. I only provided half of the kids

Both me and my wife left home at a early age. And we're not accepting boomerangs anymore. I think the last kid who mooched off us for 3 years soured us on that. Plus moving into a RV will probably discourage that just a tad

As for how well launched....
1 is probably moving out next month, and is the last one. Thats the primary reason for not doing this before. Of the rest lets see:
1 does in home care.
1 is homeless (see mooch). Not well launched at all. Long story. I wish him the best, but when he made it clear he wasn't going to work because it was too hard, took art classes to meet my requirement of going to college, but then had issues doing that cause it was boring, and wouldn't choose the other choice of joining the military I made it clear I was no longer supporting him. But very long story. Oddly enough he seems happy doing the homeless thng as he has traveled, seen places, and basically not had to work.
1 is finishing up her degree in about 2 terms
1 is happily married, doing very well. no kids.
1 is living in a travel trailer while he works construction.
1 is living with her bio mom, and looking for work. I worry about this one.
1 is living on his own, but considering joining the air force.
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Old 05-16-2015, 12:12 PM
 
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Considering a change in lifestyle/early retirement for me and the wife. She's disabled, And Im a software engineer for a large well known multinational. We have a house with a mortgage. I work, and earn a very comfortable wage. However the sheer expenses of the mortgage, and all the other bills associated with things means I am not getting ahead like I would like too. And work is....lets just be charitable and call it stressful. while I am making very good money Im not actually enjoying much of anything in life. The last kid of 8 is looking at moving out this coming summer. I no longer have a responsibility to provide a home for my children.

So we are considering a working retirement. Basically we want to sell the large home, purchase a RV add in 30-40K in customizations, and travel in it, camping on BLM lands, and keeping our expenses as low as possible. While...relaxing. Looking at it, we could sell the house, buy a large RV custom designed for boondocking (ie living in a area without power, water, etc provided), and still have about 50K left, in addition to a guaranteed income of about 700/month. I figure we could manage anywhere from 3-4 years with no other income if we were frugal. Obviously since we are 45 that would be a horrible plan if we weren't thinking of the future. So the plan is...I will take a year to see if I can write some software of my own to make money with, she will work on her books (she has been published-but not for a large income). At the end of that year we will re-evaluate, and if we aren't making it or staying at the same level then I will go back to work.

For me, working for myself, doing the software projects *I* want...thats retirement. I actually can't imagine NOT working or doing anything. But the idea of doing what I want...thats heaven.

You can look at it a couple ways...I want to live in a very large van...down by the river....Or you can consider it exchanging a high stress lifestyle with no actual life, for a life of relaxing in the forest while coding software.

Has anyone done something similar to this on the boards here?
I was / am semi retired, did as you want to do. As I worked for w2 income, 40 hours investing for the goal of early retirement, at the same time I also worked to establish a small business. Eventually I phased my job out. I say was because the business took off. I ended up working more than I did when I was a W2 worker. As the company became even more successful I hired employees. Eventually my husband retired (52), and I semi-retired. the last step, one mortgage payment left, everything in place, good health, income and the plan to travel, my lifelong dream about to come true.... then my mother had a massive stroke and now needs 24/7 care. My plans and dream are now over. Even though she is considered barely above poverty she can't get government help so not only do I support my family I have to pay home health aids to help us take care of my mother. Yes, a doomer, but told to say, it never goes as planned so you may as well do it while you can.

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Old 05-16-2015, 09:19 PM
 
Location: Surf City, NC
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LOL. 17...with twins. We're a Brady bunch family though. I only provided half of the kids

Both me and my wife left home at a early age. And we're not accepting boomerangs anymore. I think the last kid who mooched off us for 3 years soured us on that. Plus moving into a RV will probably discourage that just a tad
That makes some sense. See, I was one of eight, but we were all singletons born to the same mother over a 10 year span and she didn't start until she was 23. She was 55 and my dad 57 when my youngest sister graduated college. There were a few boomerangs and a lot of babysitting grandchildren in the years after that. There is always one problem child in a group like that, I think. Ours is still haunting my mother with his financial needs.
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