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Old 05-18-2015, 05:16 PM
 
Location: it depends
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Just make sure it's a rescue Dogs are a great way to get someone off the sofa. We have two and a 9 month old kitten. John has been retired for nearly two years now and my evil plan to keep him moving hatched long before he retired. Unfortunately I'm part of that being active plan and I still work nearly full time. I think I'm off the sofa way more then he is at this point.
get him a rescue widow.
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Old 05-18-2015, 05:36 PM
 
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Leave the man alone. It's his retirement. He can live it anyway he wants to live it. Why does he have to live up to anyone elses expectancy of what his retirement should be like?
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Old 05-18-2015, 06:31 PM
 
Location: Houston, TX
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Why sit around the house all day when they could be having sex? Isn't that why God invented Viagra?
Then after that comes the booze.
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Old 05-18-2015, 08:29 PM
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Location: Middle Tennessee
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My wife met a retired couple that did nothing but watch Fox News all day long and get all riled up and angry about "those people."

I'd rather be dead.
We have some longtime friends who have taken up doing that in retirement. So now every time we visit, we have to hear all about how President Obama has ruined the country. We don't visit them much any more.
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Old 05-18-2015, 08:37 PM
 
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Sure, let him decompress but then, if you want to keep him alive, get him interested in doing something. Women work all their lives too and they often work two full time jobs--one outside of the home and the other is cooking, cleaning, laundry and so on.

Women seem so be more health conscious so they worry when the husbands are couch potatoes. Men don't seem to worry so much so when the wife finally retires from her job, they don't complain. Anyway, the wife usually only retires from ONE of her jobs and she still has her at-home job to work at.

Get him the cutest, most active, rescue dog in the world. It will climb up on him and kiss him and nudge him to go for walks. It will need Daddy to take it to the vet, Daddy to throw its toy to retrieve, Daddy to feed it, Daddy to go to the pet food store and buy food and treats. It will go with Daddy in the car for rides. Pets can get someone interested in living again and give them a purpose in life. A dog will keep you active.
How about you get him nothing? Assuming he is not completely disabled he should be able to decide for himself what he wants to do with his time after working for forty or fifty years or more. How about the wife gets herself out of the house and finds something to do if she's unhappy watching him watch television? How about they get another television so he can watch ESPN as loud as he wants while she watches Oprah as loud as she wants? Why do people feel the need to control the lives of others?
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Old 05-18-2015, 08:46 PM
 
Location: NYC
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We have some longtime friends who have taken up doing that in retirement. So now every time we visit, we have to hear all about how President Obama has ruined the country. We don't visit them much any more.
I have a little game I play when I turn on FNC: I wait to see how long it takes before someone on the set blames Obama (or his administration) for something, it hardly matters what the subject is: they know who their audience is & design conversations to keep that audience happy. I rarely have to wait more than 3 minutes, I have never waited in double digits territory.

I would suggest a "Drinking with Barry" game using this technique to take shots but one would have a drinking problem in a very short time. It would be good for a party unless someone who takes FNC seriously is there. FNC does seem to have an overt agenda to scare old white people.
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Old 05-18-2015, 09:15 PM
 
Location: Florida
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I volunteered for 9 years, met a lot of folks and friends and enjoyed the social activities that we had. I left just before we moved back here.

A project many of us need to tackle is to go through our photos and sort them. With a scanner you can put them on DVDs with copies for the kids.
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Old 05-18-2015, 09:17 PM
 
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I believe retiring can be hard on both, at least it was for my parents. My mom finally wanted to enjoy being at home "puttering" as she called it. Dad wanted to travel. He was no couch potato he kept their house, cars and the neighborhood in tip top shape, but he was bored. I think that's what caused his heart attack and death. He was miserable. I think he would of been happier if he stayed working.

A couple needs to retire with the same wants and needs, imo.
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Old 05-18-2015, 09:25 PM
 
Location: Berkeley County
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Yardwork & Alcohol, problem solved!
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Old 05-18-2015, 10:28 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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I kind of think the whole headline isn't very respectful of either spouse.

It's not one spouse's job to "do with" (read, entertain) the other spouse. They are both supposedly adults, responsible for themselves.
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