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Old 05-12-2015, 02:57 PM
 
Location: Maryland
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To the OP: The most significant activity I ever accomplished was to kill the enemy in Viet Nam as a Marine infantry grunt. I was, by all accounts, fairly good at it. My killing saved a lot of my fellow Marine's lives.

Peace time - raised some very squared away daughters, got them launched into successful lives and have never looked back.

In my humble view - the measure of one's life is: Did one stand to honor, take care of your tribe and do one's duty? If the answer is yes - die happy, as will I. JMO
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Old 05-12-2015, 03:08 PM
 
Location: SW US
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I partially agree with this. I have a large well researched tree; I was lucky to have a few branches where the family stayed in one area for several generations. I have portraits of every male in my surname line back to the Revolutionary War. I know what they looked like, what they did, who they married, when they were born and when they died. I have a smattering of other facts about them. But I don't really know what they were like. I don't feel close to them and while I am not ashamed of my heritage, their cotton "farms" are not something I brag about. In other branches where I know more about immigrants only a few generations back, I don't feel like I should be researching traditions or seeking out others with similar heritage. I know what clans I can claim on St Patty's day but I feel no desire to visit because of my lineage. Anyway, IMO, just having people be able to find limited info about you isn't the sort of accomplishment the OP was looking for.
Was it not an accomplishment to take a sea voyage lasting months with two toddlers, to offer a better life to the descendants like my father's ancestors? Was it not significant to have fought in the Revolutionary War? Or to have fought with both brothers in the Civil War, all wounded and disabled for the remainder of their days? Was it not an accomplishment for my great aunt to be the first in her family to come to America, alone in steerage on a long voyage, thus offering a better future to her children, and then bringing her sister from Europe to start her family here too? etc. etc. It seems to me that these things, which most if not all of our ancestors accomplished, are worthy of our remembering, and of our thanks.
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Old 05-12-2015, 03:39 PM
 
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I've sort of been contemplating a related issue....

My mom passed away in Oct. and an aunt you helped raise me died in 2006. I handled their care arrangements and finances.
I'm single, never married, no kids (three siblings and 15 nieces/nephews, 4 grand nieces/nephews, and a host of cousins, and friends and acquaintances.

And I've been feeling like "I've done what I was put here to do." NOT that I'm ready to die. NOT that I'm ready to go. BUT I am at peace, and IF I WERE to die, I could be OK with that.

BUT, I must admit, that after AT FIRST thinking to myself, I've done what I was put her to do... I am NOW thinking that...well, clearly as far as G-d goes, I must have some reason to still be here.....cause I'm here. SO..... there must be more for me to do...even if I PERSONALLY don't know what that is...yet. It could be as simple as....keep living the life I am and blessing the lives of the people I know, love and meet....with a smile, gesture, listening, or whatever our interaction is.

As for as "accomplishments" I have a Master's Degree, and a career and lifestyle that some might envy. I've lived and studied abroad, and done other travel. I've met and talked with a few accomplished and famous people along the way. I have loving family and friends. Not bad, I'd say......not bad at all. Other than WISHING that I was monetarily rich/wealthy enough so I didn't have to work....or at least could retire NOW.....i'd say life is -- in fact.....pretty good, no, VERY good.

(More and more I try to look at what I HAVE, versus comparing myself to others who have MORE, and dwelling on what I don't have...because that's no good for me mentally. As a passing thought, I suppose wishing I were Bill Gates rich, or even lottery jackpot rich is OK...but how does OBSESSING about that help? It doesn't. .....which reminds me I have some lottery tickets to check)
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Old 05-12-2015, 04:26 PM
 
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No accomplishments are lasting; all glory is fleeting. Therefore, the only thing that matters is that you did as little harm as possible while on your journey. All the rest is noise.
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Old 05-12-2015, 06:29 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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No accomplishments are lasting; all glory is fleeting. Therefore, the only thing that matters is that you did as little harm as possible while on your journey. All the rest is noise.
Doing as little harm as possible, as important as that is (VERY important), is essentially passive. Wouldn't you agree that efforts to help others (a positive undertaking) also matter (and are more than noise)?
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Old 05-12-2015, 07:31 PM
 
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Doing as little harm as possible, as important as that is (VERY important), is essentially passive. Wouldn't you agree that efforts to help others (a positive undertaking) also matter (and are more than noise)?
While I, of course, agree with your sentiment, the minute we start talking about doing good the beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Though to be fair, at some level the same can be leveled at do no harm. As to passivity, I find doing no harm to be anything but passive: it takes much energy/forethought.
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Old 05-12-2015, 08:13 PM
 
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Accept Him or not, we will all stand before Him one day. Am I wrong? I'd rather have Him and not need Him then need Him and not have Him.
Agreed. Err...strictly because I'm such an elitist snob, that there last comment of yours is also neatly argued as "Pascal's Wager", lol! Pls. forgive my persnicketyness.
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Old 05-12-2015, 09:36 PM
 
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I am not a senior citizen ( late 30s here) but I feel as if I measure my own life strictly by how much I enjoy my time. Thats all.
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Old 05-13-2015, 04:11 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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I agree that for 99% of us, all accomplishments are fleeting and no glory is lasting, as most of us are not Galileo's or Mozart's.

However, even as I recognize that fact in my own case, looking back on my admittedly less-than-earth-shaking accomplishments gives me a deep sense of satisfaction. Just one example: learning to fly private airplanes was a real achievement and a deep joy. That, and some other things, are so worthwhile to me as an individual that it doesn't much matter that they are fleeting and will be more or less meaningless after my death.
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Old 05-13-2015, 05:19 AM
 
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There is a difference between being remembered and accomplishing things in life. Our accomplishments can have a positive effect on ourselves and others without being of such a magnitude that they are remembered for generations.
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